Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Bey's new album has me all in my feelings...


Some of you all are super unhappy with Bey, huh? She gets a little smexxy and all of a sudden, she's not worthy? Oh. Okay.

Sure some of her lyrics are questionable, yes the videos are smoldering. So what? She's speaking her truth, not yours or mine. Here's a grown woman singing about stirring the cocoa with her grown husband. Where's the problem? Yes, I heard the whole "Eat the cake, Anna Mae" line - you don't seriously think she's advocating abuse, do you? Doncha think it's more likely that she's probably planning on bathing herself in frosting and tempting her man's sweet tooth? Let married people get their freak on... and sing about it. If you don't like the music, fine. But please don't try to make a sexy album into more than it was. 

Speculation on Bey's feminism and Jay's misogyny based off this body of work is ill-conceived. It's an album, not a manifesto. So no, I'm not mad at Bey and Jay. Do you, Illuminati, do you. 

However... The album does have me all nostalgic and whatnot. As many of you know, I'm on (yet another) man break. A hiatus from the homies. I contemplated sticking a pinkie toe back in the waters and then I got weary just thinking about it. Relationships, dating, even picking someone to try to do any of those things with? Exhausting. You have to have your mind right and your spirit willing before you give it go. Of late, I've been more inclined to wrap up in a throw and catch up on my DVR than throw on some pumps and get my party on.

Unfortunately though... I'm a romance girl. Romance requires partnership. I admit it. I love falling in love and being in love and even falling out of love if I learn something useful along the way. I miss having that person that makes me stupid with a smile or a clever turn of phrase. I miss having someone to talk to before going to sleep at night (or not going to sleep at night). Yes, I miss all the bubbly, steamy cocoa that overflows in a committed relationship when both parties are feeling it. Craving it, can't remember what they did before it. Ah, memories.

But alas, I don't miss the foolishness and the game-playing and the "did he mean what he said when he said..." and the back-n-forth of getting to know someone from the ground up all over again. Trust him- don't trust him, do I really wanna do this, is he loving me the way I need to be loved... Arrgh. I have a little ways to go to regain my patience for the game of love. At least I'm off zero. The signal light is no longer flashing red with arrows saying : Do Not Proceed!! And Mrs. Carter's homage to grown good 'n plenty just might move the signal off Caution: Yellow to Green Means Go. We'll have to see.

Anybody know what I'm talking about? Raise your hand...

9 comments:

One Chele said...

I have to totally agree with you. I have to make myself stop looking at/listening to Drunk in Love because that song extremely has me feeling some kind of way. Whew! Makes me want to hurry up and get past my trust issues so that I can have a grown and sexy relationship.

One Chele said...

yes.
oh wait.. i should write more?
all of the yes.


the same people 'mad' about this album, tweet about their hate of scandal. im so over bw being under the microscope. just.. let us be entertained dammit. lawd!


as for the relationship part, the intimacy, the craving, the security of having someone.. yeah. i miss that too.
all of the sighs.

One Chele said...

::raises hand with nothing else to add::

One Chele said...

Rocket, and Drunk In Love, and Partition, and Blow have had me in here dibbling and dabbling in all sorts of, ahem, feelings.



As for all of the backlash, i'm so not here for it. This is probably the best and realest record she's put out, imho (but then again i'm not a member of the beehive so take that with a grain of salt). I don't see whats so anti-feminist about a grown woman singing about being a grown woman.

One Chele said...

I like the album and the sexy songs. I'm a grown, married woman and I understand wanting to give all to your husband. What's so wrong with that? Partition, Rocket, and Blow are my favorites. I'll have to revisit Drunk in Love, though. My husband, at times, have me feeling that way, even when he's annoying.

One Chele said...

I haven't listened to Beyonce's album and I probably won't -- not because I'm a hater -- I'm just over her music. I can't relate. I miss Irreplaceable Beyonce, cause unfortunately, I haven't moved into love land. I'm good with Beyonce celebrating her love. Funny, no one got mad at Jill Scott when she did it. Some people have just given Beyonce too much power. In short, my hand is raised.

Rae Miller said...

I've heard some of Beyonce's new music and I like it. I don't understand what the hoopla about the grown and sexy music is all about--...She is grown and sexy right?. She's also smart. She is aging and maturing with her fan base. That way, she won't end up like Janet ---- 45 years old trying to appeal to 20 year olds. I don't recall people being all upset with Ron Isley in his "Between the Sheets" days.

Hats off to Mrs. Carter for not allowing anyone else to define her or her music.....

One Chele said...

Whew - this album. I was like um I'm not sure I'm grown ENOUGH for the feels of "Rocket". *listens on repeat*

One Chele said...

o/ Everything you said!!!

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