Monday, January 30, 2012

Bougie Bachelor Chronicles - Twitter troubles


Le Dude has a crew of guys here in Dallas that he knows from his Georgia days. Some were his line brothers, others they adopted to the crew along the way. We've come to call the main group of six the Georgia Boys. David found BougieLand first and then joined Twitter. Trey followed and eventually Jay, Shawn, Wes and Bryan followed suit.

When all of the Georgia Boys joined Twitter, they thought it would be a fun way to keep up with each other and folks they'd met on the Innanets. There were some growing pains - they had to learn the difference between what you text and what you tweet. There was a learning curve about how to check and reply to DMs. (Some of them are still challenged.) There were rules of engagement about how much to share and what to keep to yo' damn self. Others realized that alcohol and Twitter are a dangerous combination. And some were slower to understand that what happens on Twitter is pretty much broadcast out into the world forever. Forever ever? Forever ever.

So right after the New Year's Eve debacle where we all very publicly tweeted our displeasure with each other, we had a CTJ (Come to Jesus) meeting about how Twitter will forevermore be used amongst us. (respectfully with discretion and humor) At some point during that discussion - it was discovered that three of the Georgia Boys were semi-sort of hollering at the same chick in DMs. Two of them were in trouble for tweeting foolishness that their wives read. Another realized that his boss was following him and reading every word. Another found out that a girl he had broken up with (and considered taking out a restraining order against) was following him under an alias. Whelp!

Now these are smart guys but somehow sitting behind a keyboard in an open forum things got complicated. It was decided that perhaps a period of reflection would be in order? A review of what works and what does not? They decided to self-suspend for 30 days. The suspension lifts tomorrow. Welcome the wiser Georgia Boys back to Twitlandia.

BougieLand - are folks less careful on forums like Twitter than they are in real life? Do you pay attention to the people that follow you? Have you ever been involved in some Twitter drama. And any words of advice for the fellas? Do share...

44 comments:

Leon X said...

Georgia Boys 2.0?

taut_7 said...

i can't say that i pay attention to people that follow me. i know quite of few of my followers in real life but there are just as many that i've never met a day in my life. i am careful about what i tweet though. i'll never tweet anything personal or about my love life. ever. 

also, since my account is unlocked i only put my first name in my bio. even though its african, its still a very common name. i don't need someone from my job following me or people knowing my full government. 

CaliGirlED said...

This is too funny! And just the other day I was wondering about a few of them and what they were up to. But with my own damn crazy bout to choke a mofo business to tend to I didn't ask. LOL! Well you guys are coming back on my birthday, I say Tuesday will be a great day all around! *raises a champagne glass*

So 3 were DMing the same chick huh? *falls out into hysterical laughter* Ok, I'm back. So does she get to pick one, or did you all agree to back away? (rhetorical) *snickers*

And this is why I don't let just anyone follow me. Especially since I tweet my job frustrations. Plus I like to know who my audience is, who's looking and listening. I know if folks are clever enough they can hack and do all that other sophisticated IT stuff, but I'm not all-o-dat to have somebody that intrigued, so I don't get too concerned. If I don't know you, or know someone else that follows you, you are getting blocked. I am NOT an open book for all to read.

MsJamie14 said...

BWA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!

(that's all I got, sorry.  lol)

NY2VA said...

My words of wisdom have to do with keeping your worlds separate.  If you want to be able to do and say ignant ish on the interwebs, use a twitter account with an alias.  If you want your colleagues and co-workers to follow you but not be all up in your ratchet online shenaningans, create an account for that purpose as well.   I have a twitter account for all things funny and ratchet, which has no parts of my gov't name attached nor implied.   I also have a professional twitter account with my gov't name, which I use for job and ed related stuff.  Never shall the twain meet.  Co-workers and colleagues can follow my gov't name account and whatever, but they have no access to my personal one.  I wish I would follow my superintendent of schools with my ratchet twitter account.  He follows back.  I might lose my damn job.  

tishatweets said...

Oh wow. Lol. Poor things! I get flack for it, but my Twitter account shall forever and ever amen be locked. Not because I tweet reckless, but because I don't want people from my job or my students to be able to follow me. There has to be some safe place in social media--and Facebook ain't it. LOL. I think the funniest thing in THIS story is the guys both DMing the same chick. That's really too bad. Bwahahaha!

But yes there are rules to these interwebz and I guess as long as they've learned their lessons, all is well. ;)

SingLikeSassy said...

This is why I have two twitter accounts, blogs etc.  Even though not much of what I say as SLS is cringeworthy, you never know what an employer might decide is over the line.

Andalsoplus, I discuss things about my personal life as SLS that is not the business of the people who follow the "real" me, many of whom are people in my industry or who follow my work as a journalist.

The only followers that irritate me are the nekkid spambots. Go away. Otherwise, follow away. I don't follow everybody. Until recently I followed 16 people.  Then I added some bougenista folks.

The only drama I was in on twitter is when I said wondered how Jacque Reed could go from interviewing presidents of these United States to begging for baby juice and pushing a dog in a stroller on TV. She wasn't happy with that and I guess she was saying I was a hater. No, what I was saying is that not many journalists of color get some of the opportunities that she was squandering by looking like a fool on reality TV. But that's her career so I'll let her worry about that and I'll stay focused on mine.

TrulyPC said...

Whew. *wipes light perspiration from brow* 

I have a twitter account but I have never tweeted.  I opened an account to follow some things in the political realm but I have been apprehensive about sending a tweet.  I don't feel confident in my Twitter abilities and the thought
of a mishap always left me teetering on the edge of "don't do it".   This post definitely has given me more to think about before taking the leap.  Thanks Georgia Boys:-)

Trey Charles said...

Wayment - what had happened was - it wasn't as bad as all that... okay, yes it was. Lessons learned, ma.

bashowell said...

I never tweet anything that I might have to explain later.  No one from work is even on Twitter (I work w/a bunch of old folks) so I don't really worry about that.  But I do have common sense that what is public will always be public.  I don't have that many followers at all so I know who's who because of that.  I don't do drama - Twitter or otherwise.  I'm not against watching from the sidelines w/my popcorn, though...

Reecie said...

I am careful what I tweet. I filter myself a lot because I type like I talk mostly except I read it over before hitting send. a lot of times I just delete what I was getting ready to send all together. 

I do pay attention to who follows me which is why my page is protected/locked. I like the ability to approve who sees my tweets. nobody in my professional life follows me on twitter or is my facebook friend. I keep my social media life very separate except for LinkedIn. 

I haven't been involved in twitter drama but I have subtweeted someone I was in a relationship/dealing with before during frustrating times. Its easier to just vent to your friends offline or have a convo with Jesus. lol 

My advice: your tweets are being archived by the Library of Congress. the screenshot world is very real  so even if you go to delete, someone may still have it. Think about what you share with the world, keep some of you FOR you, and don't use twitter as therapy. That's all I got. 

GrownAzzMan said...

I hope wiser doesn't mean less entertaining. IJS

GrownAzzMan said...

About number 2. That is why you will not find my real name or pic in twitterworld. Not that I tweet anything personal but I have been know to wax political and don't necessarily need everyone to know that I think most Repubs and ALL of the Tea Party are racist asshats. Oops, did I type that?

rozb said...

Those 140 characters will hit you all upside your head if you tweet drunk, high, mad, or ill-informed.

ASmith said...

Folks seriously rely on anonymity too much.  You can use a fake name all you want, but Google and Facebook have essentially guaranteed that it's possible to still figure out who you are.  Folks just say any and everything and I guess because TLs move so fast these days they think their thought had 2 minutes (if that) of fame and it disappeared.  For one, if you've ever had someone @ you about a tweet from 2 days ago, you know that's not true and for two the LOC is always watching.

I sometimes notice when I get new followers but I've quit investigating every person that pops up.  If you engage me well I'm way more likely to follow and my profile isn't locked so there isn't a reason for me to bother with paranoia.  I've already been followed by folks I wish wouldn't, but ::shrug::

I don't do Twitter drama, but more and more of my convos with people are including "girl, did you see what so-and-so said on Twitter?!" and they are rarely talking about a celebrity.

ASmith said...

People really underestimate the screenshot game.  I don't know how folks have time, but they do and they use it just for that.

ASmith said...

I made the mistake on relying on the commonality of my name... we fixed that post haste when folks started finding me very easily on twitter.  No thank you muchly with the creepers.

Jubi The Great said...

I had Twitter-related drama once, and never again. After it was over I was more pissed off at myself than I was at the other person.

I absolutely pay attention to who I follow but not so much who follows me - my followers count is abt 4X the number of ppl I'm following. But I pay attention to my TL - you can learn A LOT from what ppl say, don't say & who they @. Jubi be watching...LOL

BklynBajan said...

Every time I think about unlocking my twitter something like this pops up and reminds me why I keep it so private. Special shout out to my chosen 12 (LOL)! I may expand to 16 this year but I doubt my private account will ever  reach triple digits.

M Dot said...

As a few of you know,  my first twitter mishap ended up in the local paper some years back.   Thanks to a Twitter-savvy friend, that was the end of my public feed. Private account holder for life. 

I hate being asked why my account is private, when they KNOW the answer is because people are newsy. And I am more than comfortable telling my family that no, you will not have access.  Everybody needs their own space.  The funny thing is how people really take it personal when you unfollow. I'm just a regular person, it is not that serious.

PS: I have achieved victory, as I have talked my parents out of social media accounts several times. 

maureen said...

I pay attention to  who I follow- most of the people I follow are courtesy of OneChele/BnB. Speaking of people I follow,day time job just sent  us an email asking  those of us with LinkedIn and Twitter to add our company. Hell. To.The.No.
I tweet about politics and nothing controversial.
I tweet about celebrity crushes.
I tweet about the only reality tv show I watch; Love and Hip Hop- love me some  of dipset boys
I  mostly tweet the mundane stuff, nothing risque.

maureen said...

OOMF is a screenshot guy and fake tweet connoisseur.

CCDreamz said...

1) I got an email just for my twitter account.
2) I told not a single friend, family member, or coworker my screen name.
3) I post an avi that is not my real pic.
4) I then let loose as I see fit.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

My main Twitter account is the one I use for my illustration business. I have another for ratchet purposes but, since I'm in promotion-mode this year, I haven't used it in a long time. Hence, I go out of my way to keep Business Twitter art-related and sparkling clean.

The last thing I need a major children's publisher to see is my friend and I discussing the latest ridiculousness we saw in Tumblr porn gifs. No Sir, no Ma'am.

Sol_dier said...

#winning. 
Don GrownAzzMan: I see nothing, I hear nothing, I say nothing. 

Sol_dier said...

lol. creepers are real & thirsty

tishatweets said...

LOL. My mom is on Facebook. Both of my parents, actually. But I doubt either of them will see the light of the Twitter. Even though I am exactly the same on Twitter as I am off Twitter (some people really do construct totally new social network personas which is mind-blowing to me, but to each their own), and won't tweet anything that could come back to bite me, I agree with you--space is needed.

tishatweets said...

That "delete before you tweet" struggle is real, Sissy. LMBO!!!

GuessImJay said...

Twitter is the devil.

CaliGirlED said...

Hahaha!!! That's right GAM, "Never let anyone outside the family know what you're thinking"!...The Godfather was, is and always will be the bizness!

CaliGirlED said...

*raises hand* What is a "fake tweet connoisseur"?

CaliGirlED said...

"The funny thing is how people really take it personal when you unfollow. I'm just a regular person, it is not that serious."...WHY did I receive a text about this this very morning??? Ion know you like dat!

C Nelson said...

Aaaaannnd this would be why my Twitter account is protected. *laugh.* Not that I tweet often, but when I do, I really want to know who's reading, thank you. Same with my LJ -- I've said a lot in the dozen years I've had it, but almost none of it publicly. Is it foolproof? Naww. Does it head off 99% of that foolishness, though? Absolutely.

tiffanyinhouston said...

Twitter account is locked. Blog/Twitter account does not link to Facebook at all. EVER.

Twitter is for my ratchetness. Facebook is the nice me.

invectiva said...

Disclaimer: I think I've tweeted maybe half dozen times and I only follow about 20 people, largely technical folks. I'm on tons of other types of social media, though.

I'm a musician, and a (minor minor minor) celebrity in some places. Because I've been in the public eye since childhood and I've been publicly online since ... 1992ish... I've been keeping my private info private for a long time, and those habits have served me well with social media.

Now, Google definitely ruined everything with their technical integration when very few people (who should have known better) pointed my real name to my online persona back a decade ago or so, but I shed that connection in a few years and now am mostly known online by my stage name. There's still a lot more overlap between my technical day job, my outside hobbies (that get press), and my music life than I'd like, but in general I keep things as separate as I can. I keep my facebook updates light /funny / impersonal, ignore the impulse to diary my day to day life, and do *not* talk about anything inflammatory in unlocked social media. I don't want to alienate my audiences, even if/when they're being stupid. (The political climate on my fb "friends" list right now is best described as "intolerantly ignorant". I do not know how I'm gonna make it to election time without killin' some folks.)

Coco said...

So was the woman receptive to all 3 men?

La said...

I love twitter. Mostly because I am rarely if ever serious there, and my quality control game for who I follow and interact with is on point, lol. I loosely monitor who follows me. And I don't seem to have the same issues lots of other people have with it i.e: drama, trolling, etc.

My twitter account is me, but I am still careful on there like I am the rest of my online life. I NEVER talk about work. Ever. I rarely tweet about where I am and if I do, I wait until I've left. I have never hollered at anyone on twitter because I believe that 60% of twitter is married/engaged/boo'ed up folks masquerading like single for the Twitter streets. lol

I WILL NOT however, EVER link my twitter account to Facebook. For me Facebook has become where random high school folk, exes, used to be friends and family members go to find out nothing about me. lol

rozb said...

If I do not have the guts to say it to you in person, I will not tweet it. Too many chances of you getting your feelings hurt in a roundabout way.

BTW - I have no qualms about reporting somebody as spam or blocking them. None at all.

Rubie said...

I do not have my real name or use an email address that anybody knows about. My pic is up though but I keep it clean and on the straight and narrow 99% of the time. 

Brenda Kay said...

I use Twitter to stay connected to the latest motor sports news, to drivers in the sport and some fellow textile artists. Facebook is where I'm a bit more open and relaxed - posting my political rants and the occasional personal comment.

Wambuig said...

"I see people on the street talking to themselves and I want to tell them about twitter"
Yes this is where all the craziness comes through.  I don't have my Twitter account linked to my FB and the email attached is one that I am very inactive with. I mainly follow professional groups. I don't take twitter seriously on a one on one...

GammasWorld said...

Well I have two accounts ... one for gubment name and this one.   I try hard to keep the two apart but I have one person that figured it out because by the freakiest of circumstances they followed both my ID's and I tweeted about a business trip to NYC under both names.  Lesson learned.  With that said, if anyone finds me so fascinating in real life that they just must find me on Twitter, then I've made it easy for them to find my gubment name.  Have at it.  It will lead you to LinkedIn too.   I've spent my whole life having to watch what I say lest I hurt someone's feelings or will have to explain why I feel a certain way.  Twitter allows me to spout out my randomness with a freedom I find hard to reach in real life.  The thing is, I'm not tweeting anything.  Okay I do vent about the gig but names are never ever involved.   I've written some posts on my blog that have been very personal and to be honest they were written more out of my need for therapy that I couldn't afford.  I'm not ashamed of them (anymore) but I know my mom would be hurt if she found out I "spilled family secrets" but I was tired of thinking I was the crazy one in the family LOL. Anywho Twitter takes some getting to know and some precautions.  

mutemia said...

See this why I've never been much for twitter, facebook, and the like. I'm a fairly private person and I have no interest in putting my life out there for everyone to see.

sell electronics said...

That's indeed alarming.

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