Tuesday, December 31, 2013

My 2013 in review: In remembrance of damns given

2013 was a huge, twisty, long-assed rollercoaster ride with dizzying highs and shocking lows at a breakneck pace with no brake pedal. Every area of my life changed. Environment, finance, relationship, job, ambitions, physical, mental, emotional - all in flux. Some for the better, some for the worse and none of it in ways that I expected.

Attending the Inauguration in DC was awesome.
Packing and moving in the hottest part of the summer not so awesome.
Working like a runaway slave was exhausting.
Getting promoted and having four books on the market as the same time was pure bliss.
And so it continued...

I fell in deep like. It was awesome. Until it wasn't. Be that as it may, the experience did remind me of exactly how I want to be treated (right up until that last day - no bueno, moving on) and expect to be treated in a relationship. It's well past the time to wait on folks to grow up. I appreciated being with a man who could plan a nice date, carry on conversation, remember things that were important to me and act upon them as needed, just be a sounding board sometimes, show some skill beyond the cocoa of it all and treat me like a partner instead of a crutch or a trophy or a delightful pasttime... It was nice. Won't settle for less next go round. So while I don't give a whole bunch of damns about him, I have lots of damns left for the next. 

I do still give a damn about blogging but... it's not the end-all be all. I no longer believe the world will screech to a halt if I don't post 20+ times a month. When I have something to say, I'll say it. When I don't, I won't. That won't net me a blog of the year award and I am so beyond okay with that.

I got better at juggling two careers. Still not a perfected art but writing (and all that comes with it) while keeping the HR gig going grew easier over the year. Partly because I moved into a role that is less hands on and more supervisory; mostly because when pushed to make a choice of writing vs. day-jobbing, I went with writing. So I give more damns about feeding my soul than my pocketbook. Who knew?

Friends, family, and followers really tried it this year. This was truly the year where I remembered where I drew the line in the sand and reminded folks not to step over it. In some cases, it brought me closer to people who have my best interests at heart. In other cases I lost friends, strained family relationships and cut ties with followers but such is life.  I give no damns about folks who do not respect boundaries. 

The long and short of it all is that I believe through all the whiplash-inducing twists and turns this year took, I'm ending the year in a smarter and healthier place than I started it. Definitely ready to turn the page to 2014. How about you? Do share... 

8 comments:

One Chele said...

Happy New Year!

One Chele said...

The last few years have been a struggle of my own making. So for 2014, my primary focus is to stop being so damn hard on myself, as well as trying to live to others expectations, and I'm actually going to try and enjoy this gift of life.


Happy New Year BougieLand!

One Chele said...

I'm ending 2013 happy to be alive and eternally grateful to God. I was released, on New Year's Eve, from a five day hospital stay for a pulmonary embolism.


I'm SO ready to turn the page on 2013 - it was literally one Lupus health issue after another and full of physical pain. But, I'm blessed to be no worse for the wear, despite it all. :)


Happy New Year, everyone!

One Chele said...

You had quite the 2013! As for me, this is what I posted on Facebook so I will just drop it in a comment here:

2013 was a very good year. Purchased, renovated and settled into a new home. Saw Missy graduate high school Magna Cum Laude, get accepted to her college of choice and begin the next chapter of her life. Lawrence survived a health challenge and finished the year off in championship fashion. Another year of personal and professional growth for me. I can't wait for 2014!



In short big changes but positive ones. My kids are healthy and doing well. I have an empty new nest and can now finally say "I have adult children".


Happy New Year!

One Chele said...

Onto the next.

One Chele said...

Ready to move on myself.

One Chele said...

Happy New Year, Chele and BougieLand! Although great things happened in 2013, I welcomed 2014 with open arms. Mainly because I'm excited about the plans I am making for myself. I think 2013 was my year of complacency, and it showed on multiple levels. I'm glad you made it through your ups and downs on top, because after you've (we've) had the experience, that's all that matters anyway.

One Chele said...

Congrats on all of your awesomes and good by to all of your "not awesomes". Happy new year! Still sad I missed you in DC for the inauguration last year :-(

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