tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post1783878801394262182..comments2009-09-24T22:37:01.533-05:00One Chelehttps://profiles.google.com/109555230009180340423noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-43030876304900652292009-09-24T22:36:59.000-05:002009-09-24T22:36:59.000-05:00Some women are dumb as hell and think that they can change a man.<br />Back when I was a ho, my friends and I would warn any girl with a good reputation (If they were a ho too, they shoulda&#39; known the game.) that I was still in my ho stage.<br />But the odd thing was that many women from good families and a nice level of social status thought that they were the one who could tame me.<br />After their feelings were hurt, my friends would just laugh and say that they tried to warn the women.<br /><br />But there are women who I desired but thought too much of to ever be more than just friends.<br />I&#39;ve slept in the same bed with these women (while crashing after a night out) without anything ever happening.<br />These women also warn the potentials without success.<br />It seems that being with certain women can raise one&#39;s &quot;Resale value&quot; in the eyes of other women.uglyblackjohnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-56172768461106174192009-09-24T21:10:21.000-05:002009-09-24T21:10:21.000-05:00Cool post, gives me a few things to think about. I think some people outgrow their &quot;youthful&quot; indiscretions, others never do. It&#39;s a judgment callJane knows Janenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-21868565504309520222009-09-24T15:47:44.000-05:002009-09-24T15:47:44.000-05:00If the person you&#39;re dating has a history that repeats itself like heartburn after a spicy meal, you need to run for the hills. A former friend of mine is now engaged to a man who has cheated on every girlfriend and wife. She&#39;ll be wife # 3 soon. SMH. He has also cheated on her several times, at least twice with the same ex-gf. When you put up with some drama like that, you kinda get what you deserve.<br />I understand that we all have our issues. However if the person seems to keep beating the same drum, it might be time to use your brain and let it burn. If it&#39;s something small and forgiveable, give it a go.bcophernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-24950487916894801752009-09-24T14:44:19.000-05:002009-09-24T14:44:19.000-05:00I think past stuff should remain in the past. Especially if it wasn&#39;t done to you. You have to give a person a chance with you. Maybe they learned from that experience. Besides, what matters most is how they treat you now.<br /><br />I guess this is coming from a person who has done some stuff. Oh well...true2menoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-75262856957327886692009-09-24T11:57:07.000-05:002009-09-24T11:57:07.000-05:00Good brain food...I like to think that I look at a person based on the evidence that I see now at this present point. I can give you the benefit of the doubt untill you prove otherwise. I try to go into everything slow and easy. I kicked it with a guy who was fresh out the joint after a 10 yr bid. Some of the best I have ever had..no relationship status but we super cool. He still talks to this day how he respects the fact that I didn&#39;t judge him for his past but gave him an opportunity. Lawd knows I have acted a FOOL at some point in my lifetime. We all have past actions we are ashameful of, but the key point is what are you doing now...Tiffany Nicolenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-88435879154998182102009-09-24T11:03:59.000-05:002009-09-24T11:03:59.000-05:00I like the idea that it&#39;s like crime with a statute of limitations! Tomfoolery should get a pass after a little while but major issues (especially that haven&#39;t been resolved) need to be addressedKaylanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-9013886949788547262009-09-24T10:26:41.000-05:002009-09-24T10:26:41.000-05:00Well I&#39;ve certainly made some mistakes in my past and I&#39;d like to think they won&#39;t be held over my head forever. But I do understand that unless I act differently, people will always see as the same old personGuestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-9156843662329671682009-09-24T10:23:34.000-05:002009-09-24T10:23:34.000-05:00You said it right ASmith - the past is a great indicator of the future though you do have to allow for the possibility of people changing (hopefully for the better)Guestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-21753693698152076072009-09-24T10:21:37.000-05:002009-09-24T10:21:37.000-05:00I saw something on TV about this woman who was missing. Her husband had been &quot;suspected&quot; of killing his first wife. And I thought- you found out this guy might have killed his first wife and you said= I&#39;ll give it a try anywyay?! That kind of skeleton (like a literal skeleton!)  you can&#39;t ignore!BB Waitenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-51091742966511503482009-09-24T10:16:16.000-05:002009-09-24T10:16:16.000-05:00Anytime I find out that a girl I&#39;m tryna date has that rep, I move her to j/o statusTroynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-81079653216422573392009-09-24T09:59:53.000-05:002009-09-24T09:59:53.000-05:00I think there are some things in a person&#39;s past you have to let go because of how long ago it was. People do change.<br /><br />However, I think one would be foolish to hear their current boo say &quot;My ex broke up with me because I cheated&quot; and not at least store that little nugget in the back of your mind. This is dangerous territory because you don&#39;t want to start accusing them of cheating right away and you don&#39;t want to have to be suspicious of everything they do. But should the signs ever legitimately present themselves...well... then you know the deal.<br /><br />I truly believe the past is a good indicator of the future, sans some serious changes to one&#39;s self and/or situation.ASmithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-81853284532345790932009-09-24T09:50:34.000-05:002009-09-24T09:50:34.000-05:00OneChele you are hitting it hard this week. Just had a situation where I found out some stuff about this guys past. We are only on date two but now I&#39;m looking at him like - i&#39;m.Not.Sure. He swears it&#39;s in the past but... I guess we&#39;ll see.Bailey Quincynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-24693638405768085732009-09-24T09:48:13.000-05:002009-09-24T09:48:13.000-05:00Yep, what you said - depends on the size of the skeleton and how long it&#39;s been rattling around in that closet.AngelaMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7886323613346427250.post-44979157329961850202009-09-24T09:28:03.000-05:002009-09-24T09:28:03.000-05:00I do believe the saying is &quot;let sleeping dogs lie&quot;. I think that if you go digging for trouble you are sure to find something. In some points in life we need to just let the past be the past. I don&#39;t want anybody judging my on who I used to be, because I am so not that person now. Everyone has done something at some time in their life that they wish no one knew about and if they could they borrow that flashy thing from Will Smith in Men In Black. Heaven knows sometimes I wish I could wash my own memory sometimes, because the things stored in it aren&#39;t always picture perfect and beautiful.<br />I don&#39;t think once a cheat always a cheat, every one has their reasons and circumstances, not that cheating is acceptable but if a 16 year old boy cheats on his girlfriend because he struggled with insecurities is it right to say he will cheat at 26? Now some people do have a red flag on them and you need to run as soon as you see them coming but to each his own.<br />Remeber, &quot;One mans trash is anothers treasure&quot;. To each his own.Velinda Millernoreply@blogger.com