What is BougieLand, you may ask?

BougieLand is my own little made up world where bougie isn't bad... it's beautiful. I've decided to embrace the positive aspects of bouge and own it. Bouge is love.

bou·gie Pronunciation: \ˈbü-ˌzhē, -ˌjē\ From Wikipedia & Merriam-Webster ya’ll: Bourgeoisie is a classification used in analyzing human societies to describe a social class of people. Historically, the bourgeoisie comes from the middle classes whose status or power came from employment, education, and wealth. In urban pop culture, the word bourgeoisie is shortened to "bougie.”


Adjective meaning extravagant, often to the point of snobbery. Usually used in relation to the conspicuous consumption of the urban upper-middle class.

I'm electing to remove the negative stereotype of bouge and embrace the beauty. Allow me to present (if I may)...

THE BOUGE RULES (what puts the bouge in bougie)

  1. Bougie is more than a way of life, it's a state of mind

  2. Bougie does not equal stuck-up, siddity & pretty... unless it does

  3. There's nothing wrong with being bougie if your heart is true to the bouge

  4. If you are true to the bouge, people will hate on you. You won't care, you are too busy being bougie

  5. You can be born bougie, you can marry into bougie and you can evolve into bougie

  6. You can be bougie and hood but not at the same time

  7. You are no longer bougie if you are completely ghetto (fabulous or not)

  8. You can be broke and bougie but bouge works better with bank

  9. Bouge brings responsibility. Do not shame your bouge brothers and sisters lest you be kicked up out the bouge circle

  10. Bouge is old school people, we don't hate... we congratulate.

To learn a little more, check out my post on What Bougie Is To Me and the ultimate Bougie Manifesto: Defending Our Blackness.


There is also a sliding scale of bouge:


As for the Rules of Engagement here in BougieLand... keep it real but keep it polite. Overt rudeness and attacks on other commenters will result in having your comment deleted, me issuing a warning and if need be blocking your ability to comment. We call this getting kicked out of BougieLand.  It doesn't happen often, don't let it happen to you.


More questions? Find me on Twitter, on Facebook, on Email or on my Michele Grant site or Tumblr.


What's with the purple pumps?


I'm a purple girl. I love all things purple... and I love shoes. Nuff said.


Can you give a short glossary of terms?




  • BnB= Black 'n Bougie also known as BougieLand
  • BougieCocktail Moment = An event (or holiday) worthy of lifting a toast
  • BougieTales = Stories, always true. Usually about my life or my bad dates or my bad dating life. Really just stories. 
  • Bougienistas = Visitors to BougieLand
  • BougiePass = Like a GhettoPass but you know, Bougie
  • Cocoa/Hot Chocolate = Euphemism for naked aerobic activity
  • Ex-SO = Former Significant Others
  • FAIL = things done poorly (also Epic Fail and Stratospheric Fail)
  • Just.Do.Better = An effort to avoid FAIL
  • NTTAWWT = Not That There's Anything Wrong with That
  • Shebacle = A marriage of shiggity and debacle
  • Shiggity (or bullshiggity) = manure, piles of it
  • Twitlandia = The majestic place known as Twitter
  • WBFDD = What Bougie Folks Don't Do
  • WBFFD = What Bougie Folks are Forced to Do
  • WBPD = What Bougie People Do
  • WDDDA = Where Dey Do Dat At?

I'm certain I've forgotten some. Now, let's review the basic bouge rules...




Blog Rule #1 – Bouge is Love, ya'll

I understand folks are passionate about some issues and I welcome a freely spirited debate. However, there will be no over the top racist, sexist (any -ist) comments posted up and through here. If that's what you feel like typing there are thousands of other blogs out there in Cyberspace... get to stepping and try one of those. While I don't believe in constant comment moderation/modification (and I really don't have that kind of time)... any comments that blatantly disregard that rule (like your comment is a borderline hate crime in the making) will be deleted... unapologetically. Yes, management reserves the right to refuse service to anyone at anytime for any reason. Keep it nice round these parts.




Blog Rule #2 – No Blogjacking 

Share and share alike in BougieLand but if your comments are soliloquy – stream of conscience thoughts that triple the word count of my posts… you need your own forum. You get once to share a great story, twice to make a great point. The urge to hijack the comments section should be suppressed. Also, if you have "lastworditis": the compulsion to always have the last word every single time, that's no bueno. 


So that's it, two rules. And I always (always) reach out to folks via email if they are near transgression-level shenanigans. For everyone else, keep the comments coming! 


That's it. You're all caught up. Enjoy and Welcome to BougieLand!


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