tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post7742382446542765093..comments2009-09-24T09:38:17.200-05:00OneChelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12973077026088291338onechele@gmail.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-56155560573361045862009-09-24T09:38:12.000-05:002009-09-24T09:38:12.000-05:00BRAVO! BRAVO! I am with you. No one can read minds, so lay your cards on the table and lets work it out. If it can&#39;t be worked out, shake hands, cry tears and move on baby, move on.Velinda Millernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-64766604116990033142009-09-24T07:15:30.000-05:002009-09-24T07:15:30.000-05:00@ Cali chick who thinks her man is gay.  Trust your gut, it will never steer you wrong.  I went through a similar situation a few weeks ago.  I ask any man I date straight up, do you or have you ever had sexual relations with a man.  My intent is to provide an open dialogue where you dont feel like you have to lie to me.  This guy still chose to be deceptive, but the truth came out slowly.  You cant trust people these days, people just dont care....Always TRUST YOUR GUT.Guestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-14737622214845131572009-09-23T20:03:35.000-05:002009-09-23T20:03:35.000-05:00Co-sign!  If I don&#39;t get any for<strong> 3 days</strong>, I start giving the side-eye (j/k)!Phenomenalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-46568866933030754232009-09-23T19:12:35.000-05:002009-09-23T19:12:35.000-05:00This is true glamah! You have to get to a point where you trust your own judgmentAmy is herenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-74416641188217089992009-09-23T19:10:23.000-05:002009-09-23T19:10:23.000-05:00I always believe in followinf that nagging feeling in your gut. Intuition doesnt lie.glamahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-65611862862732022632009-09-23T18:53:06.000-05:002009-09-23T18:53:06.000-05:00Wow, ya&#39;ll went all in today. I have only had to be Junior Detective once, but I never will again. Next time I&#39;ll see it coming and cut it off at the pass.Jayceenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-62700170120369964502009-09-23T16:49:44.000-05:002009-09-23T16:49:44.000-05:00no you didn&#39;t say &quot;ride the rainbow&quot;! I.am.weak!Reads4Pleasurenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-59173181429709039272009-09-23T16:39:58.000-05:002009-09-23T16:39:58.000-05:00People started to take these comments real personally. To Raine - &quot;history of creep&quot; is nuff said. Tanya - whether he&#39;s gay or not, you are obviously unhappy. Nothing legal keeping you there, get out.Geoffnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-80992020222397643062009-09-23T15:21:00.000-05:002009-09-23T15:21:00.000-05:00Heard of that expression, having your cake and eating it too? &lt;--- made up for menAngelaMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-61344078731814105432009-09-23T15:18:22.000-05:002009-09-23T15:18:22.000-05:00what is with the cheating anyway? If you want out, just go.JaneknowsJanenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-89333464561227470172009-09-23T15:03:57.000-05:002009-09-23T15:03:57.000-05:00So now I&#39;m a little boy for calling a woman out? I&#39;m not saying a man should cheat. I&#39;m saying there are things a woman can do to make him less likely to chat.Troynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-20090991277457981212009-09-23T14:51:37.000-05:002009-09-23T14:51:37.000-05:00OKAY! Let me set my bouge aside for a second - Yes - bruthas gone all undercover with the cheating, we gotta fight fire with fire. Oh I&#39;m supposed to fall back while you are running around the country with random broad? not gonna happen. Best bet, don&#39;t do anything to make me suspicious. Better yet - DON&#39;T CHEAT! I will check your cell phone, trust and believe.SBChiTownChicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-50988363999416570402009-09-23T14:39:28.000-05:002009-09-23T14:39:28.000-05:00Im going to tell yall the only way I was goin to find out my man of 2 years was cheating..I CHECKED THE INFO. I would have NEVER known had i not checked him out. How could I have, the girl was living in Cali (im on the east coast)<br /><br />Just like the Ashanti song, he left the sidekick on the nightstand and I read everything he did and everything he said.<br /><br />I remember prior to that I specifically asked him who the girl was and why she always contacted him. He said &quot;Oh she lives in cali..someone i met in the military&quot;. He got a DVD in the mail that said Happy 6 mos and again lied and said that was to 6 months of good friendship. The lies are too many to go on. I was convinced I was being paranoid and that it was damaging our relationship..so I fell back.<br /><br />Only when I saw the emails and letters and naked pics did I find the truth. I called her and we had a long nice talk about his indescretions.<br /><br />Sometimes you gotta be That chick..FTW on that one....true2menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-67491160444074991542009-09-23T14:38:33.000-05:002009-09-23T14:38:33.000-05:00It&#39;s important to remember that just as you wouldn&#39;t hold onto an investment that was rapidly losing value (think real estate or stock market tanking quicker than I type this sentence), you shouldn&#39;t hold onto a relationship that&#39;s toxic, rapidly losing value or has you acting COMPLETELY out of character.  I know that some women dream of the ring and the dress, and to them I say buy yourself a beautiful dress and a ring.  Marriage is about so much more than a ring and dress, and any woman in the position of these 2 women are better off with their self esteem/self respect, than a ring you eventually have made into earrings and a dress that collects dust in your basement. Don&#39;t be the investor who holds onto a stock that&#39;s in freefall waiting on it to rebound, and in the end all you have to show for it are losses and regret.  Sell the stock (kick homie to the crub) and use what you have left to invest in your next relationship or yourself.The Ladynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-81526062406354286772009-09-23T14:38:16.000-05:002009-09-23T14:38:16.000-05:00First time here. TMCY responded with some sanity, Ojo is a little off, SBM kinda radical and all about the &quot;smashing&quot;, OneChele LOL with the &quot;you can&#39;t ride the rainbow and ride me&quot;Guestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-15284454716123688942009-09-23T14:36:37.000-05:002009-09-23T14:36:37.000-05:00troy, u suspect.  your last sentence <em>(&quot;he&#39;s going to go ahead and make that decision&quot;</em>)...exactly, the man is CHOOSING to dip out on his girl.  so your idea of any woman <em>pushing</em> a man to cheat is, to be frank, juvenile.  are you not in contol of your own actions?  real men just end it and move on.  lil boys still like to keep their toys close by while they indicisively try to stay entertained by both [women].natural nubiannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-59246107688379224722009-09-23T14:34:17.000-05:002009-09-23T14:34:17.000-05:00Thank you UdontKnow and thank your bougie girlfriend.OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-4373682948377967052009-09-23T14:32:49.000-05:002009-09-23T14:32:49.000-05:00Oh Riley, BougieLand is not perfect... we just aspire to be. ;)OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-13078444671103828072009-09-23T14:31:32.000-05:002009-09-23T14:31:32.000-05:00Wow that&#39;s harsh. Troynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-69818371723144630322009-09-23T14:30:34.000-05:002009-09-23T14:30:34.000-05:00I draw a line in the sand on cheating. If I even suspect it, I&#39;m out. Lisellenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-41067445945010145192009-09-23T14:27:51.000-05:002009-09-23T14:27:51.000-05:00I think the first guy, Thomas, just sounds like he&#39;s found another woman and his &#39;boy&#39; is running cover for him. Oprah really did a disservice to Black women with that DL crap. Anyway it really shouldn&#39;t matter if he&#39;s cheating with a man or a woman. If he&#39;s cheating then he&#39;s cheating period. The question is what is Tanya going to do?Guestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-20712603647330601352009-09-23T14:14:24.000-05:002009-09-23T14:14:24.000-05:00Co-sign with Udont. Stop complicating things, ladies. JaysDaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-83098829030621237252009-09-23T14:11:54.000-05:002009-09-23T14:11:54.000-05:00My bougie girlfriend sent me over here to read this blog - let me rep the straight guy. If a woman asks you if you are gay and you aren&#39;t immediately responding in the negative, somethings up. Ladies, if your man isn&#39;t coming home to you at night that&#39;s all you need to know. No forensics needed. Its that simple. oh, nice blog by the way.UdontKnowMeLikeDatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-75875462026707205452009-09-23T14:04:04.000-05:002009-09-23T14:04:04.000-05:00WHOA, as Lil Wayne said - Tha Block is HOT! &lt;span style=&quot;text-decoration: underline;&quot;&gt;Note to self&lt;/span&gt;: infidelity is a BougieLand hot button. Let me take a moment to thank Ojo, SBM and Damon for contributing. Let me welcome any new folks and thank the former lurkers for speaking out. <br /><br />In my opinion, this isn&#39;t about fault. That&#39;s where a lot of relationships get hung up. The finger pointing and the fault finding. Takes two people to make one and two people to break one. This is about coming to terms with a decision I believe both of these ladies have already made. But ya&#39;ll go on ahead and battle it out. OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-88918081715783744132009-09-23T13:51:18.000-05:002009-09-23T13:51:18.000-05:00Rob- He had the benefit of the doubt the FIRST time. Raine said he had a history. You want us to give the benefit of the doubt or play the fool?AngelaMnoreply@blogger.com