tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post2354766118831380386..comments2009-10-09T23:18:21.307-05:00One Chelehttps://profiles.google.com/109555230009180340423noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-22621317055881302052009-10-09T23:18:20.000-05:002009-10-09T23:18:20.000-05:00You have a bougienista in training?  And they were worried about Obama using community service to build an army? ha haCitizen Ojonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-81876080461867684342009-10-08T17:12:20.000-05:002009-10-08T17:12:20.000-05:00Go girl... great commentOneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-35205308743447248282009-10-08T17:11:52.000-05:002009-10-08T17:11:52.000-05:00LOL at the Man in the Mirror reference... Classic!OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-41885278060061931992009-10-08T17:11:04.000-05:002009-10-08T17:11:04.000-05:00I&#39;m assuming you saw my pic on Twitter or www.MicheleGrant.net and not stalking me! Thanks!OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-68108818971199666312009-10-08T17:09:37.000-05:002009-10-08T17:09:37.000-05:00That&#39;s a great point, thanks and welcome.OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-69350412593578788642009-10-08T17:09:05.000-05:002009-10-08T17:09:05.000-05:00You are welcome and that is SO trueOneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-26964839098543898122009-10-08T16:10:37.000-05:002009-10-08T16:10:37.000-05:00Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You just wrote what I&#39;ve been thinking for years. Can&#39;t say it, though, since then one is labelled as a complainer. Heaven forbid.Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-54053354143661438872009-10-08T15:57:48.000-05:002009-10-08T15:57:48.000-05:00I hate the casual way that the word bitch is thrown around. Not directing this at you since you use it in context. But it&#39;s really an ugly word, people need to think about their words more carefully. And in most cases, if it&#39;s something you wouldn&#39;t want your mother or sister called, hold onto that.Violet Rosenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-24645292792682080372009-10-08T15:28:38.000-05:002009-10-08T15:28:38.000-05:00BTW @OneChele FTW on the haircutDerek Lovenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-28205632719770201102009-10-08T15:20:53.000-05:002009-10-08T15:20:53.000-05:00Also new to your blog. Much as hate to wade into male vs. female dynamics, unfortunately OneChele the attitudes and actions you&#39;ve described still prevail all too frequently. And as Carey said below, the change has to start one man at a time. It&#39;s simple, I love the ladies and the ladies like a man who can respect them as equals and scrub a toilet, I do what I gotta do.Derek Lovenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-61721060104203931262009-10-08T14:29:19.000-05:002009-10-08T14:29:19.000-05:00Hey - shout out to Sasha for sending me to the site, LOVE it! I&#39;m considered this big feminista bitch at work because I always make sure I am heard and understood. Apparently standing up for myself equals bra-burning radical. :-( I think things are changing because we keep reminding people that they have toApple Berry in MIAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-85060656051632302682009-10-08T14:26:16.000-05:002009-10-08T14:26:16.000-05:00You know what? You made some excellent points with the last few sentences. Why is important for us to adapt to how they are stereotypically, but they can&#39;t adapt to us. I&#39;d personally like to see some of those roles be readjusted and evaulated. Women are no longer as oppressed as they used to be, so some things can be more equal. Of course utimately men and women are different, but not as different as we were taught.true2menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-27953142506676374392009-10-08T13:56:27.000-05:002009-10-08T13:56:27.000-05:00Man&#39;sWorld - I so want to play a chorus of Man in the Mirror for you right now. FYI - that argument  you broke off is the same one they used for slavery and keeping black folks down.... not to get all deep on you, I now you like to swim in the shallow end of the pool. back to MJ - It&#39;s up to YOU to MAKE THAT CHANGE... sh&#39;mon!CareyinCaramelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-30914359109324953272009-10-08T13:51:56.000-05:002009-10-08T13:51:56.000-05:00Ain&#39;t nothin&#39; changed and you ain&#39;t nevah lied.daisynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-53328950265823333872009-10-08T13:51:08.000-05:002009-10-08T13:51:08.000-05:00When we call it a man&#39;s world - it&#39;s not a knock - it&#39;s truth. The country was founder for and by men, that&#39;s jus thte way the world works. Not saying it&#39;s right - that&#39;s how it is.Man's Worldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-2832062316233091642009-10-08T13:42:29.000-05:002009-10-08T13:42:29.000-05:00Andrea &amp; Riley - play nice, kids.OneChelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-10301971672283894542009-10-08T13:31:36.000-05:002009-10-08T13:31:36.000-05:00So on point, prior to marriage I made it very clear that I was no superwoman,nor would I be the longer suffering save the world black woman. My career has been very fruitful and I refuse to go on and on about certain things. You don&#39;t want to wash your laundry, or clean?  That&#39;s fine, then you pay for the housekeeper. You don&#39;t want to spend your weekends cutting grass and planting &quot;a bunch of frickin flowers&quot;. That&#39;s fine to, pay the landscaper as well. The double standard does exist, it&#39;s all in how you deal. At work, I&#39;m not apologizing for any of my emotions. While I&#39;m not having lifetime movie moments, I&#39;m not cold as ice and refuse to force myself to put up that front to make everyone else comfortable. Chloenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-37483838871790887312009-10-08T12:20:01.000-05:002009-10-08T12:20:01.000-05:00Boooooo, no evolution, its the same crap, diffirent toilet.Velinda Millernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-19646635652650388482009-10-08T12:13:29.000-05:002009-10-08T12:13:29.000-05:00Limp?AndreaMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-4994885342149727032009-10-08T12:13:14.000-05:002009-10-08T12:13:14.000-05:00Hi there, new here. It&#39;s funny, most of your posts are all calm and tame then your commenters go berserk on each other. LMAO. Anyway, bougienista in training, thank you for the term (yes, I bought T-shirt) and I don&#39;t think men are going to evolve until women make them. I know they had the thought of being trained or housebroken but really, the only way to make some one do better is to show them what they&#39;re doing wrong and show them how to do it right.Pure Choconoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-63445798250487482712009-10-08T12:11:26.000-05:002009-10-08T12:11:26.000-05:00LOLVelinda Millernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-8926317940668107212009-10-08T12:09:51.000-05:002009-10-08T12:09:51.000-05:00<strong></strong><em>HECK.TO.THE.YEAH.!!!!</em> BougieCousin, you have brother&#39;s, you have worked in a male dominated field, and you have lived life, you know the answer is a hands down yes. Men get away with way more mess then women can even begin to think to get away with. We do have our wiles and do have a few things that our XY friends can&#39;t but at the end of the day, the standards are doubled.Velinda Millernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-91544630143616409682009-10-08T12:04:35.000-05:002009-10-08T12:04:35.000-05:00LameThink Like Rileynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-17394860438411293002009-10-08T11:58:58.000-05:002009-10-08T11:58:58.000-05:00I&#39;ll put on the big boy truth pants here - just about all of this is true. Be patient with us ladies, some of us are learning and doing better.Mocha Dude Speaksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-17886208413674590012009-10-08T11:44:55.000-05:002009-10-08T11:44:55.000-05:00Chele - you came witht he truth on this one. I literally have a different way of speaking and acting in the workplace than at home. Heaven forbid &quot;I&#39;m too much of a girl&quot; thereCurlySuenoreply@blogger.com