Thursday, February 21, 2013

No thank you, I don't want "next"


I'm not sure why, but I was watching Chad Johnson's (also known as Ochocinco) Twitter the other day and I was amazed but not amused at the sheer volume of women throwing their virtual drawers at him. I mean these chicks had zero chill. Zee-Roh. Even after 10 other chicks propositioned dude, 10 more stepped up to bat. And that was just in the few minutes I watched in shock and awe. 

What is up with that level of parchedassness? Please refresh your memory of the thirst scale below:


These chicks were beyond the Parched cup. I'm not knocking Chad. (Okay, maybe I am a little bit) But this dude has how many baby mommas and kids and former fiances? Isn't he on parole for allegedly whipping that one chick's ass? Wasn't he up on some TV show bemoaning his unemployed state? I get that he's a (former?) athlete and many find him attractive but really? What's the golden prize end game there? You can be next? Or maybe you'll be the one who finally claims and tames him? Okaayyy.... and then what happens? Iyanla can't fix ev'body.

Is there something sexy about taming and claiming the untameable bad boy? How do you look at that and say... Oooo -that's a catch? That's a mountain I've got to climb? Or am I missing something? Groupie mentality perhaps?

Like that rapper Shawty Whozywhatsit who has seventy-eleven kids? I simply do not understand how you meet a man who already has a basketball team's worth of children and decide that you want to not only date him but bear the backup benchwarmers as well? I mean, I'll give you two. But who is signing up to be baby momma numbers 3 through however many? 

Who wants that? What's that life like?

And it's not just thirsty chicks killing the game. I'm sorry, I know many of you are fans of that Kardash chick. I do not understand guys following her on Twitter telling Ye - "Yo, I got next." Really. This happened. I can't even joke about it. Okay, yes I can - who does this? 

It's not that I expect people to come to relationships brand new and re-virginized. It's not that I'm judging people for having an "active" "colorful" "checkered" "event-filled" past. In no way slut-shaming (I hate that word, by the way), I'm just wondering about the motivation to be next in line for someone who comes with a steamer trunk full of baggage. Relationships are hard enough to keep afloat when you're travelling light.

So I'm asking - how much of a past is too much of a past to get over? Is there some sort of challenge to being one of the chosen? Can someone just explain it to me so it makes sense? Let's talk about it...

22 comments:

@yo_q_crush said...

Its one thing to have a past, because we all have one, but to have it broadcast like the daily news is a totally different situation.

I can recall in college giving the side-eye to women if I found out they messed with certain dudes. Like there was this guy who swore up and down every chick wanted him and the ones who were lucky to be selected by him tossed his salad and he tore their walls down. So whenever I saw a chick spending extra time with him or coming out of his room I always gave them the side-eye. Now was I wrong for judging them... probably so, but c'mon if the guys knew about how big of a manwhore he was or claimed to be I know the females had to know as well and for you to STILL mess with him let me know that you werent going to be on my radar...

Earthangel172 said...

"And kids by different women and no ex-wife in the bunch would be a
dealbreaker for me. Shoot, kids with different women even WITH an
ex-wife in the bunch is a dealbreaker for me. I ain't 'bout no whole
buncha somebody else's chirren."


I feel the same way and I've been married once and only have one child. LOL

Drae said...

Some people like projects. From my experience it's mostly women that I see, but nevertheless when you are insecure about yourself you find ways to focus on others insecurity and fix that vs working on yourself.....Dr. Phill out lol

Haukku Amil said...

When a man can father multiple kids, with multiple women, then physically assault his wife, and STILL have women chasing after him! That is when you know for sure the end is near.

sol_dier said...

I'm just giggling at 'Whozywhatsit who has seventy-eleven kids'
I don't think most of those proposals are serious, just e-talking. On the other hand, some women may be experiencing all the violence without the 'luxurious' living. If thats the case, i can see why they'd opt for it.

Marioned said...

Ah... I am thinking these folks are not looking for relationships but just want to F**K. Now we can discuss their requirements for F**King. I would surmise that it's all about looks(body) and money. That's it! Which shows their standards or lack there of!

Adonis said...

Again, it is 2013, when are women going to admit, that they want men who will potentially treat them badly.

But complain when more responsible balanced men don't want them. Fun to watch!

One Chele said...

so glad you pointed out that its not just women that go around handing out what I call 'development deals'. low self esteem is not gender specific. i don't get it, especially when the conquest is still in the throes of ratchetness.

One Chele said...

heeey keep them together, Id rather they stay with each other and be crazy together rather than trying to ruining a normal persons existence

One Chele said...

Indeed. After a certain age everybody has some less than stellar decisions on their timeline of life but if it's looking like a pattern of behavior then me & you don't go together. I can do bad/be ratchet allllllllll by myself!

One Chele said...

I'm chuckling over Zee-Roh chill.

There's a director that always sleeps with his dancers and choreographers. On every single project, he works his ways through at least two or three. I stay amazed at the chicks lining up. I mean ugh1 He's now serving number four something and you want to be next? Nope.

One Chele said...

What I find curious is all they know about Ocho is ratchenetness. It's not like they met him and he charmed them and they did that jedi mind trick thing where they convinced themselves that the other Ocho is not the Ocho THEY know. Unh unh, all they know is what we know and yet....they are still throwing virtual panties at him. People need to think more highly of themselves.

As for me, I don't get the fascination with dramerz. And kids by different women and no ex-wife in the bunch would be a dealbreaker for me. Shoot, kids with different women even WITH an ex-wife in the bunch is a dealbreaker for me. I ain't 'bout no whole buncha somebody else's chirren.

One Chele said...

Frankly, I think the only reason those virtual drawers get thrown at Ocho is that he's famous. I don't know WHY "famous" is more important to some people than "having a good and sane life", but it seems to be how things generally work this millenium. Famous looks shiny, and people want the bling, even (or especially) with the large side helping of ratchet. *smh*

And yeah, I agree with Clay, everybody's got a past in this point of my journey, but as long as it's not coming up and slapping all of us in the face every day with foolishness, I'm okay with it. Taking care of responsibilities from one's past is fine, but jumping back on the Funny Business Ferris Wheel... not having it. No time for shenanigans.

One Chele said...

::adds arsenic laced chaos to my vocabulary:: Love it! LOL

One Chele said...

Ocho looks like a turtle to me so apart from the money and the acclaim on the field, I don't get the appeal. Maybe these groupies are hoping to be next in line when and if he makes a comeback. Who knows. ::shrugs::



I don't mind a person having a past. We all have one but there are some things I'm not willing to compromise on like physical abuse of any kind, glorified whore-mongering, more than 2 kids coupled with drama from the ex (and 2 kids is pushing it for me...LOL) and just overall ratchetness. I can't and I won't with any of the aforementioned.

One Chele said...

Foolishness!!! I don't understand people wanting to exist in the mist of arsenic laced chaos. There is no person in their right mind that should want any part of that type of life.

It's the pop culture phenomenon right now. Be ratchet/Get with ratchet--> Make racthet comments, photos or video--> Get a ratchet media deal--> now all of life's riches and joys will be yours for very low price of... sacrificing all sense of self esteem and respect for yourself. Ugh.

One Chele said...

I can't deal with a past that interferes with the present. Some people have neon flashing signs on their forehead that say "Stay the heck away" and yet they always have takers, I don't get it.

One Chele said...

When your past is prevalent in your present and directing your future into further ratchetness +1000!

One Chele said...

When your past is prevalent in your present and directing your future into further ratchetness, I can't! If your past has dropped you off in your present full of lessons learned and wisdom and you're on a path of being the best you, let's talk.

One Chele said...

At my age, everybody has a past. I'm fine with that. I do prefer that I'm not confronted/reminded of your past at every turn. In other words, the past I can't get over is the one that won't stay in the past.

One Chele said...

Like you said in one of your books - I don't mind a little "tread on the tires". But I don't need public video of others who have driven the car...

One Chele said...

1) Chad ain't that cute to me
2) Once a dude has "abuser" in his history - I'm done
3) I don't like sharing
4) I don't following the crowd
In conclusion, none of this works for me.

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