Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Let's talk about... cuddling

Cuddle - verb: 
1. to hold close for warmth or comfort or in affection 
2. to lie close or snug
Somebody put "Baby, it's cold outside" on repeat.

Not only 'tis the season for TapBack, 'tis the season for Cuddle Cocoa. Yes, that innocent "it's cold why don't we warm up by the fireplace" moment that turns into boom-chicka-wow-wow by morning. But does it always have to go from one to the other?

Dig deep, people. We're getting touchy feely today. Okay, we're not but we are going to discuss touching, hugging and squeezing... in a non-cocoa stirring kind of way. The question was posed to me - is there such a thing as platonic cuddling between adults? 

Sometimes I'm a cuddler, sometimes I need my space but that's with the current s/o. We can sit on top of each other and watch a movie and it just means we're sitting watching a movie. Sir Naps-A-Lot is perfectly fine to cuddle up and get a snore on, no strings attached. However, there was one guy I was seeing who basically said, "If we're close to horizontal and you're touching me, I expect it to lead somewhere." Alright then. Good to know.

Outside of s/o's I can't really see myself hugged up on some guy that I wasn't a) related to or b) attracted to. But that's me now.

I remember back in my post-college days, my roommate and I had a group of male friends we hung out with regularly. We traveled, we partied, we grilled at the lake, we crashed at each other's houses. There was a lot of cuddle time and sleeping in same beds with no cocoa happening. I don't know if the guys thought something would go down at some point but the roomie and I weren't even thinking about it. Never occurred to us, never happened.

Then again, we were 23. At this point in life, I can think of only one male friend that I would be all huddled up with and not think anything of it. He's one of my best friends from high school. I think when you've known someone for 20+ years and it's never been about romance, you're pretty much staying in the Friend Zone. Maybe not, his wife has been giving me the side-eye for years. 

I guess this goes back to that age old "can men and women really just be friends" question. Does cuddle time always have to lead to cocoa time? If you are hugged up on somebody, are you sending the "do me" signals without meaning to? Is there a certain age past which you just need to keep your distance unless you are looking for more? Ladies? Gents? Please discuss...

103 comments:

Slimuel L. Jackson said...

Cuddle time doesn't have to lead cocoa time, but sometimes cocoa time leads to post coital reluctant spooning.

I'm one of those men that has the ability to cuddle up with someone and expect it to go absolutely no where. Sometimes I just enjoy company while watching movie. Sometimes I wanna enjoy some warm goodness without going into the warm goodness. But as I've learned the hard way (no raunch), cuddling up with someone that you have no intention of doing the horizontal cat daddy with is a bad idea. Even when it's communicated that you don't intend for it to go beyond cuddling, some folks ignore and think that it's going there anyway. 

Jubi The Great said...

When I was in college I had a couple cuddle buddies. Now that I think back on it, I'm sure they wanted to take it further but didn't press the issue.

I love to cuddle, especially when it's cold - I keep my heat low so I'm always under a blanket. I like physical touch tho, so that's probably why.

bashowell said...

Now personally I need my space.  I don't like to be touched.  It's irritating.  Should I ever marry I wouldn't mind a Queen Elizabeth/Prince Phillip situation w/separate bedrooms. 

But looking back on college days there was a big co-ed group of us that hung out.  There would be gatherings in the Clusters on campus and folks would end up casually cuddling.  Nothing expected.  Definitely platonic.  The three couples that hooked up were pretty much hooked up from the beginning (and still are) and everyone else was just friends. 

Now?  I'on know.  Most people are married or have an S/O so that line would never be crossed among the group. Generally speaking, I can usually pick up a vibe from someone as to whether they are more horizontally interested than not.  So I govern myself accordingly - no touching, no hugs, nothing that could be taken as a "signal".  You barely get a smile on some days.

MsJamie14 said...

I have a good number of close male friends, and while we might be road tripping and sleep in the same bed, ain't no cuddling going on. I like to at least keep lines as clearly drawn as possible.

Then again, due to my lack of body fat, I've never been a prime candidate for cuddle only time. LOL.

Brandon St.Randy said...

Look. I don't knock nobody's hustle. Get it how you live. That said, platonic cuddling is equivalent to waving the white flag and conceding defeat to life. Sure, it sounds all nice and sweet and wholesome, but really, it's an admission that you're the second choice and the only reason you're there is because it's chilly out and the first choice wasn't available. Because if either of you were each other's first choice, you'd be cutting, not cuddling. Get you a Forever Lazy and let that sucker you were going to convince to get blue balls (or ovaries) be great elsewhere

Just_A_Thought1218 said...

Cuddle time doesn't always have to lead to cocoa time, but you are walking a fine line if one or both parties have even the smallest idea about stepping out of the platonic zone. What may be just an innocent hug/cuddle session/crashing at someone's house in your mind is the greenlight someone has been looking for to take things to the next level. I believe in making boundaries known, and sending dudes to the cut pile if they violate said boundaries. No need to waste my time with people who disrespect me.  Also, I firmly believe that you don't engage in certain activities until you know the person well enough to determine that they will respect your boundaries. As you get older, you learn to discern who these people are, and then you also learn to avoid unnecessary headaches.

Anonymous said...

The only man Imma be all up on like that is my fiance. I'm of the mind that I, maybe not other women, can't just be platonic with most men. Even the male BFF I have now, I wanted to hit a couple a few years ago.

Charla

GrownAzzMan said...

"If we're close to horizontal and you're touching me, I expect it to lead somewhere."
I resemble this remark...

maureen said...

 Does cuddle time always have to lead to cocoa time?  Yes and no, and that is why I will avoid horizontal position with someone I consider a friend. It's a slippery slope. I will brew threee  pots of tea  and avoid  a SNAFU.

CaliGirlED said...

Cuddle time does not always have to lead to cocoa. I definitely enjoy being cuddled up when it's cold, just watching TV or even talking. But that's with someone that I'm seeing, whether we've previously stirred the cocoa or not, there has to be an interest/attraction. I personally don't get platonic cuddling. For the what? While it doesn't have to lead to cocoa, for me, it is an act of intimacy. Which means that me and my good/best/greatest friend (male or female) can not just lay on a couch or in a bed and cuddle.

Picture it: You walk into your SO's house and they're cuddled up on the couch with their BFF. What happens next? They jump up, they leisurely get up, they continue to cuddle, you join them, you sit over there? I'm sorry, I just don't see it as being "all good".

Now I have cuddled up with my daughter, or other children who I took on a nurturing role with. That kind of love and warmth is absolutely priceless!

Sol_dier said...

Coupledom benefits = being able to just be. you know?.
Its all well and good jumping bones but there are times when something else is required. 
There is something a little bit deeper than the physical expression, sometimes thats just being held and being quiet in each others company... nice 

oh this post just reminded me, didn't you promise a post on Tantric cocoa? is that coming soon?

blackprofessor said...

No country for platonic cuddling! Either we are cut, cocoa and cuddle buddies or we are not!

Can men and women be friends? Sure, as long as boundaries are clearly drawn, maintained and respected. One of my besties is a guy and we have never crossed that line after being friends for more than 2 decades.  It can be done but all parties have to respect the friendship.

Sol_dier said...

Coupledom cuddling gets cool points from me.
Was introduced to both male & female cuddle buddies in boarding school 

1st 'lights out' induced the most heart wrenching sobs from my fellow 8yr - 10yr old dorm mates. Lots of girls sobbed  themselves to sleep or just sat in bed gulping back tears. Being homesick is no joke. I used to just put my pillow over my head but it wasn't strange for the younger girls to climb into bed with 10yr olds and be cuddle to sleep. Thats was my first intro to it.

With the guys, the boys got bullied really bad at school, so we sort of buddied up with them and made them our pseudo 'little brothers' (at that age we were usually taller than they were). Afternoon prep and night prep in junior years was agonising for some folks.

I guess that experience wore me out of 'friend cuddle buddies' I kinda only like to do it with a Significant Other now cos the dynamic is different.

BlackButterfly said...

"I personally don't get platonic cuddling. For the what? While it
doesn't have to lead to cocoa, for me, it is an act of intimacy."

This is it right here for me.  I will cuddle with my blanket but not someone that is not an SO.  I like defined boundaries.

"Picture it: You walk into your SO's house and they're cuddled up on the
couch with their BFF. What happens next? They jump up, they leisurely
get up, they continue to cuddle, you join them, you sit over there? I'm
sorry, I just don't see it as being "all good". "

LOL.  For me that would be an unequivocal "it's a wrap" because there is nothing that will take that image out of my head. 

md_KG said...

3 words:  intentions, boundaries, dynamics. If any of those are out of sync or there is miscommunication, there will be problems.

BlackButterfly said...

I learned the lesson of defined boundaries in college.  A really good male friend of mine caught me off guard when we were hugging goodbye and he kissed me on my neck.  You would have thought a spider (which I am extremely afraid of) had crawled into the scene.  There was a painful aftermath and I lost someone that was a really good friend.  DEFINED boundaries ever since. 

Like Black Professor says below; both people must respect the friendship.

Foxy Brown said...

i like to...no, love to cuddle. i have low body heat and am constantly looking for ways to stay warm. i sleep with my electric blanket year round.  i enjoy platonic cuddling. it takes the pressure off. we can lay back and chill. i don't know if it's different for same gender loving folks, but i've never had an issue with cuddling up with friends and such.

DCbywayofCali said...

I don't think I fully understand the concept of platonic cuddle time.  Too much hardware that could end up in all the wrong places. *Insert Al Bundy T-shirt* No Ma'am.

NY2VA said...

Picture it: You walk into your SO's house and they're cuddled up on the couch with their BFF. What happens next? They jump up, they leisurely get up, they continue to cuddle, you join them, you sit over there? I'm sorry, I just don't see it as being "all good".
I think that pretty much sums it up for me.

NY2VA said...

back in my single days couch/futon/on the bed on top of the covers cuddling was my way of giving a brotha the green light.  If  I was up under dude like that, it was for the purpose of  literally being up under dude in the very near future.  

Reecie said...

I'm not the cuddle only type. lol. Well, I guess I should say I'm not the cuddle only type with people that I  haven't done or would want to do more with. I like the option for more. That closeness is niiiiiice. watching a movie, weekend hanging out; yea cuddling is nice. Especially now that its getting cold but platonic cuddling doesn't exist in my world. I don't ever have the desire share my personal space all willy nilly. I am a touchy feely person but I need to LIKE YOU LIKE YOU. 

thinklikeRiley said...

Riley calls bullshiggity on platonic cuddle time. No. Get you a Snuggie for that ish.
We hugged up, things happen. That. is. all.

SingLikeSassy said...

If I'm all snugglybuggly with you, I want to give you some. The. End.

ClayJones said...

This entire post hurts my manly parts. Why? I mean, okay - we're having an emotional moment, we're watching TV, okay. But um, the prolonged lounging about in each others' arms with skin touching and nothing's going down? Or up?

Again - why?

Pure Choco said...

#NoCountryForPlatonicCuddles

AppleBerryMIA said...

This is something Rob and I had to work on. I'm a toucher. I'll reach out and stroke his arm, his back, his neck, his thigh without thinking about it. Finally, one day he snapped "Keep touching me like that and I'll give you something to stroke." He is not about the casual caress. Not at all.

#LessonLearned

taut_7 said...

cuddle time does not always equal s*x to me. if i really like you, i mean like who you are as a person and i enjoy spending time with you then yes i'll enjoy your embraces which include cuddling. i have thoughts of this tall woman whom i fancied and we would lay up in the bed and watch tv. our long legs intertwined. a lot of times no sex was involved. 

Alvin Milton said...

I thought I was buggin for a sec. Happened to me once and the situation confused me. If you come to my apt, late in the night, and THEN get into my bed talkin' about you want to cuddle, I definitely expect her to want more even if I'm not pressin for cheeks like that. 

But at the very least, I'm knocking at the door. 
Shoot... I even be knockin on that door in my sleep. 
Can't help it.

GuessImJay said...

Here's the deal - I don't mind a cuddle if at some point, doesn't even have to be the same night but at some point, it's going to be more. In other words, I will invest in the cuddle for a cocoa withdrawal later.

NY2VA said...

ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!  This is hilarious.

I had to learn the same thing with my husband.  He wasn't really down for the being stroked and caressed just because I loved him.   

tishatweets said...

Yeah no. I'm very affectionate. I'll hug my friends, kiss 'em on the cheek, but I'm not down for cuddling with someone who I only have platonic feelings for. It just.....I kinda can't make it compute. That said, cuddling doesn't always HAVE to lead to something beyond that. Sometimes I might want to be consoled, sometimes I might want to just feel his arms around me, sometimes I might not feel good and need his warmth and him to baby me. It could be any number of things, but ALL of them are with someone I'm feeling and someone who's feeling me.

Only1DivaC said...

Well at you are honest about it.

CaliGirlED said...

"This entire post hurts my manly parts."...Bwahahaha!!!

CaliGirlED said...

 *hollers screams yells cries in laughter* I am literally sitting here laughing not able to click "post"!!! *re-reads* LMAO!!!

CaliGirlED said...

"If you come to my apt, late in the night, and THEN get into my bed talkin' about you want to cuddle..." Silly rabbit, tricks are for kids! This is unnecessary shiggity right here! (Assuming, from your synopsis, that you guys were not an already-made couple.)

*throws yellow flag* Foul on the play: unnecessary touching! (stole that from you)

CaliGirlED said...

"I will invest in the cuddle for a cocoa withdrawal later."....*dies 1,000 times* I hear ya!

I love the Bougie Bruhs, their honesty slays me!!!

Earthangel172 said...

"Is there such a thing as platonic cuddling between adults?"

No such thing as platonic cuddling in my world. I have shared a bed with the opposite sex before and nothing happened but I don't cuddle with male friends. If we're cuddling, we're either working towards some cocoa stirring or you have got them drawers already. I'm just sayin'....LOL

Earthangel172 said...

LMAO!

Earthangel172 said...

"back in my single days couch/futon/on the bed on top of the covers
cuddling was my way of giving a brotha the green light.  If  I was up
under dude like that, it was for the purpose of  literally being up
under dude in the very near future."

#AllSystemsGo

Earthangel172 said...

"While it doesn't have to lead to cocoa, for me, it is an act of intimacy."

This! All day, every day.

Earthangel172 said...

That makes two of us!

Earthangel172 said...

"Then again, due to my lack of body fat, I've never been a prime candidate for cuddle only time. LOL."

LMAO! Glad to see I'm not the only one suffering from this ailment.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

Honestly, I have a LOT of male friends, and I've never felt the urge to cuddle up to any of them. Quick hug, maybe. Platonic cuddling? Nah, son. I'm not saying cuddling has to lead to bedroom gymnastics, but I'm not cuddling with any and everyone who's just a friend. I'm just saying.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

"Then again, due to my lack of body fat, I've never been a prime candidate for cuddle only time."

Yea, I've heard many of my male friends opine about their preference for fluffier ladies - for that very reason.

ASmith said...

When this popped off on twitter, I had NO idea there were sides on this debate.  Finally I just asked for a working definition of cuddling.  I only got one side -- the one that said, essentially, cuddling is what you do right before you go there/in anticipation of going there.

Someone gave me the example of sharing a small blanket with a friend.  I don't think of that as cuddling.  Sharing a small space is different from holding someone.  To that point, someone else mentioned a scenario where a friend is crying and you hold them to console them.  I don't know, that still feels different to me.

 I have a male best friend with whom I've shared many a sleeping area, shared small blankets, all that -- but never cuddled.  Heck, me, him and another individual shared a college dorm room bed (so y'all know how small we talking) and watched movies... I guess if there's such a thing as platonic cuddling, that was it and honestly that wasn't cuddling.  Seriously.

Alvin Milton said...

your assumptions are correct and I did flag it prior to the snuggle.

To be clear, I expressed my resignations about platonic cuddling... but she wasn't trying to hear it until the train started derailing... 

NY2VA said...

The visual of the snapping was entirely to much for me to process.  I literally scream laughed in my office!

NatashaHunter said...

Umm...

Tasha will not be laying in the homie's arms looking up his nostrils and listenin' to his heartbeat.  Waaay too intimate for someone you gonna dap up later.

Does cuddle time always lead to cocoa? No...unless it does.

rozb said...

I cuddle with my husband, and it doesn't always lead to cocoa. Sometimes a cuddle is just a comfortable way to watch TV or take a nap.

When I was younger, I had a mixed group of friends and we didn't take it there after cuddling. It just depends on the boundaries of that friendship.

AnnettePearl said...

Dude. SMH

LadyL said...

If I'm cuddling with a male, we've already done the horizontal mambo shuffle or we are about to. As a rule, I don't cuddle with men I'm not dating or attracted to. Body contact is a cocoa invitatation regardless of intention.

C Nelson said...

*shrugs.* I didn't get nicknamed "Cuddleslut" by a few of my older friends for nothing. I joke that I need ten hugs a day to be happy and healthy, and while I usually manage an excess from the niece and nephew underfoot in this house these days, and can actually get to the point of "I'm gonna scream if one more person lays a finger on me," back in high school and college it was different. The trick is to have the conversation first so you're both on the same page. Using specific male friends as combination backrest and blankie while reading or watching TV happened a lot -- including with a gay friend who was just as touch-starved as I was. Cuddling and cocoa don't get more separate than that.

CaliGirlED said...

LMAO!!!

SingLikeSassy said...

Every time I cuddle with someone doesn't mean I'm trying to get done. I like to be all snugglebug with my man. HOWEVER, I do not cuddle with people I don't want to get nasty with. Personally, I think it can send mixed messages.

CaliGirlED said...

 You're right A, the things you mentioned are not cuddling but simply sharing a small space. Cuddling is intimate holding, if you will, and I only want to get that from the man I'm with. But hey, different strokes...

CaliGirlED said...

ALL OF THIS!!!

"...laying in the homie's arms looking up his nostrils and listenin' to his heartbeat." *hollers*

SingLikeSassy said...

This was me! For some reason I thought it had disappeared.

Enigma said...

"If we're close to horizontal and you're touching me, I expect it to lead somewhere." I have to respect his honesty. Some people like to present an image of platonic behavior, knowing good and well they expect it to be more. I am all about clear lines and understandings.

Excellent post.

Evansaw said...

I think cuddle time is better if there are no expectations of cocoa. If it happens, it happens. 

Sol_dier said...

did we live/hang out in the same places :)

Sol_dier said...

As you get older, you learn to discern who these people are, and then you also learn to avoid unnecessary headaches. I do like this.

Sol_dier said...

the non-partner gets up and allows the actual partner to take their place ?  ---> devils advocate<---

Evansaw said...

I think that this type of human contact has changed definition over the years.  Back in the day, before teenagers randomly "hooked up", you would see couples cuddling at football games, on the family sofa, etc., and you knew nothing was going on beyond that and nobody thought anything of i

C Nelson said...

Umm. This is so cynical it depresses me. If you believe that the only reason your friend would want to cuddle you is that they couldn't find anyone better, sure, I see where you would see cuddling platonically as defeat. But how about the reason I'm there is that I wanted to spend time with my friend and we both feel safe and relaxed enough with each other to cuddle knowing nothing else is going to happen? If and when I want cocoa, I know where to get that! (Seriously. I've said this before and I'll say it again, but if you even remotely present as female, the most abundant things in the universe are air and hard c__k. Everybody wants to show you theirs, especially the ones you'd never want to touch.)

Sol_dier said...

 the most abundant things in the universe are air and hard c__k. Everybody wants to show you theirs, especially the ones you'd never want to touch.)

I'm completely done. & Truer words have never been spoken.

michaeldavis said...

First off, I'm old school and I don't like "street clothes" in my bed so there's a lack of clothing issue with bed cuddling. 
I'll say what I said on twitter... Cuddling doesn't have to lead to cocoa, but IMO  cuddling on a sofa is WAY different than in a bed. It's nothing to be to have someone leaned up you watching  a movie on a couch.  However..if you cuddle or fall asleep in the same bed and wake up the next day hugged up with each other, y'all go together (or will be soon).  If we've been on a date and she's too tired to go home, she gets the bed and I get the couch. Y'all can wake up with a woman, curves poppin', hair all in your face smelling like flowery perfume if you want to... sisters y'all ain't right! LOL  

NO.MA'AM. Y'all will not be torturing me.  couch, please.

Marioned said...

I only cuddle with someone I am intimate with.  But my SO and I each have a kid and sometimes as much as I would like to " jump his bones", we can only cuddle.  And it's really nice!

Singlelif said...

Cuddling is intimate holding, if you will, and I only want to get that from the man I'm with. <------or the man I'm planning to "get with"........who may not know it yet.., but will, right after we get through cuddling !

SingLikeSassy said...

STREET CLOTHES IN THE BED WILL GET YOU CUT IN MY HOUSE!

michaeldavis said...

thank you and clone you

CaliGirlED said...

 Really???...Different strokes...*shrugs*

AnnettePearl said...

There's a comfort hug, there's a warmth struggle, there's lounging and then there's cuddling. And in my book, cuddling leads to cocoa. I am not rubbing up against some dude on the random.

blackprofessor said...

I can't stand street clothes in my bed either! I also don't like shoes in my house! Take them off as soon as you get in the door so you aren't tracking filth in my house.

I chuckled at "yall go together", lol!

Sol_dier said...

I'm guessing? what would you do? (runs for cover)

Sol_dier said...

yep. No shoes in the house, lounge wear in doors and only winter should induce any type of clothing in bed. Thangs need room to breathe

Brandon St.Randy said...

Cynical? Not at all. But two heterosexual adults actually cuddling...not hugging or holding hands but in a bed, in some degree of sleepwear or state of undress...Sorry, but as some of the commenters stated, that's kinda not a platonic action. I mean let's say you're my girlfriend- are you cool with me platonically cuddling my homegirl, even assuming you're 100% sure it's just platonic cuddling

CaliGirlED said...

"...if you cuddle or fall asleep in the same bed and wake up the next day hugged up with each other, y'all go together..." Now that's some old school for ya!

CaliGirlED said...

Collect whatever is in his house that may belong to me and leave. CaliGirl don't like scenes and I definitely don't fight over men. If my SO needs someone else to keep him warm, then he doesn't need me. And if I have a SO and need someone else to keep me warm, then I don't need my SO.

I.DO.NOT.SHARE! Not my man, not your man, I need my own!

C Nelson said...

Err. In bed and some state of undress? If that's your definition, I see where the disconnect is. Here I'm thinking couch or futon and fully clothed. Maybe sleepwear, but if so it's a long opaque -- probably flannel -- nightshirt, not anything remotely sheer. In other words, what I'd wear if I were lounging with the girls, not what I pack when I head off to a nice bed and breakfast with Paul.

Earthangel172 said...

::dead:: @ thangs need room to breathe!!

Earthangel172 said...

Okay!! I don't want anyone getting their crusty tail in my bed. Off with the street clothes and into the shower immediately!!

Veronica Miller said...

Sooo... how do I say this without Chele chasing me out of here....?


If I'm close enough to cuddle, that ain't no accident. So.... yeah.
*goes back to homework*

CaliGirlED said...

You were right, short and sweet.

tiffanyinhouston said...

Everytime I "cuddled" with a guy, my clothes ended up falling off and I ended up pole vaulting onto his...well you get the idea. So because I knew my limitations, I stopped "cuddling". Because afterwhile, random cuddles still wasn't getting me what I really wanted, which was someone to love me. I was warm only for the moment.

Folks don't cuddle for sport, that's some bullshit.

tiffanyinhouston said...

This is some REAL talk right here.

maureen said...

"Thangs need room to breathe " <----- this was my mom's policy, sleeping nekkid, hey I grew up in the tropics.

tiffanyinhouston said...

That said, platonic cuddling is equivalent to waving the white flag and conceding defeat to life.

BWAHAHAHAHA!! I hollered so loud my husband asked me what was wrong with me??? LMAO!!

GammasWorld said...

facepalm .... love how TIH tells it like it is :) 

GammasWorld said...

Platonic cuddling does not compute.  GamMa cuddling = we have stirred cocoa and most likely will again or we haven't stirred cocoa yet but we gon' to -- soon - real soon.  Call it what you will, I've got to be feeling some kind of way to cuddle.  

Single Sistah said...

I'm not down with cuddling on the platonic tip.   But there are moments when there's a guy that I really dig and I just want to cuddle without it leading to sex.  There's something about cuddling that makes me feel safe and secure, even if it's just for the fleeting moment.  

keishabrown said...

late..as per usual..
i dont see myself cuddling up with someone that im not seeing. that's an affectionate & intimate activity.
whether watching football, him play xbox or just being...that's not something i would do with anyone. 

and while one thing doesnt have to lead to another, we all know that things can get misconstrued real quick in the language of sexual relations...

keishabrown said...

SAY IT AGAIN CaliGirlED!!

CaliGirlED said...

Girl these folks out here playin!!!

CaliGirlED said...

How do you get that close to somebody you're not trying to be or have already been intimate with? I just don't get it!

OneChele said...

Not pole vaulting? Did you stick the landing? BWAHAHA!

CaliGirlED said...

You flingin holy water in Twitterville and over here in BougieLand cuttin up! LOL

Sol_dier said...

nice one.

GammasWorld said...

Chele!!!  ROFLMBO 

Brandon St.Randy said...

gotcha. I think we're just working different definitions. My interpretation of the reason for cuddling was the desire for some level of skin to skin contact and body heat. Maybe not butt nekkid, but hard to do with jeans and Ray-J's fighting hoodie

CorettaJG said...

I'm late as well, and you basically said my piece.  Thanks!

CorettaJG said...

Oh Lawd! LOL!

But you're speaking truth TIH.

CorettaJG said...

LOL!!

tiffanyinhouston said...

I ALWAYS stick my landings...LOL!!!

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