Friday, May 11, 2012
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
|I have so many questions about this picture. Why am I sitting in the fireplace like Cinderella? Why am I leaned up against logs like they are super comfortable? What am I reading? WHAT AM I WEARING? Le Sigh.|
1) I used to be quiet and self-contained. Now I'm reserved until I'm comfortable and then I speak my mind.2) I used to be a book worm. I still am.3) I used to be shy. Yeah, that ship set sail a while ago.4) I've been an optimist then a pessimist than an optimist again. I'm firmly in the between of those now.5) I used to be very sweet, seriously - I was a sweetheart. Now? I have my moments.6) I used to be gullible and a shade naive. Surprisingly, I still find that I'm shocked and awed at folks' shenanigans.7) I've never really been insecure but I've had different levels of security on different categories of my life. I worry a little less about the exterior more about the interior. I don't stress over who likes me and who doesn't. I don't worry about my career, it always works out in the end as it was meant to be. Same thing with relationships.8) I used to be a romantic. God help me, I still am.9) I wanted to be a writer. Then a lawyer, then a CEO and now? A writer. At last.10) My priorities were God and family first, s/o and friends seconds, then career and ambition, a whole bunch of other stuff and then me. These are pretty much the same though I've moved me into 2nd place..
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Monday, October 25, 2010
Talk amongst yourselves.
Saturday, October 02, 2010
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. I have intimate knowledge of this disease, it's no joke. BougieMom is a two-time breast cancer survivor for over fifteen years. Early detection, aggressive cutting-edge treatment and diligent follow-up aided in her recovery and survival. Basically, she kicked cancer's ass and said, "NOW who wants some?!" We send up multiple prayers for her continued good health.
Sunday, July 04, 2010
On this day in 1776, our marauding, slave-owning, pontificating forefathers (most of whom had been booted out of other countries) declared this here land they stole from brown folks a country. Happy Birthday, America! We is free… aren't we?
Friday, July 02, 2010
Friday, June 25, 2010
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Sunday, May 09, 2010
I've always had a healthy respect for Mothers (fathers too but today isn't about ya'll). My mother raised the four of us and had I been her; I would've thrown my hands up, asked what happened to my sweet-faced babies and walked away from the lot of us. As a matter of fact, there were days that BougieMom had clearly had it up to here with the lot of us. Growing up, we were in a house where the master suite was down a long halfway that had a door (with a lock) midway through. Some days Nellie Mae would retreat down that hallway and lock that door. We would stand at the door and knock calling out, "Mom!" She would reply (rather tartly), "She left town. Come back later." We knew she was too through with us and to leave her alone for a while. BougieDad would come home, see the door and say, "You kids send your mother out of town again?" We would nod shame-faced. He would swig his scotch and go on back there to repair whatever damage we'd done.
A few times she would just give us all The Look, toss her Harlequin in her purse and head out the door. Later, we found out she used to go up the street and just chill in a room at Holiday Inn for a few hours. I can respect that (more and more as I get older).
BougieMom would carry a kite stick in her Caddy. When folks got to acting up in her car, the stick came out and she would swat the hell out of whoever was acting up (or happened to be the path of the stick). One day, BougieYoungerBro and I decided we needed to do something about that stick. In the skewed logic only young children can have, we decided that if we painted the stick in her favorite nail polish she would love it too much to use it against us. (I don't know- we were delusional) So yes, he got the stick and I got the Revlon Frosted Cherry and we painted. Set it in a vice grip to dry overnight and then put it back in the car in the morning. The next time we were in the car, we got to tussling over something in the back seat and out came the stick. She took one look at that Frosted Cherry and may I say she broke the stick AND hurt her arm tearing us up that day. I can still hear her voice coming up through clenched teeth, "RUINED. MY. STICK. USED. UP. MY. GOOD. NAIL. POLISH!" Um, yeah – we didn't try that one again.
Lately, I've been babysitting my 3-year old BougieNephew. He's sweet as can be (when it's not naptime) and usually here for 6 – 9 hours. By hour 4, I'm ready to check into a Holiday Inn my darn self and there's only one of him.
Miz Nellie is now referred to as The Saint. Women of all ages flock to her and ask for advice, often punctuated with the awe-filled question, "How did you do it?" Out of the hood (serious hood) by age seventeen, double-degreed and married before 30 (back before that was doable). 45 years of marriage, 4 kids all degreed and breathing... she's still sane. Go 'head Nellie.
It's an awesome thing to make the supreme sacrifice that comes with motherhood and do it well. Literally your life is not 100% your own ever again. You are responsible for creating and molding human life. It really gets no more elemental than that. So hat tip, standing ovation and everlasting respect to all the moms, moms to be, grandmothers, aunties-acting-like-moms, and caregivers with no titles. Much respect and enjoy your day!
Anyone want to shout out their Mom today? Go for it… oh and of course... the mimosa recipe. (Please drink responsibly!)
Wednesday, May 05, 2010
Okay Bougienistas, before you throw back shots of Patron and hit the two-for-one taco buffet, do you know what you're celebrating? From Wiki:
Cinco de Mayo (Spanish for "fifth of May") is a voluntarily observed holiday that commemorates the Mexican army's unlikely victory over French forces at the Battle of Puebla on May 5, 1862, under the leadership of General Ignacio Zaragoza Seguín. It is celebrated primarily in the state of Puebla and in the United States. While Cinco de Mayo has limited significance nationwide in Mexico, the date is observed in the United States and other locations around the world as a celebration of Mexican heritage and pride. Cinco de Mayo is not Mexico's Independence Day, the most important national patriotic holiday in Mexico – that holiday is celebrated on September 16.
And while we're celebrating some Hispanic heritage – let's think about boycotting Arizona, a state trying like hell to remove all things "un-American". The new immigration law (State Senate Bill 1070) takes effect in less than 90 days. You can start by ignoring Dial soap, PF Changs, U-haul, Cold Stone Creamery, SkyMall, Circle K and SkyMall… to name a few. Even the Phoenix Suns are changing their jerseys to read "Los Suns" in support of the boycott. The cities of Tuscon and Flagstaff plan to sue over the new law. Get behind it people. Rev Al will be getting his protest on later this evening because as he says: "For it’s Hispanics today – and tomorrow it could be you."
Here's the recipe for those margaritas… please drink sensibly, tequila is nothing to play with:
2 quarts ice cubes
1 (12 fluid ounce) can frozen limeade concentrate
12 fluid ounces tequila (measure with empty limeade can)
1/4 cup Cointreau
margarita or kosher salt for the rims
lime slices cut in half
Working in 2 batches, place 1 quart ice cubes in a blender. Add 1/2 can limeade, 6 ounces tequila and 2 tablespoons Cointreau. Blend at highest speed until drink is almost smooth. Pour into a pitcher and repeat with remaining ingredients. Store in the freezer.
To salt the margarita glasses, pour a single layer of salt on a salad plate. Moisten each glass rim with lime; dip each rim in the salt. Pour margaritas into each glass; garnish with lime. Serve immediately.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Earth Day is a day designed to inspire awareness and appreciation for the Earth's environment. It was founded by U.S. Senator Gaylord Nelson as an environmental teach-in held on April 22, 1970. Earth Day is celebrated in spring in the Northern Hemisphere and autumn in the Southern Hemisphere. Earth Day Network, a group that wishes to become the coordinator of Earth Day globally, asserts that Earth Day is now observed on April 22 on virtually every country on Earth. World Environment Day, celebrated on June 5 in a different nation every year, is the principal United Nations environmental observance. Many communities also celebrate Earth Week, an entire week of environment-related activities, the first of which occurred in Philadelphia in 1970 (starting April 16 and culminating on Earth Day, April 22.)
There was a great article in the Washington Post on the evolution, history and current status of Earth Day. And footage from the first Earth Day in 1970 (apparently this looks strange in the IE browsers, click to enlarge):
We are recycling fiends over here at the BougieHousehold. I've actually gone quite anal about it. We recycle all glass, aluminum, plastic, paper and tech equipment. We've switched to the "good" light bulbs, we have reusable totes and I am the water nazi. Seriously, don't come to my house expecting to take an hour long shower… not gonna happen. We upgraded our last "old school" appliances (the washer and the dryer) to energy star machines. I have a jar of old batteries I'm trying to figure out how to environmentally dispose of. I have unplugged stuff that we don't use regularly – the toaster is highly decorative at this point. All of this and I understand, it's still not enough. Well, I can't afford the hybrid car I long for so that will have to wait.
What are you doing in celebration of Earth Day? What "green" measures have you taken to reduce your carbon footprint?
Here's a little Bougie Cocktail for ya. (please drink sensibly)
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Three simple words from President Barack Obama via Twitter: Yes we can. Prez 44 did something no modern era leader of the United States has been able to do… pass a bill beginning an overhaul of healthcare and allowing millions of uninsured Americans access to medical services that will not bankrupt them. NPR's article says it best: Obama Achieves Health Law Success That Eluded Past.
President Obama gave a brief conference after the passage. I wanted to see him come out to Big Daddy Kane's "I Get the Job Done" but that wasn't meant to be. He looked tired, worn but victorious. President Obama said that the House's vote on health care "wasn't an easy vote but it was the right vote." Speaking from the East Room of the White House, the president, who made health care reform a priority for his administration, said the vote wasn't a victory for a political party but for the American people. Obama said the reform plan won't fix everything wrong with the nation's health care system, "but it moves us decisively in the right direction." Here are the major points of the bill (from MSNBC):
And lest they be forgotten, here are the 34 jack-ass Democrats who did not back their President's play. They shall not be forgotten. Umm-hmm. We see ya'll:John Adler Jason Altmire Michael Arcuri John Barrow Marion Berry Dan Boren Rick Boucher Bobby Bright Ben Chandler Travis Childers Artur Davis Lincoln Davis Chet Edwards Stephanie Herseth Sandlin Tim Holden Larry Kissell Frank Kratovil Jr. Daniel Lipinski Stephen F. Lynch Jim Marshall Jim Matheson Mike McIntyre Michael E. McMahon Charlie Melancon Walt Minnick Glenn Nye Collin C. Peterson Mike Ross Heath Shuler Ike Skelton Zack Space John Tanner Gene Taylor Harry Teague
More work to be done but for tonight at least, pop a bottle and raise 'em up! My President keeps promises to the American people. How great is that?
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
So you can tell by my feeble effort on St. Patrick's today that it's not my favorite holiday. So I thought about it, what if I could make up a holiday of my own? Just create a day where people are celebrating where/how/when/why I wanted them to celebrate. Not a birthday or an anniversary, just a random day picked out on the calendar for the purposes of celebrating whatever I wanted.
If you haven't joined us on a Hashtag Wednesday, let me explain: On Twitter, people tend to accentuate their chatter by adding a topic or a phrase to the end. You tie the topics together by placing a "#" (called a hashtag) in front of it. For instance, when we tweet about A Different World, we would add #ADW somewhere in the statements. If enough people use the hashtag, it becomes a trending topic. Some of this week's trending topics were #HipHopSyllabus where people suggested classes that Hip-Hop artists should teach – Hammer teaching Fiscal Responsibility, Beyoncé teaching Advanced Acting, Kanye West teaching Etiquette… quite amusing.
So since I'm not feeling St. Patrick's Day… I thought I'd make up my own hashtag. So here we go:
- #MyPersonalHoliday would be called Bougenificence Day. A celebration of all things bouge.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would be on April 20th or the Friday closest to it because we need a day to bridge between Easter and Mother's Day and I'm all about a three-day weekend.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would have the colors of purple and green. It is MY holiday after all.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would be celebrated by Mardi Gras-style parties, balls and parades. I think we will need a national step-off and Ebony/Fashion Fair type Fashion Show as well. Hosted by Oprah.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would be toasted with White Chocolate Martinis or White Chocolate Mochas, drinker's choice. Grilled Salmon and Filet Mignon with broiled asparagus tips on a mixed-green salad - served everywhere (with 2 for 1 coupons).
- #MyPersonalHoliday would have cable channels playing Neo-Soul artists and New Jack/90s movie marathons. A 24 hour ban on BET... just because I can.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would need to be a National Holiday. I need banks closed and shops open. The joy of a Macy*s One-Day Bougenificence Sale – can you imagine?
- #MyPersonalHoliday would be headquartered in Martha's Vineyard or the Hamptons.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would include a traveling exhibit of bougie heroes, headlined by the Obamas.
- #MyPersonalHoliday would be awesome (doncha think?)
Okay, BougieLand – whatcha got? If you could make up your own personal holiday, what would it be called? Why? When would it be? How would we celebrate? Drinks? Colors? Do share…
Well it's a holiday, sort of. This is one of those holidays that started off with a purpose and ended up being a day that Americans use as an excuse to drink a lot (New Year's Eve, Cinco de Mayo, July 4th, you know). I actually had no idea what the historical basis of the holiday was. So here we go from Wikipedia:
Saint Patrick's Day (Irish: Lá Fhéile Pádraig) is a yearly holiday celebrated on March 17th. It is named after Saint Patrick (circa AD 387–461), the most commonly recognized of the patron saints of Ireland. It began as a purely Christian holiday and became an official feast day in the early 1600s. However, it has gradually become more of a secular celebration of Ireland's culture. It is believed that Saint Patrick's Day has been celebrated in Ireland since before the 1600s. It was also believed to have served as a one-day break during Lent, the forty day period of fasting. This would involve drinking alcohol; something which became a tradition.
Originally the color associated with Saint Patrick was blue. However, over the years the color green and its association with Saint Patrick's day grew. Green ribbons and shamrocks were worn in celebration of St Patrick's Day as early as the 17th century. He is said to have used the shamrock, a three-leaved plant, to explain the Holy Trinity to the pre-Christian Irish, and the wearing and display of shamrocks and shamrock-inspired designs have become a ubiquitous feature of the day.
In 1903, Saint Patrick's Day became an official public holiday in Ireland. Irish Society of Boston organized what was not only the first Saint Patrick's Day Parade in the colonies but the first recorded Saint Patrick's Day Parade in the world on March 18, 1737. The first celebration of Saint Patrick's Day in New York City was held at the Crown and Thistle Tavern in 1766, the parades were held as political and social statements because the Irish immigrants were being treated unfairly.
Today, Saint Patrick's Day is widely celebrated in America by Irish and non-Irish alike. Many people, regardless of ethnic background, wear green-colored clothing and items. Traditionally, those who are caught not wearing green are pinched affectionately.
Yeah, okay. I quit celebrating St. Patrick's Day with the general public since some super inebriated co-worker spewed projectile vomit in my direction ruining a gorgeous pair of teal green slingbacks. Me and the holiday fell right out love then and there.
But let me wrap on a positive note… Five things to love about St. Patrick's day…
- I look good in green
- Pear and Sour Apple Martinis (both being green) are in abundance
- Pierce Brosnan – he's Irish, I'll celebrate that
- March 17 usually means Spring is not far away
- Sean Connery! Oh, he's Scottish. Um – oh! Parades! Everyone loves a good parade.
That's all I got. Enjoy the day. Pear Martini recipe below. Any St. Patrick's Day thoughts?
Monday, March 08, 2010
International Women's Day (March 8) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. In some places like China, Russia, Vietnam and Bulgaria, IWD is a national holiday. Women's Day was first celebrated in the United States in 1909. Two years later, more than 1 million people attended events in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland during the first International Women's Day.
During International Women's Year in 1975, IWD was given official recognition by the United Nations and was taken up by many governments. International Women's Day is marked by a national holiday in China, Armenia, Russia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Bulgaria, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Macedonia, Moldova, Mongolia, Tajikistan, Ukraine, Uzbekistan and Vietnam.
This year, World leaders and international organizations are calling for more rights and opportunities for women in order to help solve many of the world's problems. The calls come as many parts of the world mark International Women's Day on Monday.
U.S. President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama are hosting a reception at the White House Monday to mark the occasion.
The Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe said Monday that peace and stability "can only be achieved with the participation of women as equal partners with men." At an event last week, U.N. Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon said the world body's goals "stand in jeopardy" because women are still subject to poverty and discrimination.
To find out about events in your area: click here. I'm headed to a chat about the role of Women in Media & Publishing. You can rest assured, I'm going all IN. Later in the week, look for a quiz to test your knowledge on Women's History. In the meantime, raise your glass up and toast a lady today. In the comments, feel free to shout out your favorite female. For those of you interested, the cocktail recipe is embedded below. Enjoy the day!
Friday, January 15, 2010
It's my favorite weekend of the year, ya'll. January 15th always brings a myriad of feelings for me. The 15th was my father's birthday, and yes – he loved the fact that he shared this day with Dr. King. He used to say that January 15th was a birthday for those destined for greatness. None of us dared side-eye him when he compared himself to a Civil Rights martyr. Hey, BougieDad was a hero to us. The next January 15 birthday belongs to my nephew who we have nicknamed Cisco. Just take one look at this face and tell me he isn't destined for greatness (or great mischief)? (or to slay females coast to coast – little playa already has two girlfriends – blonde twins… need we say more?)
Monday is my birthday. I only count the 5s and the 10s so just don’t worry about how old I am. My answer is old enough to know how, just wise enough to know better and young enough to still do it anyway. J My birthday usually falls on or around the “observed” MLK holiday and it’s always around NFL playoffs. It’s just far enough away from Christmas that I can guilt people into buying me another gift. As I said, it’s my favorite weekend of the year.
On a serious note, MLK Day has become so much more than a day to play speeches and “remember when”, the holiday is a National Day of Service where people of all ages, backgrounds, and abilities are encouraged to serve on King Day, and to make the day the beginning of an ongoing commitment to a cause that is meaningful to them and serves a need in their community. For ideas of where and how to serve, check out serve.gov. And just because this gives me goose bumps every time – a classic MLK clip:
Somewhere in the middle of the long weekend, serving the community, wishing me happy birthday, helping Haiti and watching football, raise up a toast in simple gratitude that you are still alive and free. I'll be wrapping up Movie Week tomorrow, Sunday night I'll be on BlogTalk Radio with guests AverageBro and Thembi. And yes, I have a special post already written for my birthday. Enjoy your weekend, be safe and well.
Michele's Fruitini recipe – drink at your own risk
2 shots flavored ice tea (I use Arizona Green Tea with Ginseng and Honey)
2 shots sprite or club soda or ginger ale (if you just want to kick it up a notch use a sweet champagne or sparkling moscato)
1 shot pear vodka
1 shot sour apple flavor schnapps
1 shot orange rum
1 shot peach schnapps
1 cup of crushed ice
Combine, shake with ice, serve and sip… slowly. Please drink responsibly! To up the fruitiness swap the tea for your favorite juice.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Yes, a Goodnight Kiss is a champagne cocktail. It's for our last Bougie Cocktail moment of the year… New Year's Eve. 2009 had it's ups and down but for some reason, in my mind it will always be a roller coaster year for me. Obama's Inauguration: Yippee! Michael Jackson's death: Booo! Sold my book: Woo-hoo! My HR Consulting company went on the rocks and I had to learn to survive on writer's salary: Booo! Started a blog, discovered Twitter: Hurray! People I never wanted to hear from again found me on Facebook: Booo! And so went the year.
At any rate, I'm back from vacation and recuperating from a little sinus flare-up (not digging the 6.5 hour wait in frigid Miami airport). But we'll get back to full-time blogging on Monday. Sunday night (8:00pm est), come through Blog Talk radio and listen in while me, Max Reddick, RiPPa and some special guests talk about this B*tch is the New Black bullshiggity and how to get it in for 2010. Two great posts I read on New Year's and resolutions:
- Fungke Blak Chick: It was the best of times, It was the worst of times
- What DC People Hate: Why I think New Year's Resolutions are Stupid
BougieMom is downstairs rattling pots with her annual black eyed pea contribution (at which point she announces that she is done cooking for the new year… yes, the entire year. She means it). I have something sparkly chilling in the fridge. In case you're feeling festive, here's the recipe for A Goodnight Kiss:
- 4 oz Champagne
- 1 splash Campari® bitters
- 1 sugar cube
- 1 drop Angostura® bitters
Those of you heading out for New Year's Eve – be careful out there! To all of you, I wish you all the best and Happy New Year!