Thursday, February 09, 2012

Gisele, Roland and foot-in-mouth disease

I think stupid ratchet less-than-intelligent things all the time. I have the presence of mind not to say them publicly. Many a moment my hand has hovered over a tweet before slowly hitting the back button while I shake my head. "Naw, Chele - that is not for public consumption." I distinctly recall being interviewed on a Los Angeles radio station and having to bite my tongue for fear of letting my true thoughts fly free (only to have them bite me in the ass later). Apparently not everyone does this?

God bless Gisele Bunchen-Brady. Bless her. She's rich, attractive, married to a future Hall-of-Famer and has a lifetime supply of Vicki's Secrets to chose from. Good for her.

After watching her hubs lose a close game (to the same team he lost to a few years back) on Sunday, she loudly proclaimed that her man can't do every damn thing. He can't win by himself. In fact she stated:
"My husband can not f***ing throw the ball and catch the ball at the same time. I can't believe they dropped the ball so many times."
Oh. Keeping it classy.

Now on the one hand, I get it. I do. Having dated a player (or two) in my time, losses hurt and you're always looking for someone (not your boo) to blame. Secondly, that's her man. She's going to defend him and I can't be mad at that. Thirdly, even Wes Welker admitted that it wasn't his best game.

All that aside - really, girlfriend? When you kinda have ev-ery-thang and your man already has 3 rings, finger pointing at his teammates after a loss makes you look a little, er - sour grape-ish. Plus, it may not be a great idea to vent out in public. Where reporters and cameras may roam. Just saying.

However, I do not think she should be told to "continue to be cute and shut up." [Harsh side-eye to Brandon Jacobs] That's taking it too far. A wife is allowed to back her man even if her timing and delivery were a bit off.

Po' po' #AscotStruggle (Yes, this is how I refer to Roland Martin). During the SuperBowl after the Beckham undies ad {which was ni-ice!} aired to much fanfare, he tweeted:
If a dude at your Super Bowl party is hyped about David Beckham’s H&M underwear ad, smack the ish out of him! #superbowl
Oh. Might one assume he wasn't wearing his ascot whilst tweeting this?

These words were taken as homophobic and all hell reigned down on him. GLAAD asked for him to be fired, people started taking sides. He defended his statement (poorly, very poorly) and now he has been suspended from CNN indefinitely. 

I didn't think his tweet was suspension worthy. In a perfect world, he would have been given an opportunity to apologize and then host a town hall airing before the next installment of Gay in America. That still could happen but for now he's not allowed in One CNN Center over a mindless tweet.

I didn't take his comments as homophobic or advocating the beatdown of homosexuals, I just thought he was trying to be funny and it didn't work out. Again... know your audience and understand how things will be perceived. #AscotStruggle should know that he's not going to get the Don Imus, Dr. Laura, Rush Limbaugh "sorry I was douchey" pass. Only white folks who generate millions are allowed to say whatever the heck they want and keep rolling. Black folks have to rain mea culpas down, go to rehab, tap dance, do the electric bugaloo and pretend to be off meds to get second chances. <~~ A teachable moment in Black History Month.  

Here's the thing. Both Gizzy & Rolo should have known better than to speak/tweet publicly thoughts that were ill-thought out and better kept private. But let's be clear - Gisele will be back in angel wings and stilettos by summer while Roland battles to stay relevant. This is the way of the world. Foot in mouth disease in these here 2010's can get you scorned and sent home in no time flat. Let this be a lesson to all who think Twitter is just a fun social media tool. When the world is watching, know what to say...

BougieLand, any thoughts on the Gisele/Roland of it all? Have you suffered from foot-in-mouth disease before? Is there a cure?! Do share your thoughts...

42 comments:

Jubi The Great said...

Gisele & Roland are both guilty of the same thing - thinking that they can say whatever the hell they want whenever they want to & forgetting they are in the public eye. They should both know by now that with all that fame & fortune, comes increased scrutiny of your life & every single thing you do, including say in the heat of the moment.

While I don't think Roland is homophobic, I do think his comments were problematic. It's not funny to joke about physical violence against anyone, whether it be gays, women, children, etc. And frankly, if Roland had made a comment abt smacking a woman (especially a Black woman) up, I doubt anyone would have batted an eye.

Kimistry_101 said...

I don't like Giselle and that's why I'm glad the Patriots lost.  I don't think Roland should have been suspended. 

MsJamie14 said...

"Only white folks who generate millions are allowed to say whatever the heck they want and keep rolling. Black folks have to rain mea culpas down, go to rehab, tap dance, do the electric bugaloo and pretend to be off meds to get second chances. <~~ A teachable moment in Black History Month. "

Girl this!!! The fact that we have to be 10 times better all. the. time. is not right, is not fair but that's life! There is a slimmer of hope for ole Roland where CNN left the door cracked. However, it will likely end up "damn shame what they did to that dog"

As for Mrs. Brady, I have a soft spot for the outspoken ride or die chicks. LOL. I commenced to a mild tantrum after the Pats lost, but fortunately, no one cares about my opinion. LOL

motown_skater said...

gizzy ~ sometimes one must exercise self-control and know when to speak and when to let things go.  hopefully next season gizzy will work on that impulse to lash out in the heat of the moment. ~~~side note~~~ i'm glad the giants pulled off that win....cheaters never win.....yeah i still haven't gotten over the patriots cheating a couple seasons back.

rolo ~ he tweets a lot! so much so i often wonder how does he get anything else done. i think a suspension is a bit over the top, but i will say he was not born to be a comedian and hopefully has learned to stay in his lane.

CaliGirlED said...

"#AscotStruggle should know that he's not going to get
the Don Imus, Dr. Laura, Rush Limbaugh "sorry I was douchey" pass. Only white folks who generate millions
are allowed to say whatever the heck they want and keep rolling. Black folks have to rain mea culpas down,
go to rehab, tap dance, do the electric bugaloo and pretend to be off meds to
get second chances. <~~ A
teachable moment in Black History Month. "




As GAM would say, "there endeth the lesson".

Michele said...

I'm Team Giselle all the way.  If someone was screaming at me that someone "owned" my husband -- yeah, I'd be hard-pressed to keep my mouth shut too.  Good for her.  She's not going to lose her job for defending her husband.  She'll be just fine.

Mr. Martin on the other hand **smh** he should have known that the rules are different for him and he should have put his phone down during the game.  He may be suspended for now, but I predict that he too will be just fine

thinklikeRiley said...

ey yo - Gizzy is a blonde supermodel married to a blonde supermodel who happens to play quarterback- she could flip off the president on nationwide tv and get away wi dat ish

Rolo should know how da game is played by now. C'mon son. You can't actually say what you think?! This is America.

diamond life said...

I think I've posted 10 tweets and they were RTs of something Chele said or wrote. Not every thought is meant to be shared.

SingLikeSassy said...

Well now, Roland tweeted some other ratchetness in the past, too, and I think it was the sum total of tweets that got him in trouble not just the specific tweet on Sunday.

Either way, he rubs me wrong as he comes off as greasy preacher man.

But if Juan Williams can rebound, I feel sure we will see Roland again.

Trey Charles said...

Roland will be alright - if he ever was.
I'm not mad at SuperVicky - that's what she's supposed to do. Perhaps not with a reporter so close.

taut_7 said...

while i don't like roland i don't think he was really advocating beating up homosexuals. that sounds like something my boys and i would joke about in private. the thing is i would never publicly make those statements. it seems a lot of what roland did before has come back to bite him. truth be told he's a douche. if you've seen his twitter beefs with "regular" people it begs the question, why hasn't he been suspended before this?

giselle gets no sympathy from me either. i dont' like the patriots and i'm glad they lost. cheaters never prosper.

Cassie said...

 Agreed, cosign, nodding affirmatively.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

I have no idea who Ronald is. You can just tell how many times CNN graces my tv screen.

As for Gisele? Not the first time she's shoved her 12-mile leg down her throat.

La said...

I honestly felt a little bad for Giselle. True, she shoulda waited til she got home to vent, but she got goaded into comment and a private convo with a friend was recorded by a stranger who wasn't press and leaked to the media. She shoulda been more careful, but that's pretty messy.

As far as Huggy Bear goes, for once I didn't think he got shafted on the opportunity to redeem himself because of his race. He had MORE than enough time to sincerely apologize and move on. I was following him still at the time when he sent out those tweets, and true to his condescending nature, he went on to defend his tweets, offer up the "I know gay people" mea culpa and then, when that failed to work, out and out insulted followers who dared call him on his crap. And he bungled that apology afterwards about as much as one can bungle an apology.

Do I believe Roland Martin is a raging homophobe who advocates for violence against gays? No. But he did make a "joke" that was both homophobic and steeped in sexism. Had it been an isolated event he might have gotten away with it. He's gotten away with worse comments. But unfortunately this was just the latest in a long line of homophobic and sexist remarks from him. He's been lucky up until this point. On Super Bowl Sunday, his luck ran out.

maureen said...

 I'm not a big fan of  RM. i find him very combative. With that said, I don't think  his tweet warranted a suspension. I wonder though why GLAAD put fire under CNN  and not TVOne  where he anchors a one hour show?

GrownAzzMan said...

"Only white folks who generate millions are allowed to say whatever the heck they want and keep rolling. Black folks have to rain mea culpas down, go to rehab, tap dance, do the electric bugaloo and pretend to be off meds to get second chances. <~~ A teachable moment in Black History Month."

#Nodding. If you are a public figure, Twitter is a loaded gun and should be used with caution. That being said it takes a huge leap to take what Roland said as an anti-gay slur. Sometimes these activist groups (including some African-American ones) go way to far to seize on something and stay relevant.

GrownAzzMan said...

I almost did say that...LOL

GrownAzzMan said...

Problem is, everybody with a cam phone is a reporter these days. I am so glad I'm not famous...

Cheryl Terry said...

This should definitely be a lesson to all who fill the need to tweet every thought that comes mind. Why folks seemingly have a false sense of security behind the guise of social media is beyond me. Do I believe Roland should have been suspended indefinitely because of the comment, not really, reprimanded yes. Hopefully others will take heed and think before they tweet. We'll see how this will ultimately play out for Roland...#lessonlearned?

As for Giselle, we are all human. She was definitely baited; several cameras in her face, people yelling from various directions and the comment about someone owning my husband (which took things to far) I would probably lose my cool.

BklynBajan said...

I agree with this post in theory however I have not an iota of a da#n for Gisele. She needs to sat all the way down _______> over there. She's been an albatross around Brady's neck since they got together.  Cheaters never win.  Oh freaking well. Glad you made it to Super Bowl so we could whoop your behind again. Truth be told the score should have been a lot higher and Giants didn't play their best either. However in the clutch we came through as a team. Even with the mishap of scoring instead of running the clock. Eli is a humble leader. Eli owns your husband. Get over it boo, be quiet and find a charity to start working off your bad mojo.

Roland - big noise over nothing. With the ADD of the press and public as soon as the next big thing blows up he'll be back at CNN. I thought the commercial was stupid and agreed with his tweet. But hey I only have 12 followers (whats up ya'll!). That said my mouth is a deadly weapon and while people (think) they can dish it I have learned its not worth it bringing people to tears with a dose of their own medicine. I watch what I say on FB and instead have a pen to paper journal. If I ever become famous enough for someone to publish after my demise some people will sorely surprised about my true feelings.

Nadette said...

I've been MIA for a bit, but boy am I glad to be back today! 'Po'Po #ascotstruggle<---DEAD! Oh Roland Martin. I generally like him, because he really says what he thinks, which is no small order as a fat black man on CNN. However, there have been several occaisions when Roland has gone to bat for some straight ratchet folks, starting with when he defended Tracy Morgan's dispicable homophobic "comedy" rant. I had to give 'po'po the laserbeam side eye. That in combination with his mindless tweet makes me think that he's not as progressive as I would like him to be...but then again, homophobia within the black male community is a hard thing to erase, smh,

*off to go stalk his twitter feed*

still lmao...#ascotstruggle. #shotsfired #lmao

CaliGirlED said...

 TVOne is irrelevant to them. If the Black guy wants to spout out to the Black audience, so what, but he "ain't gonna" spout out to us, not on our channel! No Sir!!!

TrulyPC said...

It's not the first time RM made comments that weren't exactly public worthy.  He has been spanked now let's hope that he learns that lesson.  #AscotStruggle- -BWAH HA HA HA.  I always told people that ascot was an optical illusion (i.e."hair piece" for his neck).

"Only white folks who generate millions are allowed to say whatever the heck they want and keep rolling."   Ugh. So true!



 

AnnettePearl said...

Did you see Rolo's wife's tweets today? These wives!

JoycelynC said...

I actually read the stuff GLAAD sent out and it was clear they have long not been a fan of his and this was simply the last straw in their eyes.  They posted a very detailed list of things he has said and done in the past that they felt were offensive to gay people.  As I don't follow Mr. Martin I can't say whether they were all as small as this.   

Sol_dier said...

My caucasian friends tweet about racism i.e. condemning a racist video e.t.c. I STFU.
The last time I stood up to someone who threatened me. The law got involved. I got in trouble. Will not happen again. The world does not need to know my opinion.  

Leon X said...

Giselle Bundchen

She said what any Patriots fan would have said at the time. Her only problem is that she was on tape when she said it and she's married to the QB.

Roland Martin

1) GLAAD read what they wanted into his Tweet. If he says "If a dude at your Super Bowl party is hyped about David Beckham’s H&M underwear ad, question his fashion choices!" we're not having this conversation.

2) It's never a good look to advocate violence against anyone in a public forum. If I Tweet "
If a dude at your Super Bowl party is near Roland Martin after he tweeted out that garbage, smack the ish out of him! " I'd be wrong. You would think someone in the media like Roland would be wary of what he communicates out to the world.

Sol_dier said...

I don't know why Roland didn't just opt for a more 'jokey' explanation to blow it all over??? Something like: 
'I meant the ads were not as risque as the emporio armani ones'?
'We expect a little more from David 'Golden Balls' Beckham
'That's not a real man, that's a model, real men have jelly rolls'.

So many different ways to blow off the heat. 

rozb said...

I couldn't care less about Giselle acting a fool. I was more concerned about seeing Rish Limbaugh in the owner's box picking his nose cheering on MY TEAM! Congrats Giants...

Honestly - I would not expect to see RM suspended, but can I just say I am tired of Apology Tours? Everybody is gonna get offended, and not each group is gonna be happy. Karl Lagerfeld called Adele fat - HE BETTA APOLOGIZE TO HER NOW! Tracy Morgan made bad gay jokes - FIRE HIM NOW! Being PC and sensitive has crossed the line when everyday people and some celebrities aren't entitled to say what they feel out loud.

If you influence and control policies and affect the lives of the populace, then your opinion matters, and the things you say do count. But if you are a talking head, a celeb who sells body butter, or just the average everyady person, who gives a flying hoo ha what you think? So many of these groups are willing to hold folks hostage to their viewpoints. If you agree with them right on! If you don't, how dare you say anything in public that may be an insult?

For the record, RM's tweet wasn't that bad, but he bumbled and mumbled an excuse and threw away his opportunity to address it in an intelligent manner. Perhaps media outlets may need to tell their folks no interaction with social media unless they approve of it. If you are in the public eye, you cannot have any right to say what you want on your own time. But doesn't that run counter to the essence of free speech?

BTW - Roland Martin looks like a hairy roll-on deodorant when he is wearing an ascot. Ooohhh - don't let the disenfranchised ascot segment of America get mad at me!

OneChele said...

I saw it. I also saw she deleted her account. SMH.

GuessImJay said...

So it's bad that I don't care about either one of them?

C Nelson said...

 I think people forget there are two sides to this argument. You're perfectly free tosay anything you want, "PC" or not. But the people who disagree with you are also perfectly free to say and do anything they want as a result, as long as they stay on the right side of legal. You're only guaranteed free speech, not consequence-free speech.

Cheryl Terry said...

I definitely understand your point. I would not suggest anyone lose their cool to the point that the law is involved...most things once we sit back and reflect, is never as serious as it is in the moment. My point however, was that I could see why Giselle made the comment she did. I don't think it was right but she felt defensive and she responded in a very human way.

C Nelson said...

I don't know who either of these people is, and I'm okay with that. They both sound like they forgot that they're not living back in 1975, though, when things like this tended to be one-way communications and the folks at home could only write a letter to the editor to make their displeasure known. These days, you have to be mindful that your audience talks back, and between Twitter, FaceBook, petitions, and angry emails to your employer and their sponsors, it doesn't take much longer for the righteous smackdown to be delivered to you than it took you to say whatever foolishness you said in the first place.

Sol_dier said...

oh I completely agree with you. I was more responding to your thoughts on twitter.

GammasWorld said...

As one who will tweet a random thought at any dang time,  I'm glad I'm not famous.   Giselle.  Well everyone with a "smart phone" is a reporter now.  Remember that.  She'll be fine tho the Patriot wives and SO's won't be inviting her to any get shindigs any time soon.   RM well I will say this outrage surprised me.  I saw the tweet and I didn't give it a second thought.   As much as it embarrasses me, I have to say it wasn't unusual to hear "I'll knock the black of you" as a way to uh emphasize things.  And that's how I took RM's comment - in one ear and out the other.   Other people didn't.  That's the difference between him and me.  People listen to him and pay me no mind.  Pretty sure he's got it now. 

Brenda Kay said...

Obviously, I'm one of the few women who doesn't have a problem with Brandon Jacobs' oh, so perfect response to Giselle Brady. She spoke her mind and he did as well. Trophy wives needs to know the perimeters of their lane or they risk being reminded of what their role is. 

Roland "Does this ascot make my head look fat" Martin gets zero sympathy from me as well. He is simply experiencing the karmic payback that he accumulated during that shameful incident where Andrew Breitbart released that doctored video of Shirley Sherrod that lead to her unfair dismissal from the USDA. For those who don't remember, Roly-Rol came out immediately on Twitter and FB loudly and repeatedly demanding that Mrs. Sherrod should be fired for what he called her "disgraceful and embarrassing" behavior. But what was really disgraceful and embarrassing was Roly-Rol jumping the gun and siding with a known fraud and liar rather than gathering all the facts that he as a journalist should have done. 

Reaping what you sow is just not some old wives tale...

Rubie said...

I call BS on the Roland Martin situation he didn't say anything wrong. GLAAD can miss me with the bull. I read a article that they are looking to target black folks now because they feel we are the most homophobic group. Yet another label and sterotype thrown on us *rolleyes* Roland always tweets in jest and in fun. 

M Dot said...

Whomever from BnB follows my on twitter knows how I felt about the situation. I'll leave it there. 

For once, however, I wish the MSM would admit that the rules were different.  Dana Loesch, anyone? But they never will. BET was supposed to be that "speak your mind" outlet for US but they squandered their social capital long ago by destroying the news program (Ed Gordon, pre-Haterade sippin' Tavis Smiley, Jacque Reid) and the intelligent teen shows that required an IQ higher than 70 (we miss you, Ananda Lewis).

Crystal said...

I agree!!! Twitter has been the social downfall and death of many celebs.  I still do not for the life of me understand why they do not understand the importance of watching what you say, especially when they are speaking to the entire world!!!!! 

CaliGirlED said...

"Roland "Does this ascot make my head look fat" Martin"... I DIED!!!

Singlelif said...

They'd better get off  "Teddy Ruxpin" ! I actually enjoy reading all of "Roland's Rules", and thought he was preaching the gospel in his comment about Beckham's drawers.  Flatazz and all...

As for Giselle, my boy Brandon Jacobs was on point in saying she should just "stay cute", and go the hell on..Did anybody read her email asking for "prayers for Brady" in that game ?  It was on the front page of the NY newspapers.  When asked about it she confirmed it was legit, and was only sent out to "close friends and relatives".  Humph, since they loss and she's losing in the media..perhaps she should just go somewhere and sit down.  #BigBlue

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