Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Indecent Proposal: WWYD?


Demi Moore and Woody Harrelson are in love. Super-duty, can't breathe without you in my oxygen space love. One problem - they are broke. Eviction notice broke. In a stroke of brilliance (side-eye),  they decide to pool the last of their resources and head to Vegas. After all, it's so easy to gamble and win your entire house note in one weekend. (strategic pause) 

Anywho, they start off winning and then... shocker! They lose everything. Enter uber-wealthy, somewhat lecherous gajillionare Robert Redford who falls in instant lust with Demi. The man who can have anyone he wants just happens to want Woody's wife. So put yourself in this situation:

You and your s/o are secure in every area of your relationship except finances. The money struggle is overwhelming and overshadowing everything else. On a crazy Vegas weekend, a billionaire offers you $10 million (I bumped for inflation) for one night with your s/o. It's just one night and all your financial worries are over. Small problem: That one night is anything goes... anything.

Readers, would you "allow" your spouse/significant other to sleep with someone else for massive financial gain? Could you ever get past it? Could you do it if you were the chosen one? And before you scream "hell naw!" let me ask this? Is there a dollar amount that sways your answer one way or another? What if it was $100 million dollars -then what? Do tell...

188 comments:

Dr. J said...

Hell no. 

(This is one of those topics that to spend too much time discussing it, you might enable a hot a*s mess.)

Mina B. said...

My first instinct is to say helllll to the nizzzaw b/c it's just things we're lacking- house, car, nice clothes etc and as long as we're living we have potential to get that stuff another way, but  as the dollar amount goes up I'd be pondering the situation a bit longer. If we're broke b/c we couldn't manage a couple thousand dollars then no b/c we'll just mismanage our millions. But if the lack of money was something that had more dire consequences- say one of us was seriously ill and couldn't afford medication/treatment or freedom/safety was at a real risk then I might just bite the bullet. Anything goes tho? ANYTHING? It'd have to be enough $$ to cover my therapy and memory erasing procedures later just in case dude takes it to some level that I didn't know existed.

thinklikeRiley said...

Hundred milly - for one night? I believe I can make that sacrifice and so can Mrs. Riley. It's one night and it's just sex. Now if somebody catches feelings overnight... we got a problem. One million, no. Ten million, maybe. Hundred milly? Have a nice night, boo. Somebody gotta take one for the team.

Brneyed1 said...

Nope.  Couldn't do it, regardless of the $$.  Too much potential for future problems. 

Pure Choco said...

There's a word for people who get paid for sex and it doesn't matter if it's five dollars in an alley or a million dollars on a yacht. No thank you.

Moni said...

Hell no.  A lot of times people's money problems have more to do with their lack of money management skills than their actual income, e.g. all the celebrities and lottery winners who end up broke.  If our financial backup plan is to head to Vegas, then $10M or even $100M might just be a temporary fix.  There will always be other houses, but there might not be other relationships and there will never be another sense of integrity.

Nandiehills said...

I would not consider it for myself, or spouse/significant other. No amount of money would make me EVER cross that line...

Mr. Skyywalker said...

Clever, Madam Bougie - very clever. My first intinct is a hell naw all the way around. But that $100MM number starts bouncing around in your head - that's generational wealth. That's rebuild a community, hook up all your family and their offspring for life wealth.

Then again, if it was Mrs. Skyy - I don't know if I could get past what she had to do to earn it. If it was me and Mrs. Skyy signed off? Not a problem. I guess that makes me a chauvinist. I'm okay with that.

CaliGirlED said...

LOL!!! Chele you are a mess!...Well I would have to say that I wouldn't do it. Seeing how I didn't put myself in a position to be "indecently proposed" to when I was single going through financial turmoil, I can't see myself doing it if married. We'll just have to work it out....I really don't think either person ever really gets over something like that, it will always linger about one way or another.

Did you say $100 million? *rocks back and forth clutching pearls* Jesus be some restraint!

maureen said...

To borrow from Onechele, no, as a matter of fact hell no!  

maureen said...

"But that $100MM number starts bouncing around in your head - that's generational wealth. That's rebuild a community, hook up all your family and their offspring for life wealth." ROFLMAO

MsJamie14 said...

I definitely would be tempted, but if I truly honored my marriage, my husband and my vows made before God the answer is "no way Jose."

I would ask how much he'd give me to hand wash his jet in a string bikini tho. Maybe I could get $100,000 for that. LOL

CaliGirlED said...

LMAO!!!

CaliGirlED said...

Let me more than "like" this, this is truth.com! Some folks are really not going to like this. LOL!!!

motown_skater said...

if i was the sought after mate nope couldn't do it.  if my s/o was the sought after mate yup, i'd let him do it if he was ok with it.

SingLikeSassy said...

You know, another group I follow had this same discussion recently and the ladies were like, shoot, I'd do it for $100,000. One lady said her husband said if she gets an offer like this to to take it. Don't think, just say yes, they would work the details out later when the check cleared. LOL!

But for serious? I like money. Ooooo, wheeeeee I like me some money. I like to look at it and count it and spend it and save it and track it in my accounts. I like money. And I can be real Don Corleone, Big Worm, Nino Brown and any other cold a** gangsta character you can think of about my paper.

ALL THAT SAID, I'm not sure I have the emotional fortitude to let my husband go pimp himself out so I can roll around in dough and gold doubloons like Scrooge McDuck.

Now, could I do it? Let me marinate on that for a bit. *goes to check balances in accounts*

SingLikeSassy said...

But that $100MM number starts bouncing around in your head - that's
generational wealth. That's rebuild a community, hook up all your family
and their offspring for life wealth.

See, that right there is why I have to marinate on this for a little bit. Cause some of this love bumping and grinding I've been doing ain't net me two nickels to to rub together. *still checking balances*

Mykeia said...

You had to go here...
So, I remember having this conversation with the spouse when the movie came out and was like, "No I could never." and the spouse was like, "Giiiirrrllllll, I would take that money this relationship will be fine." Now after seeing Robert Redford in person, um no, I'll pass.
Yes I would enter this arrangement for a certain amount of money, I'm being honest.  This relationship that I'm in would be able to handle it.  We would acknowledge that something happened and wouldn't talk about it again and move forward in my brand new BMWX5...then we would be in Italy drinking wine and that would erase all ill will if there was any...just me...I'll be checking comments later.  Good movie choice OneChele!

Andrea M said...

That $100 million is discussion worthy. Especially if no one but me and s/o had to know about it? Especially if dude doesn't look tragic and isn't into too much kink. IJS.

rozb said...

Just the idea that somebody would walk up to hubby and said "$100 million for one night with all dat!" had me giggling like crazy. I would be shocked if he said go ahead and do your thing, Ma! However, I would be willing to take one for the team if he didn't have man-boobs and I could keep my eyes closed the whole time.

But seriously - naw. Not at this time anyway...

KEVIN said...

For $100M I'd even bring my own light refreshments and music.  

I'd still do it for $5M but have the decency to feel guilty and conflicted afterwards while I pay off both our student loans and buy a small chunk of my beloved banana republic to retire in. 

CaliGirlED said...

"And I can be real Don Corleone, Big Worm, Nino Brown and any other cold a** gangsta character you can think of about my paper."...LOL!!! You are too funny!

Just_A_Thought1218 said...

Your first two paragraphs had me tipping out of a meeting pretend-coughing to hide near uncontrollable laughter.  I felt like I should have put one finger up like they do in church.

CaliGirlED said...

"For $100M I'd even bring my own light refreshments and music." Bwahahahaha!!!
 

Miz JJ said...

I am not overly emotional about sex, so I could do it and I could allow my partner to do it. My love for my partner is not tied solely to our sexual relationship. However, I am not sure if GoP could handle it. He's more conservative than I am.

What I found interesting about the movie, looking back on it, was how they were so in "love", but how easily one man was able to manipulate/come between their relationship. That made me question their love and the depth of their relationship.

Lady4Real said...

LOL, I missed my chance to comment on yesterday's post but reading both makes me feel like my house is bugged, the hubs and I just talked about both these subjects over the weekend.

"Anything goes" is the kicker that means ANYTHING GOES, and there are some things I just don't/won't/can't do. The same goes for the hubs. I'm not going unprotected because $10/$100/$900 million can't cure A.I.D.S so I'd rather be broke and healthy then rich and knock at deaths door. There are also some sexual things that I just ain't down for so nope. We would just find a hustle and make it work.

(this is after many convos with the hubby, answer use to be yes but after a list of what ifs the scale hit the floor and the answer became no)

Veronica Miller said...

LMBO @ "Have a nice night boo."

Jason P said...

First of all, these one paragragh movie recaps are everything.
Second - One million is a no-go. You buy a house, two cars, pay off debt and have a long vacation and that's gone after taxes.
Ten million... meh. Hunny? For one night? Like eight hours? I'm all in. If I had a Mrs. I have to admit part of me would be proud that dude would fork over that kind of cheddar for one night with her. But then again, I'm a little possessive. Let's just say we'd have to discuss it. And pray mightily. Though we'd be getting major side-eye from Jesus.

Veronica Miller said...

"See, that right there is why I have to marinate on this for a little bit. Cause some of this love bumping and grinding I've been doing ain't net me two nickels to to rub together. *still checking balances*"
GIRL!

David Chase said...

Ma'am - I don't see where you answered yesterday or today's question. *taps foot*
Oh and the answer to this one - I could do it. She could not. Yeah, I said it.
*waves to BougieLand on way out*

blackprofessor said...

This is a good one! The good girl in me really wants to say no to $100 million or any monetary amount for sex.  However, like someone said below - that starts generational wealth, which I am all about.  I would have to really think about it and talk to the Mr. for $100 million. 

Now if Redford sweetened the pot and offered a billion dollars for a night with little ole me? Me and hubs might have to work really hard at forgetting where the money came from while we create trust funds to bless generations of future descendants.  

SingLikeSassy said...

See, I'm leaning toward this right here. --> For $100M I'd even bring my own light refreshments and music. 

blackprofessor said...

Your last paragraph is everything!

Veronica Miller said...

Um, like Sister Sassy said, even just $100,000 would solve a lot of problems. And $100 million? Like Mr. Skyy said, that could put the grandchildren through college.

(Speaking of which, I was talking student debt with my friends last night, and it turns out one had none whatsoever. Her grandparents? Invested money when she was a baby and that was more than enough for four years of tuition, room and board AND living expenses... and they did that for all their grandchildren. So... yeah.)

It's easy to moralize, but proving how high your morals are never paid the bills. And it's not necessarily true that if people are in dire financial straits, it's probably because they have money management issues. Not at all. There are unexpected medical bills, layoffs from jobs, reduction of benefits, increases in taxes -- c'mon, I know y'all read the news. (Though I'd question if any of these people would blow their last whatever on a trip to Vegas. *shrug*)

Anyway... is there a contract? A document clearly stating what will be done, who will do what, how much we'll get and agreeing that there is to be no contact after the transaction? It's only fair. Could I do it? Ehhhhhh... I'm not ENTIRELY sure. I'm actually leaning toward no. But when you lay the facts and numbers out, it could be tempting.

blackprofessor said...

Move forward in my brand new BMWX5 - I am right with you and I am LMAO!!

Sasha in Stilettos said...

Since we updating for inflation, can we change the dude to George Clooney? Please and thank you.
Now, assuming these are certified funds wired directly into an offshore account and grossed up for the tax dodge - Sasha is all in. That's enough money to pay a priest, therapist and marriage counselor full-time.
One. Hundred. Million? In this economy?
*takes money and runs*

blackprofessor said...

For $100M I'd even bring my own light refreshments and music.  - Dead!

Veronica Miller said...

Refreshments and music. *dies*

Sasha in Stilettos said...

And several ensembles from Vicki's, my own stylist, lighting specialist and a wind machine. If we gonna do it... do it right. LMAO!

SingLikeSassy said...

I hear you. I HEAR YOU. BUT $100MM will make RICH and DEBT-FREE drown out ho.

Now, I ain't sayin' I'd do it, just saying....

Sasha in Stilettos said...

Okay? Mint.com would be like, girl you betta go shake that thing.

MsJamie14 said...

Some of these answers are giving me Adam, Eve, serpant and forbidden fruit vibes.

Anything goes people...anything. LOL

Cha Keziah said...

No. Couldn't do it. Yeah, the amount of money might make me take a second glance but... I have to live with myself and my husband. And everytime we used that money to get out of debt, or took a trip, or broguht our child to college, or do ANYTHING I would be thinking about what it took to get it. To have that hanging over my head for the rest of my life? Nope.

And as someone mentioned below, there's a word for exchanging money for sex, and it's at the top of the list of things i promised my grandpa (and Jesus) I would never do, regardless of dire straits.

JaymeC said...

Owen and I had this conversation when the movie first came out. You would have had to catch me on one of those days in my early thirties when Owen and I were paying off school loans, putting the kids in school, changing diapers, paying for braces and cheerleading uniforms and giving each other a kiss on the cheek before falling into exhausted oblivion next to each other night after night. On one of those days, I would have gone for it. But now, I'm in my late forties, he's early fifties - money is fine, the kids are fine, I'm a bit more grounded and it's more than 20 years since any other man has seen me naked? Nope. Can't do it.

But let the record reflect, I couldn't really judge anyone that did. Folks are put in tough situations to do so much more for so much less everyday.

JaymeC said...

Oh no you didn't! When her internet comes back up, you are going to get it!

CaliGirlED said...

Not the wind machine! LMAO!!!

maureen said...

*dead*

JaymeC said...

Dead at the wind machine. Why do I hear Bootylicious playing somewhere?

SingLikeSassy said...

I should also remind people that I am coming to this from the view of a woman who was madly in love with a husband who cheated. And I didn't get ish but a damn new iPad out the deal. LOL!

That is all.

CaliGirlED said...

Don't you bring my Lord and Savior into this mess! LOL!!!

DCbywayofCali said...

Sure there are plenty of names, but puhleeze.  Folks are swirling all kinda exotic cocoa for a chicken wing and a biscuit.  Someone midus, yes midus, well get paid.

CaliGirlED said...

*waves back to David*

SingLikeSassy said...

LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!

Deb B said...

Ummph. I got the dog and half his debt. Shoooooot, my ex cheated for FREE. :-[

Leopard_Print_Pumps said...

No matter how broke we be, heckie naw! There's something about coming through the fire together that makes a relationship stronger. Besides if I were the one sent to do the deed, I would forever wonder about my spouse's commitment and motivation... And if the roles were reversed, lawd.... I wouldn't be able to touch him without thinking about the fact that someone else had too while we were together. Give me brokeness, I say!

maureen said...

IMHO, Robert Redford back in the days was the biz though.  Up Close & Personal  anyone?

GuessImJay said...

 The house is being foreclosed and
we sitting in low rent motel in Vegas? Go get him, mami.
The problem with this movie is that they looked at it the wrong way. Dude had to pay for my woman and only got one night. She's bringing check home to me and I have the rest of our lives?
I don't know, maybe it would bug me but I have 100 million ways to feel better about it.

La said...

*looks around Bougie Land at all the people who must be far more moral/in love/less enslaved to S.allie than I* *wonders what it must be like as I prepare my future hubby to be sent out for a night of debauchery for $10 mil* LOL

I would LOVE to come up in here and say that I couldn't let the future Mr. sleep with someone else for a windfall. Or that I wouldn’t. But it REALLY wouldn't be true, lol. Would I feel conflicted about it? Sure. Would erasing the #1 reason couples divorce (money) from our relationship, paying off some debt, and building some generational wealth ease that confliction? Absofreakinlutely.

*leaves before I can be judged* lol

maureen said...

"See, that right there is why I have to marinate on this for a little bit. Cause this love bumping and grinding I've been doing ain't net me two nickels to rub together. *still checking balances* "  I can't with BnB folks, you guys are killing me softly. My cubemate plays lottery religious, she said "forget lottery where can she find this deal"

La said...

I think this is a really good point to consider. I would be willing to bet the answers to this will change the older/more stable the couple gets. At 27, in student loan debt and unmarried, my POV is MUCH different than that of someone in a 20+ year relationship.

Michele said...

I couldn't do it. Not and live with myself afterward.

Cassie said...

I have friends who give up the cookies for a movie ticket and a stick of gum. I've been known to get got by a bottle of champagne and a "Cassie, I love you." I can't pretend to know what I would do until I'm actually in the situation. That's harsh but real.

La said...

"so I can roll around in dough and gold doubloons like Scrooge McDuck."

I. am. in. TEARS!!!! LOLOLOLOL

Brandon St. Randy said...

Tell us more about these friends...

BlackButterfly said...

I fell out when I opened this post because I remembered this movie.  My first reply was hell naw when I saw the title and after reading the entire post my response is still Hell Naaaaaaw!  No amount of money would make me do this. 

ClayJones said...

My only problem is this - if  you would sleep with someone else for money, what else would you do? I watch a lot of crime drama so now I'm thinking if a woman will do that, where's the line? Can she also be convinced to take some of that money, hire someone to get rid of me and now she has $100mm to herself?  Whole thing has a slippery slope feeling.

Veronica Miller said...

OOP! =-O

Brandon St. Randy said...

50% of relationships experience infidelity (if you believe the stats). and we're talking typically about behind your back, emotionally involved, lying and cheating infidelity. Someone comes up with a number with 6 zeros behind it to sleep with my wife with my knowledge and there's no emotional or sexual intent on her part? Sheeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiit *Clay Davis Voice* Ima tell her to work a little harder and see if she can't get a 20% tip thrown in. Meanwhile, I'll be perusing whether we should use the vanity tags  "SEX4MNY" or "ISLDASS" on our matching Lamborghini station wagons.

Stylin' & Profilin' said...

For myself, I'd have to say absolutely not. Marriage is something sacred to me, and once you invite others into that relationship -- and that means anything from letting outside people have too much of an influence on your union to trying to hard to keep up with "The Jones" -- is a formula for trouble.

If times are that damn tough, sounds like to me a discussion needs to be had ASAP on how/where to downgrade certain aspects of what obviously is a too expensive lifestyle. Can't pay your mortgage? Sell the house, move into an apartment and save. Period. Can't pay your bills? Stop buying unnecessary ish at the mall. Can't pay your car note? Public transportation is your friend -- trust, it's not *that* bad.

If my spouse/SO was willing to let me (or vice versa) pull an "Indecent Proposal," then we have no business being together in the first place. Trust is something serious to me, and if my spouse/SO is "willing to consider" participating in something like this, then lord only knows what else he'd be willing to do! And that alone would kill me.

SouthernWes said...

I could do it. She could not. I just said this answer and the wife smacked me upside the head.  So I no longer have an opinion on the topic.

SingLikeSassy said...

Ima tell her to work a little harder and see if she can't get a 20% tip thrown in. Meanwhile, I'll be perusing whether we should use the vanity tags 
"SEX4MNY" or "ISLDASS" on our matching Lamborghini station wagons.

*dead*

BlackButterfly said...

You have me shaking with laughter and drowning in tears.

JoyGrooves said...

I just spit out the Coke I was drinking. You are STUPID!
But how about KITKAT$$?
COCO4SL
GETMONY

BlackButterfly said...

*Dead*

JoyGrooves said...

I see some comments taking a turn towards - folks are giving it up for free, hoes giving it up for two piece and a biscuit and I say - you know what? Sex is a personal thing for everybody. Some see it a the perfect intimate act between two people in love, others see it as a way to burn calories, other see it as a thing you do - like a hobby - some people read- other stir cocoa, some see it as a means to an end.

I'm a dancer. I've fairly free with using my body as an expression of something. All that being said... We'd have to see.

Veronica Miller said...

*dies*


*contributes to Sassy's iPad-for-Christmas fund*

Lexipedia said...

For $10M, I would dress up, limber up, & show up with a smile. For $100M, I'd wear him all the way out in the first 4 hours so that he'd have to sleep it off for the last 4. My marriage could take it.

Hubs knows I'm down for whatever, but he is my priority. & he will continue to be so while I'm dragging him through Parisan & Florentine museums & whatnot. 13 years & counting as of yesterday.

JoyGrooves said...

Great point! It's not like the Demi character woke up and said I'm going to sell myself to a billionaire today. You have to think about the circumstances and where you are in life, head space, etc.

Veronica Miller said...

Sir. Goodbye. LOL.

KEVIN said...

Ha ha ha! 

A really cheesy photo shoot with a ridiculous Beyonce size weave and a wind machine cranked up to 10 while I do the weird I just had a full frontal lobotomy pout favored by most female celebrities has been on my bucket list for a while.  Hmm I should probably reevaluate my life goals. 

Trey Charles said...

Include email addresses and/or Twitter names.

Trey Charles said...

*Steps aways from lightning bolt.*

BlackButterfly said...

Had a friend spit tea across the table (thank goodness she aimed for the empty table) when I read some of these responses.  BnB folks are a mess!

CaliGirlED said...

 "Folks are swirling all kinda exotic cocoa for a chicken wing and a biscuit."...Died 1,000 deaths!!! Exotic though? *dies again*

Just refused an offer to Popeyes yesterday! LOL

OneChele said...

Sir. You know what? Le Sigh.
Yesterday - Dude I've been single since the Walkman, folks have had AMPLE opportunity to get their mind right and get at me. Anybody stepping to on my wedding day which has been lo these many years in the making? Is getting cut. 

Next.
$100 million, you say? Probably not but let's speak on it. Fervently. 

CaliGirlED said...

"So I no longer have an opinion on the topic." *hollers* Now that almost made tears come down! *falls out of chair*

bashowell said...

Is this tax free?  Deposited in an offshore account?  Just asking...

Ivory Tabb said...

As many have said up thread there are plenty of folks who
stirring the cocoa for dinner and a movie let alone cheating for the excitement
of it all and getting nothing out of the deal! If your foundation is solid then
getting past this shouldn’t be an issue, 10 mil or 100 mil its more millions
than you have now and that changes your future not just your life.


I would be very uneasy about going through with it but
sometimes you gotta put your priorities in order your pride aside and trust
that you and your mate can get through anything. 


Another interesting point though if you did it and yall got
divorced who would get to keep the money, the person that actually went through
with the deed right?

CaliGirlED said...

*screams for mercy* You are a fool for this one! LMAO!!!

CaliGirlED said...

I rebuke you! LOL

CaliGirlED said...

I rebuke you too!...Hey play cousin! How's the traveling coming along? Be safe!

CaliGirlED said...

Ha!!!

michaeldavis said...

I'm going to say no.  And for those that will, get enough where y'all can split up and be happy...'cause that's what's next.

CaliGirlED said...

"Ima tell her to work a little harder and see if she can't get a 20% tip
thrown in. Meanwhile, I'll be perusing whether we should use the vanity
tags  "SEX4MNY" or "ISLDASS" on our matching Lamborghini station wagons."...Bwahahahaha!!! *throws holy water at Brandon*

taut_7 said...

my wife? i wouldn't even think twice before i said no. my girlfriend? we might have to sit down and have a discussion about that. 

maureen said...

Dead at 20% tips and vanity tags.

blackprofessor said...

I am already dead but I died again, lol!!

Rob said...

Not me. Not the wife. No.

ConvertingMe said...

Please remember to bury me in a certain parish in Northwest Louisiana next to my grandmother cause I'm dead and gone.

Brandon St. Randy said...

#MNYTEAM

JoycelynC said...

"Folks are swirling all kinda exotic cocoa for a chicken wing and a biscuit."

This is so true.  People sell themselves for a lot less every day. 

blackprofessor said...

That is the third time I died today, lol!!

blackprofessor said...

Oh Lord, yall are doing the most today!!

Earthangel172 said...

Not a chance. I have seen what the love of money can do to people and relationships.

Just_A_Thought1218 said...

Not going to lie, the higher the amount goes, the lower my opposition to accepting the proposal.  Especially if I didn't have to do anything too out there.  I have student loans to pay off, and investments that could be moved into the more immediate future.  And I want to leave an inheritance to my children.

Is it wrong that I would convince my [hypothetical] SO to go through with it for a lesser amount than one where I would even halfway consider doing it? 

What is really interesting to me is that while I might agree to it, or debate it as an intellectual exercise, that there is a very strong likelihood that I would agree, then renege at the last moment because I couldn't go through with it.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

Let's me put another spin on it: suppose Mr. Moneybags said he'd give you ALLLLLL that money for one night - with the husband? Don't look at me like that; it's not just hetero men with the bail-out money these days. I'm wondering if a lot of folks would still be willing to take one for the team. ;)

motown_skater said...

LOLOL... you wrong!...LOLOL

BklynBajan said...

I'm with you girl. Some posters are too bougie for Jesus himself. He died on the cross for our sins so  if I'ma sin I'ma go HARD in the paint, tithe 20% off the top and move forward guilt free knowing that HE forgives me even if screw face Sister Sanctified & the Bougie women wouldn't.  Ride or die means sometimes you take one for the team, leave it in the past and keep it moving. Exchange Robert Redford for Dennis Haysbert and its all gravy :)

hums as I pay off bills in full..a saint is just a sinner who fell down and got up.....

MsJamie14 said...

Now that's real.

SingLikeSassy said...

OK, after marinating on it -- and I was never considering anything less than $100 million ...

I'd say no. But, I suspect I would always wonder what if.

Damn you mama and daddy for raising me right. Sigh.

Just_A_Thought1218 said...

Oooh, you're wrong for that one. Honestly, I think that would shut all discussions down.  I'd try to rationalize it (my hubby is a top only, I don't know about it, I take some street pharmeceuticals to blank out my memory of the night in question...) but I know that I couldn't look at dude the same way afterward. Especially because I'd wonder how he'd be able to "perform". I'm thinking if such things are not your "thing", then there would likely be an equipment failure.  Ugh, I'm not being bougie so I'll jsut say that this scenario is a no go.

Mina B. said...

If I did the deed then I gets the cash. If he did the deed then I gets 50%

MsJamie14 said...

The scenario says ANYTHING GOES. So I do wonder if these dudes who'd let their wives do it would allow them to be attacked by a booty burgler for a night. I think NOT!

SingLikeSassy said...

If my man said he was open to this, I would let him go. Then I would divorce him, take my $50 million and find a new love. 

Lady Ngo said...

Even if i were personally down for the idea, i don't think any amount of money would make me ok with the fact that my hubby is ok with pimping me out! Not to mention that whole "anything goes" part. The thought of what "anything" might entail is enough to make me run in the opposite direction of this situation.

SingLikeSassy said...

What we tell you about the low hanging fruit? *swats Trey's hand*

ShawnSoze said...

No thank you. There's morals, there's money, there's sex, and there's lifestyle. You may be able to override beliefs in one or two but all four? Naw, son.

ShawnSoze said...

No thank you. There's morals, there's money, there's sex, and there's
lifestyle. You may be able to override beliefs in one or two but all
four? Naw, son.

Mykeia said...

Waving back at cha!

CaliGirlED said...

LOL!!!

CaliGirlED said...

Bam!!! How you like dem apples?!!

CaliGirlED said...

 And for that matter, since it's just sex, would the ladies who said yes do it if the billionaire was a woman? Sistahs rollin in da dough too ya know!

Lady4Real said...

LMAO "sex4mny" OR "ISLDASS" vanity tags. *DEAD*

Lady4Real said...

He is like a moth to a flame when it comes to trouble. Where are the prayer warriors? I think y'all fell off ya knees again, Trey needs more prayer. LOL

CaliGirlED said...

LOL @ final answer!!!

CaliGirlED said...

ANYTHING??? I love a great session of mattress aerobics, indeed I do (marathon, 12-round KO...I digress), but there are somethings CaliGirl AIN'T doin!!!

Lady4Real said...

*Waves back* y'all are too much around here, just too much.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

That too. If it was Ms. Ballin'lika-Mutha, would the ladies tell their men, "You better have her speaking in tongues!", and send him off to work?

My thing is that if it wouldn't be 'yes' either way, then it's going to be a 'no' all the way.

BklynBajan said...

J-Lo type - yes
Gabrielle Sidibe  - no

#sinhardorgohome ;)

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

After all, Fleece Johnson Esq. needs cocoa too.

Alvin Milton said...

I could be nuts but I think one should swirl for love and not for money. But the way of the world nowadays, having some cheese in your pockets is everything and dignity seems to be much less important. I wonder for those considering this, if there is a separation between this one time deal and prostitution or any other sex for cash type of occupation. Maybe I have to come at it from the perspective of a person without a career and education to understand? I don't mean to generalize. The easy life is alluring to all, right?

As for me, I'm not married but if my wife decided to go through with it, I'd want half and a divorce immediately after.

maureen said...

recession is real, folks  need people to pay for movie tickets  and all.

BklynBajan said...

That would be a NO. Do NOT pass GO. Do NOT collect $100M.

But I have some very cute male gay friends I'd forward to said offerer and take my % off the top for the reference.

ASmith said...

12 round KO?? I believe you did more than digress.  Do you and I need to take our things into the corner?  Clearly by "you and I" I just mean "you" because I was good today.

ASmith said...

I scrolled through a few BougieLand comments and have decided that I should not answer this question until I'm not constantly thinking about how much in student loan debt I'll have in t-minus 7 months.

Yeah.  I'ma just wait.

Lady Ngo said...

Right! Everyone is taking a decidedly sexual view on this but i can't help thinking how depraved a person has to be to offer up 10mil for cocoa in vegas where u could probably get it for free. In my mind the guy is some psycho axe murder who is either gonna spend the entire night slowly torturing me, infecting me with HIV or just shooting me as soon as i walk through the door.

Angel Blanca said...

Upping the ante a bit: What if the situation was reversed, and it's you and your wife, but the billionaire was a woman, and you're the one she wants for just one night?  What if the billionaire is a woman and she wants your wife for just one night?  What if it wasn't just loss of a house at stake, but the loss of a child's life?  What, if any, would be your tipping point toward being okay with this scenario?

CaliGirlED said...

Leo I'm talking about Ms. Ballin'lika-Mutha propositioning the ladies, not the husbands!

CaliGirlED said...

LOL!!! *goes to the corner, trains for next 12-rounder*

DCbywayofCali said...

LOL Yes CaliGirlED exotic. %100 unrefined cacao.

CorettaJG said...

Umm... NO. 

There is no way in...the world.  Too many physical, emotional, spiritual and DNA transfers going on there for any amount of money. 

I'm too precious for this mess.  My body is a temple and I gotta be able to sleep at night without nightmares or flashbacks or feelings of regret, shame or disgust at all the players in this drama including myself.  

Ugh, yuck & gross!  I'm having a viceral reaction over here even imagining it.  And I would wager that most people who come up with these schemes and are capable of implementing them are no Robert Redford.  Imma need to be emotionally invested big time -- and that's supposedly why I was with dude I'm supposed to be in love with right?

CaliGirlED said...

Well damn, you sure killed any small glimmer of 2nd thought I might have even tried to consider! LOL!!! But you're right, if we take the "Hollywood" out of this and look at the fact that there are some sick folks out there, that ANYTHING is endless with scenarios!

CaliGirlED said...

Still being good, in a slick sorta way, huh? I see ya!

SingLikeSassy said...

I'd want half and a divorce immediately after. <--I see what you did there. You aint slick over here moralizing and whatnot, but still walking off with half. LOL!

Alvin Milton said...

Why does something so drastic have to hang in the balance to justify the mindset that would accept this proposition. I guess if you want to slice it that way and you have no other option you will do what you have to do. If it were me, I would wonder why a woman was paying so much for sex when basically all she has to do is breathe in the direction of a single guy to get what she wants. That alone would deter me. Where is the line ultimately? When do you determin that you are at rock bottom and this becomes your out?

Ivory Tabb said...

As i asked in my post Michael does the person who didn't go get any of the cash after you split?

Angel Blanca said...

I've said before all that I would "never" do, only to have to eat my words when circumstances changed and it seemed the only recourse left available.  I would love to say, hypothetically, what I would do in this situation, but the reality is, I don't know what I would do because I don't know what type of situation/desperation might make me say "Yes," to this type of proposal. 

Student loans, paying for college for my daughter, working to rehabilitate our home so my mom and I can age-in-place, the expense of living with MS, etc. are all things that weigh on me.  If I were to receive such a proposal, I could rationalize all the reasons why I should/could accept the proposal, but, then again, I'm single.  If I were married, that would be a discussion we would have to have together.

If I remember the movie correctly, there were all sorts of great events/experiences they had together outside of sex, so not only was the Redford character able to provide a sexual experience, but also the type of dating experience that the Harrelson character could not, which must have been emasculating on multiple levels.  I never really understood if it was the actual infidelity that bothered him, or if it was the blow to his ego that undermined their relationship more.

Alvin Milton said...

Shoot. If she is going to do it I can't stop her. I'm not her boss. I'm her husband.
And being that we are married, I'm taking half and I'm out.
Elin Nordegren style.

La said...

THIS is what I shoulda done. *heads out behind you* lol

Jeannette said...

The Bougie Knitting Club has been on hiatus, but i think we need to stock up for the coming winter. LOL

Brandon St. Randy said...

And I'm equal opportunity. For $10 Million, I'll beat Gabrielle Sidibe's thing like it stole my bike in second grade.

Jeannette said...

For $100M? Man listen, i'll make a run to the likka sto' to make sure they got enough to get their groove on something proper-like (90's moment).  

Jubi The Great said...

I finally caught up on the comments, BnB'ers were on a roll today huh?

I'm gonna cosign with Angel Blanca - I really don't know what I would do until I'm in the situation. The higher the dollar amount, the more likely I am to say yes.

motown_skater said...

LOLOL...smh....

motown_skater said...

today made for some good laughs and helped my work day move along...looking forward to tomorrow's WWYD and of course the responses....

Jeannette said...

LOL... hell nah!

tishatweets said...

Yeah, no. Some stuff (and there's much more at stake here than just some quick sex, imo) just ain't for sale.

La said...

*DIES*

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

Oooooooh. Hehehehe. >:3 Yes, that would be a VERY interesting scenario.

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

'#sinhardorgohome'

iDied.

Singlelif said...

Anything goes is too much of a price to pay for me - death is real.  But, for real, back in the day I knew a few people who, if the dude looked good enough and had pockets deep enough, and he pushed a nice ride, would do the deed for a "two piece and a biscuit".  #HoodLife

blackprofessor said...

Bougieland is off the chain, that is all.

OneChele said...

*scans comments* This whole stream is like a game of Scruples... 

SingLikeSassy said...

And some of us aint got none. LOL!

Earthangel172 said...

dead @ at likka sto'....LMBO

Earthangel172 said...

DO.NOT.RESUSCITATE.

Earthangel172 said...

Cute pic Cali!

Earthangel172 said...

LOL @ booty burglar!! Y'all killing me today.

Brneyed1 said...

I was wondering the exact same thing!

tiffanyinhouston said...

SLAIN.

tiffanyinhouston said...

These comments have fell fresh on me and gave me life TONIGHT!!! LMAO!!


 I couldn't do it because I'm married and I REALLY love my husband  but if I was single with just a boyfriend, welll er uh...

CaliGirlED said...

LOL!!!

SassyJJ said...

*PSA: DMV Meet n' Greet, Friday, October 14 at 6:30pm, Busboys and Poets - K Street Location...Ask for BnB (we're going to try and be upstairs)*


Okay...I have nothing other than, yes, I'd do it for many other reasons others have stated.  And as kinky(different from freaky, imo) and possessive as my Man is, he'd allow it.  He'd allow me if the "benefactor" was a man or woman.  I would allow him with another woman, not another man (he wouldn't go for it other).

I could not comment earlier today, but I was going to through serious hyperventilation with the comments today.  Ya'll giveth and taketh away life!  :)

CaliGirlED said...

 Thanks Angel!

GammasWorld said...

Whew lawd I'm late visiting tonight but like I said on Twitter -- I've been cheated on for less.    That's all Imma say about this subject lest I get more pics like I did earlier this evening. 

CaliGirlED said...

 Bwahahahaha!!! Sorry for laughing Gamma but I had forgotten about it until you mentioned it again.

Brenda Kay said...

^^^Wow...just WoW!

Lady4Real said...

That's what I said, "anything goes" means ANYTHING. What if he is a billionaire who was just diagnosed with HIV and just doesn't giveadamn about anything any more? He decides his riches got him into this and he wants to teach the world a lesson; life is priceless. So he schemes that he is willing to give 10 mil to anyone willing to sleep with him and hopefully the 10mil will help them with their new found sickness gifted by him. Uh, I don't think so, cause if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is.

JojoRaze said...

I'm loving how you'd negotiate a less soul and dignity crushing scenario...

"This could work, but I have my soul and dignity to consider, so could I hand wash your jet in a string bikini instead"

JojoRaze said...

I'm mad late, but that "catch feelings" part that's the rub.  I wouldn't ever do this since I agree with the person above who said "If you are that desperate, there were a lot of financially irresponsible things in your life and that won't change with $10 mm."
Doing that, though, is an invitation for your relationship to break up.  When the couple decides to do it, they should just plan their breakup right then and there and divide the money up, because the relationship will never be the same after that.

JojoRaze said...

anything goes" means ANYTHING. What if he is a billionaire who was just
diagnosed with HIV and just doesn't giveadamn about anything any more?
He decides his riches got him into this and he wants to teach the world a
lesson; life is priceless. So he schemes that he is willing to give 10
mil to anyone willing to sleep with him and hopefully the 10mil will
help them with their new found sickness gifted by him


Sounds like a good indy movie plot, though.

CorettaJG said...

Looking forward to the meet up!!

AndreaPlaid said...

" Especially if dude doesn't look tragic and isn't into too much kink. 

::holds up church finger, tip-toes to exits, laughs behind off::

AndreaPlaid said...

::just storms way through Pearly Gates::

AndreaPlaid said...

On this one, I think Jesus would call over some of the other deities to give y'all laser side-eye. 

rikyrah said...

10 MIL?

tax-free?

off-shore account?

I haven't loved any man that would make me pass up 10 mil.  I wish I would meet that man.

maureen said...

A discussion is brewing  on with my office mates over my answer.  It's not the morality of sex for me, I'm just not plugged (pause) in like that. These financial analyst have kicked this discussion another notch, talking  about unscrupulous ways of Wall stree and CEO pays.  <----- if this can happen why not lay  down one time  and make a killing without hurting the whole universe.

Cassie said...

I feel you, Sassy!

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