Friday, May 23, 2014

Ain't nothin' changed but the date on the calendar


One of the Ask A Bougie Chick letters I just received was from a 23 year old lady who recently ran into her ex. Dana and her former-beloved, Nick were together all through college. Upon graduation, Nick told Dana that he didn't want to be "held back" or "tied down" so he broke up with her. No long goodbye, no I'll-be-seeing-you, just out. The evening of graduation no less. She got back to the spot and all his stuff was just gone. He put a post-it note next to his key that said, "Be well." And the part that really ticked off Dana? He had changed his Facebook status before breaking up with her. (Let me take a moment to thank Jesus that I didn't have to date with social media in my 20s) Back to this... Very classy, Nick. 

Fast forward 11 months to last week. Alumni happy hour. Who strolls up to Dana all smiles as if they agreed to remain friends? Yep. Nick sits down, tells her how great she looks and wants to catch up. Nick got caught up in a layoff at the bank where he was working while pursing his MBA and is not sure how he can afford to pay for the rest of his advanced degree. Dana is in the executive training program of a well known Silicon Valley tech company and the VP loves her. (Karma is that bitch, ain't she?) Anywho, Nick says he wonders if he was too hasty last year. He wonders if there's any of the old Nick-n-Dana sparks still smoldering that can whip back up into a fire. (Okay, I got dramatic. Ya'll know I write romance.) 

Dana says she'll think about it. And walks away. Since then, he's going full court press. Sent flowers to her job, dropped off her favorite takeout to her door, left messages on the phone and sent her the digital equivalent of this generation's mixtape via iTunes. 

Dana says she never got over Nick and her question to us is... have we been through this, do we have any insight and what should she do.

Hey Dana! Yes, we've been through this. The abrupt "deuces" followed by lack of closure and then later yonder they come back 'round with Le TapBack. There are so many posts about re-visiting the "ex-files" on here that you could pick anyone of them. They all basically say, "There's generally a reason why you broke up in the first place but... Do you." However, I actually have a few other thoughts: 
1. What happened to him not wanting to be tied down or held back?
2. What's his hurry?
3. Why don't you date around? If Nick is the one, he'll be the one today, tomorrow or next month.
4. I know men don't always apologize for the shiggity they do but um... he got to do better than "Hey, what's been up, pretty lady?"
5. Lastly, double-check his motives. You're doing well. He is on some struggle. Is he looking for a girlfriend or a sponsor? I'm just asking.
Dana, the game is the game is the game. Decide whether you want to play and if so, is he the one you want to play with. Those are my abbreviated thoughts. BougieLand, whatcha got for Dana?

54 comments:

One Chele said...

JTTW....there's nothing here to think about. From the sounds of it, she never really knew this guy. To use a word from the English, dude was a cad. He bounced with no regard for her feelings, now his fortunes have declined and he wants a second chance. If she can't see the LARGE, RED warning signs and goes back....when then she gets what she gets.

One Chele said...

DANA! Honey! Do not pass go, do not collect $200. I was just having this conversation with the Mr. last night, because we were watching a show in which the same exact thing happened. Long story short - Girl got engaged, so her ex-dude decided to hit her with the tapback, talmbout, "I'm ready for you now." SIR? Where in the evergreen earth do they do that at? Nah, son, NAWL!

But I get it. You had feelings for this dude, and no closure from the breakup, so confusion about his return is bound to happen. I'll tell you this much -- where was all this effort when you two were still an item? Where was all this wooing? Hell, where was the CONSIDERATION when he decided he didn't want to be in the relationship anymore? His actions during your breakup say more about his character than a few well-place flowers, and THAT's the part you need to pay attention to. (And you are paying attention, because I doubt you'd write into Chelle if you didn't see any red flags about this whole situation.)


It's cute that he wants to show up now when things are going great for you. (And I use "cute" sarcastically.) But the biggest tell-tale of a relationship is how the parties within it handle transition. And CLEARLY this dude doesn't know how to transition from one stage in life to the next without damaging people and relationships in the process. And... AND! If he's sending mixtapes and whatnot but doesn't see it necessary to apologize for the way he handled things, HUGE RED FLAG.

Nick is showing you his true character, love, and it clearly is not something you want to be tied down to. So maybe that's what you tell him. "Things are going really well for me and I don't want to be tied down right now. Be well."

One Chele said...

What happens when he gets back on his feet and starts smelling himself again...

One Chele said...

Sounds like a classic case of he was feeling himself and thinking he'd have women falling at his feet, and now he realizes he made a mistake. My advice is to remember that ex's are ex's for a reason - redoing a relationship seldom leads to better results. For whatever reason he decided that he was better off without you, and now that's his cross to bear. Continue to enjoy life, date, focus on you, and let him wallow in the misery of his bad life choices.

One Chele said...

Why do you need to even think about this? This dude bolted with a damn post-it note! Past behavior predicts future behavior. You have been warned.

One Chele said...

Hey Dana. Girl, come over here and sit down next to Auntie TIH..*pats couch cushion* Dana, sweetie, I have a few things I'd like to share with you. In the words of that tormented artist Chris Breezy: That dude ain't loyal. Don't fall for the okey-doke. Keep it moving. He's trying to come up at your expense. #staywoke

And now it's time for a musical selection: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DSz2vS3wxEg

One Chele said...

And one more so that you know what to tell Nick: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhBwt9mw7Sk

One Chele said...

Did you really just quote Chris Brown? This is why I can't with you! LOL

One Chele said...

I hate to say it, but I think you will go back and give Nick another chance. Mind you, you SHOULDN'T...but you will. Go back to him and learn the lesson REAL GOOD this time. We can give you all the sisterly/auntie advice in the world, but if you are considering revisiting a relationship with you him, you will do so. I just hope he doesn't break your heart or disappoint you again.

One Chele said...

"Past behavior predicts future behavior."



This!

One Chele said...

Dana-Dane -
Not sho' what they taught you in college but here go a lesson for ya:
Nick is running game. Don't. Get. Got.
*drops mic*

One Chele said...

Let me first say this. It is perfectly natural to be tempted. Women are programmed to think we need "closure" until you learn after lots of bumps and bruises that actually "closure is the gift you give yourself". Seriously, it is an exercise that you have to walk through in your own mind you really don't need your ex to resolve your feelings. Just know that broken trust is hard to rebuild & loyalty is either present or it's not. You don't get many chances to really show someone if you are loyal or not. He already stumbled there. Yes there are some couples who have overcome similar situations to be happy in the end, but they are the exception and not the rule. There is a lot of wisdom & experience here in Bougieland. We are not just telling you what we heard, but has been shown & proven. Take him back at your own risk.

One Chele said...

You can do what you want. I ain't about that revolving door life. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice...

One Chele said...

Get the closure if you absolutely most (however, it rarely works out that way) but don't take him back if he's the same guy. If he's different, make him prove it. Personally, the post it note on the key would have sealed it for me. He gets no do-overs.

One Chele said...

Hey now! BougieLand has been like days of old lately. Dana, Nick was probably your first "true" love and there's a lot of residual emotion tied up in that but engage your brain for this one. A relationship is supposed to enhance you - what is Nick bringing to the table? Emotionally and otherwise? Keeping it really simple - in life, there has to be an outstanding reason to move backwards. If you can't think of one, move forward.

One Chele said...

"Closure is the gift you give yourself" YES!

One Chele said...

My dear, when he had money, he didn't feel like he had to have you. Now that he *doesn't* have money, please make sure that he *still* doesn't have you -- or, y'know, *your* money. We've already had enough of the "my ex moved back in and is after my assets" plotline here lately! Hold onto what's truly yours -- and Nick isn't on that list.

One Chele said...

You ain't over Nick because he left you so abruptly. But get over his ass because no.

One Chele said...

Now this will preach!

One Chele said...

Awww....well, they are so young and dumb and these kids today start smelling themselves and think they can treat folks any old way. If he truly seemed sorry and trying to make amends I'd tell her to think about it.


But the callous way he left says a lot. Perhaps losing her will prepare him for the next woman, but it sucks she has to be the one to teach that lesson. If he even has learned one....

One Chele said...

If i may quote the great Mike Jones: "Back then they didn't want me, now i'm hot and they all on me!"


Obviously we don't know what his motives really are but from the outside looking in, it seems like dude fell on hard times and is tryna get that old thing back/looking for a come up. Or he may really feel like he messed up by letting you go and him being down on his luck is just a coincidence. The real question is do you really want to take that chance? If you do decide to entertain his advances, make sure you don't have rose-tinted glasses on.

One Chele said...

So Dana's ex Nick of four years or so, broke up with her on graduation day (real classy) stating that he wasn't prepared to be committed to her, and capped it all off by leaving a lame two word message on a post-it note. Personally, I thought his choice of words about not wishing to be "held back" spoke so damn loud that it is a wonder Dana isn't still dealing with the symptoms of deafness. But at any rate, he is trying to get back and is pulling out all sorts of corny stunts in an attempt to win her over.



Look Dana, if you are willing to be conned and hoodwinked, because that is exactly what is going on here, then get something more out of the deal than some cheap flowers, takeout food and a iTunes Genius mix. Hold out for a trip to the Bahamas or a pricey ring (see the "A-ha" story from May 21st for tips) - stop selling yourself short. But if you truly have any sort of sense, self respect and dignity, you will shut the door on this one sided fantasy of you and Nick doing a reboot on your relationship.


Dana, save yourself the misery, and accept that the chapter of your life with Nick has ended and for good reason. Your time and effort would be much better spent focusing on your very promising career, getting out and dating other men, and before you know it, you won't be missing Nick in the least.


Good luck.

One Chele said...

I skipped all the way to #5. And that is where it is. RUN. If I have learned anything- it is love doesn't pay a solitary bill. Love is good and we love being in love, but a joker laying up in my face with no income coming in, is no good. I would tell you what my grandma says about this but I'll keep this clean and literally tasteful.

One Chele said...

SO on track. She has survived and thrived despite his abrupt departure and should not set herself up for a repeat. Momma's Sunday dinner may be good the second time around; but this man is out to lunch unless he proves himself he is not worth a second time around.

One Chele said...

"Closure is the gift you give yourself"......Dangit dangit dangit!!! THIS

One Chele said...

Held back....tied down....Be well....post-it-note........And the icing on the cake? You weren't even the first to know! He had already changed his status on Facebook!!! WTH

Dana, Nick does not give two-fuckeths of a damn about anybody but Nick! Just because you still have feelings for someone does not mean you HAVE to give them another chance. Give yourself another chance! As previously stated, "Closure is the gift you give yourself". Someone else mentioned that you will go back to him. God I hope you don't!! But as experience has taught, you probably will. Why? Because you are considering it. Le Huge Damn Sigh

One Chele said...

Dont do it! He did you dirty when he left and now he is trying to get back cause he need a sponsor. Find a better dude. He sending flowers and stuff huh? Aint got no job? Thats gon stop soon as u give in. Trust.

One Chele said...

I had to sit with this one awhile, 'cause I've done the reboot 3 or 4 times, with no harm/no foul. But I'll tell you this, about that... every time I *have* done a reboot, it's when the breakup the first time was painful for BOTH of us, and it was circumstances that were wrong, not the people involved. If a partner PeaceOuts abruptly because they think there's bigger and better in the future, without a single thought of how that affects the one left behind? That partner did not, DOES not, and will not care.

One Chele said...

I am so using "two-f**keths of a damn" in a comment.

One Chele said...

The late, great Maya Angelou said it best: When people show you who they are, believe them."

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One Chele said...

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One Chele said...

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One Chele said...

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One Chele said...

What a beautiful and wonderful testimony some time things you don't believe can just happen.my name is Adams Trace i am from U.S.A am 25 years old i got married at the age of 24 i have only one child and i was living happily .After one year of my marriage my husband behavior became so strange and i don't really understand what was going on, he packed out of the house to another woman i love him so much that i never dream's of losing him, i try my possible best to make sure that my husband get back to me but all to no avail i cry and i cry seeking for help. i discussed it with my best friend and she promise to help me he told me of a man called Dr.ogala, he is a very great man and a real man that can be trusted and there is nothing concerning love issues he cannot do that is why they call him Dr.ogala. I contacted his email address.And i told him everything that happen all he told me that i should not worry that all my problems will be solved immediately. He told me what to do to get my husband back and i did, he said after One hour my husband will come back to me and start begging, it really happen i was very surprise and very, very happy our relationship was now very tight and we both live happily again. So my advice for you now is to contact this same email address:(Holyspellcast@gmail.com, if you are in any kind of situation concerning love issues and any other things that give you problems. He can use his HOLY spell to help you. his web site http://holyspellcast.webs.com and you can also call him +2348072371282 THANKS.....

One Chele said...

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One Chele said...

I am joes candra, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank DR.OSAUYI for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found a grate spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. Three days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 6 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR.OSAUYI released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that`s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR.OSAUYI for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in any situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM that is his email address bye..

One Chele said...

I am joes candra, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank DR.OSAUYI for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found a grate spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. Three days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 6 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR.OSAUYI released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that`s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR.OSAUYI for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in any situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM that is his email address bye......

One Chele said...

I am joes candra, I promise to share this testimony all over the world once my boyfriend return back to me, and today with all due respect i want to thank DR.OSAUYI for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I want to inform you all that there is a spell caster that is real and genuine. I never believed in any of these things until i loosed my boyfriend, I required help until i found a grate spell caster, And he cast a love spell for me, and he assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in two days after the spell has been cast. Three days later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for past 6 years now, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to be my back bone till the rest of his life with me. DR.OSAUYI released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him. And opened his eyes to picture how much we have share together. As I`m writing this testimony right now I`m the most happiest girl on earth and me and my boyfriend is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up. So that`s why I promised to share my testimony all over the universe.All thanks goes to DR.OSAUYI for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is the email address in any situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM that is his email address bye

One Chele said...

My name is sharon britto from USA My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to Philippine for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him testing her one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr.Tafar for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him to miss me to where he wanted to get back together again. He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr. Tafar contact him through his email: Tafarlovespell@gmail.com

One Chele said...

My name is sharon britto from USA My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to Philippine for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him testing her one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr.Tafar for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him to miss me to where he wanted to get back together again. He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr. Tafar contact him through his email: Tafarlovespell@gmail.com.

One Chele said...

My name is sharon britto from USA My boyfriend and I were happy as far as I could tell and I never thought that we would break up. When his cousin died in a tragic car accident he went back to Philippine for a week to be with his family. I could not go because I was in the middle of entertaining out of town clients for work. He did not seem to be upset that I could not go so I let him be. The next thing that I know, he reconnected with an old friend from high school that he had a crush on years ago and they started to have an affair! I had no clue what was going on until a month after he came back from Philippine.He proceeded to see both her and I until I caught him testing her one night. I confronted him and he told me the truth about what happened. We broke up and went our separate ways. Neither of us fought for our relationship. I was angry and decided not to be upset about it and just keep it moving. Then after about a month of not speaking to him I became sad. I wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me and not her. I contacted Dr.Tafar for a love spell and he totally helped me! he was able to get him to miss me to where he wanted to get back together again. He had a lot of regrets and felt bad for not fighting to keep me and for cheating in general. He values our relationship so much more now and we are together now! You can also get your lover back with the help of Dr. Tafar contact him through his email: Tafarlovespell@gmail.com..

marisa johan said...


My name is maria johan from malaysia. My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 10 years older than him,i feel like my life is completely over. I read over the internet how a spell caster have help several people to get there love back. I have been depress for the past one month and what i need is to get him back and live with him happily. so i decided to give it a try so i contacted the spell caster called Dr.Trust and explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell which i use to get my boyfriend back and now my life is complete and both of us are very happy with the relationship. and i am throughly grateful to this man,his contact email is ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Thank you very much and i am extremely greatful Tel: +2348156885231.And there is know evil attach to his spell.it will only make your relationship very stronger.

One Chele said...

who ever is reading this testimony today should please celebrate with me
and my family because it all started like a joke to some people and
others said it was impossible. my name is Michael i live in Chicago i am
happily married with two kids and a lovely wife something terrible
happen to my family along the line, i lost my job and my wife packed out
of my house because i was unable to take care of her and my kids at
that particular time. i manage all through five years, no wife to
support me to take care of the children and there come a faithful day
that i will never forget in my life i met an old friend who i explain
all my difficulties to, and he took me to a spell caster and and the
name of the temple is called, DR Okundonor, i was assure that everything
will be fine and my wife will come back to me after the wonderful work
of Dr Okundonorgreatspell, my wife came back to me and today i am one
of the richest man in my country. i advice you if you have any problem
email him with this email: dr.okundonorgreatspell@gmail.com and you will have the best result. take things for granted and it will be take from you. i wish you all the best.


Contact: dr.okundonorgreatspell@gmail.com

One Chele said...

What a beautiful and wonderful testimony some time things you don't believe can just happen.my name is Adams Trace i am from U.S.A am 25 years old i got married at the age of 24 i have only one child and i was living happily .After one year of my marriage my husband behavior became so strange and i don't really understand what was going on, he packed out of the house to another woman i love him so much that i never dream's of losing him, i try my possible best to make sure that my husband get back to me but all to no avail i cry and i cry seeking for help. i discussed it with my best friend and she promise to help me he told me of a man called Dr.ogala, he is a very great man and a real man that can be trusted and there is nothing concerning love issues he cannot do that is why they call him Dr.ogala. I contacted his email address.And i told him everything that happen all he told me that i should not worry that all my problems will be solved immediately. He told me what to do to get my husband back and i did, he said after One hour my husband will come back to me and start begging, it really happen i was very surprise and very, very happy our relationship was now very tight and we both live happily again. So my advice for you now is to contact this same email address:(Holyspellcast@gmail.com, if you are in any kind of situation concerning love issues and any other things that give you problems. He can use his HOLY spell to help you. his web site http://holyspellcast.webs.com and you can also call him +2348072371282 THANKS..

One Chele said...

What a beautiful and wonderful testimony some time things you don't believe can just happen.my name is Adams Trace i am from U.S.A am 25 years old i got married at the age of 24 i have only one child and i was living happily .After one year of my marriage my husband behavior became so strange and i don't really understand what was going on, he packed out of the house to another woman i love him so much that i never dream's of losing him, i try my possible best to make sure that my husband get back to me but all to no avail i cry and i cry seeking for help. i discussed it with my best friend and she promise to help me he told me of a man called Dr.ogala, he is a very great man and a real man that can be trusted and there is nothing concerning love issues he cannot do that is why they call him Dr.ogala. I contacted his email address.And i told him everything that happen all he told me that i should not worry that all my problems will be solved immediately. He told me what to do to get my husband back and i did, he said after One hour my husband will come back to me and start begging, it really happen i was very surprise and very, very happy our relationship was now very tight and we both live happily again. So my advice for you now is to contact this same email address:(Holyspellcast@gmail.com, if you are in any kind of situation concerning love issues and any other things that give you problems. He can use his HOLY spell to help you. his web site http://holyspellcast.webs.com and you can also call him +2348072371282 THANKS....

Admas Ellia said...

.My name is Deb Millar and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful man DR OFURE a spell caster in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behaviour, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 20st 2:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things, that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he want to quit the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family's and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare, rent-age and all of it, i really went through hair. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR OFRUE, i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after 2das my husband called me Telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily as husband and wife, i still can believe it just too real to be real it highly unbelievable on this great joy for those of you that are going through heart broke or any kind of problem i must tell you this great man has the power to solve any problem hear is the great man email:Ofurelovespell@gmail.com. or you can his cell phone on +2348149158514

Admas Ellia said...

.My name is Deb Millar and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful man DR OFURE a spell caster in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behaviour, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 20st 2:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things, that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he want to quit the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family's and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare, rent-age and all of it, i really went through hair. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR OFRUE, i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after 2das my husband called me Telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily as husband and wife, i still can believe it just too real to be real it highly unbelievable on this great joy for those of you that are going through heart broke or any kind of problem i must tell you this great man has the power to solve any problem hear is the great man email:Ofurelovespell@gmail.com. or you can his cell phone on +2348149158514,,

Admas Ellia said...

.My name is Deb Millar and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful man DR OFURE a spell caster in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behaviour, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 20st 2:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things, that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he want to quit the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family's and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare, rent-age and all of it, i really went through hair. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR OFRUE, i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after 2das my husband called me Telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily as husband and wife, i still can believe it just too real to be real it highly unbelievable on this great joy for those of you that are going through heart broke or any kind of problem i must tell you this great man has the power to solve any problem hear is the great man email:Ofurelovespell@gmail.com. or you can his cell phone on +2348149158514.

Admas Ellia said...

.My name is Deb Millar and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful man DR OFURE a spell caster in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behaviour, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 20st 2:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things, that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he want to quit the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family's and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare, rent-age and all of it, i really went through hair. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR OFRUE, i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after 2das my husband called me Telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily as husband and wife, i still can believe it just too real to be real it highly unbelievable on this great joy for those of you that are going through heart broke or any kind of problem i must tell you this great man has the power to solve any problem hear is the great man email:Ofurelovespell@gmail.com. or you can his cell phone on +2348149158514.

Admas Ellia said...

.My name is Deb Millar and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful man DR OFURE a spell caster in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behaviour, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 20st 2:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things, that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he want to quit the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family's and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare, rent-age and all of it, i really went through hair. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR OFRUE, i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after 2das my husband called me Telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily as husband and wife, i still can believe it just too real to be real it highly unbelievable on this great joy for those of you that are going through heart broke or any kind of problem i must tell you this great man has the power to solve any problem hear is the great man email:Ofurelovespell@gmail.com. or you can his cell phone on +2348149158514,

Admas Ellia said...

.My name is Deb Millar and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful man DR OFURE a spell caster in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behaviour, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 20st 2:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things, that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he want to quit the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family's and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare, rent-age and all of it, i really went through hair. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR OFRUE, i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after 2das my husband called me Telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily as husband and wife, i still can believe it just too real to be real it highly unbelievable on this great joy for those of you that are going through heart broke or any kind of problem i must tell you this great man has the power to solve any problem hear is the great man email:Ofurelovespell@gmail.com. or you can his cell phone on +2348149158514

One Chele said...

HOW I GOT MY HUSBAND BACK!!! i want to say a very big thanks and appreciation to Prophet Ekpiku for bringing back my husband who left i and the kids for almost two months. i am very much grateful to Prophet Ekpiku. I pray God almighty give you the strength and wisdom to help more people having similar problem like mine. for help you can reach him on his email address:Ekpikuspelltemple@live.com

One Chele said...

Hi I am SUE PREEDY from London I got a love spell done on my fiance actually he left me after one year of engagement I was shocked when he told me he does not love me any more he is going to marry with another girl it was very difficult to believe because we were in love from last 5 years he was the guy who never thought to live without me for a second he used to give thousands of phone calls in a day and he was saying to me he does not love me any more, it was a worse news for my family because I gave a very good treat to my friends and raletive on my engagement and we put engagement ring to each other in front of hundreds of people now if he didn't marry me so it was shame for me in my society so I decided that I will get him back any how, than I found Dr.Trust on Internet I told him my problem he told me not to worry I will fetch him back to you he said that he will come himself and will beg me.he gave me 48 hours time and of course it happened before 48 hours he come back to me and said he is sorry for what he did to me,that he is ready to marry me. we get married and we are happy now as husband and wife. really Dr.Trust is a Miracle Man. contact him for your own help ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com call me +2348156885231

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