Thursday, August 25, 2011

5 Questions, 5 Answers... with a twist


3N and I were meeting our friends Dr. Jayme and her husband Owen for dinner a few weeks ago. Dr Jayme  had some sort of group therapy session running late so we swung by her office to wait for her to wrap up. Unbeknownst to us, we stumbled into the middle of one of her "Relationship 101" group sessions. When she saw us, she waved us over and announced, "This is 3N and Michele, they've been dating for six months."

We were greeted with laughter and side-eyes and a few choice phrases floated over to me:
"Fresh meat."
"Newbies"
"Still at the fun part"

At this point, we suspected that we'd been bamboozled, hornswaggled and hoodwinked. We attempted a backtrack towards the door. "Oh come on, just play one game and we'll wrap for the night." Jayme said blinking with the baby seal eyes. That's when I knew we were in for it. Exchanging a look of resignation, we sat gingerly in two seats in the "sharing circle" and braced ourselves for whatever. It didn't help that she passed each of us five index cards and a Sharpie.

"Okay, this game we play with any two people in a relationship: friends, siblings, co-workers, significant others - it doesn't matter. You have to answer honestly and you cannot use a non-answer like 'he's perfect just the way he is' - that's it. Five questions, write your answers down as we go."

1. What's one thing you wish you could change about your partner but know it's probably not going to change?
2. If your partner could be any place in the world right now, where would they be?
3. Would they take you? And if not, who would they take?
4. What does your partner like most about you?
5. What is something you've been dying to ask your partner but haven't asked yet?

The four other couples went all the way in on these and minor skirmishes swept the circle. I have to admit that 3N and I were sitting there feeling kinda smug and positive that there would be no surprises from either of us. Here's how our lightning round went:
One thing to change that won't:
My answer - His Lastworditis. 
His - She's a perfectionist but won't admit it
"I am not"
"You totally are"
"So not true"
"I would say something else but I want you to have the last word"
"Cute" 
Any place in the world:
Mine - Some place tropical
His - Bali, Tahiti, Hawaii 
Would they take you?
Mine - Yes
His - No, her sister
"What? Come on! I just got back from the beach with my sister"
"Exactly"
"Oh damn" 
What does your partner like the most about you?
Mine - My sparkling personality
He couldn't get his answer out, he was laughing so hard.
"Your personality is great, but my favorite favorite thing?"
"What?"
"You give good..."
"Do not say anything R-rated up in here"
"Conversation! You're an excellent communicator. But if I'm banned from the R-rated answers, I can't say what I think you like best about me"
"You cannot seriously think that's what I like best about you!"
"It doesn't hurt"
"Oh my God"
"I'm joking - my sense of humor"
"Well not right now"
Something you're dying to ask?
Mine - What really happened with his last girlfriend
His - Whether she's coming to China with me for three months
"Oh we should talk"
"We really should"
And we'll just wrap that conversation right there. Thanks Jayme for those good times. Why don't you play along at home? I'll switch it up a little:
1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
3. Who would you take?
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)

Go for it. And try this at home with friends, sibs, spouses - let me know how it works for you! 

171 comments:

Jubilance said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
My sarcastic nature. I have a very smart mouth & a dry wit & the sarcasm comes out without me even thinking.

2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
On a beach somewhere enjoying the weather.

3. Who would you take?
The new boyfriend.

4. What is the absolute best thing about you?
I'm a very loyal & giving person. I will literally ride till the wheels fall off & walk to the ends of the Earth for the ppl I love & care about. I'm a stereotypical Cancer - we love to take care of the ppl we love.

5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)
Are you going to China? (And you had to know that one was coming!) Oh & if you go, will you still post on BnB?

Paul on Ice said...

1. My ego
2. Someplace under 100 degrees with a breeze
3. Girlfriend
4. I'm the total package, and modest too
5. No questions

Singlelif said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?  I need to learn to not be such a giving person to my family - they are always in my pocket like lint. Especially, my younger Sister, who has been living in my Myrtle Beach vacation home for 8 months now, and hasnt paid any rent despite many promises.  Also, like Jubilance, I have a  very sarcastic nature and dry wit. Need to work on that.  Not everybody gets it..
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be? On a European cruise.
3. Who would you take? Very New Dude.  I need to know if he could possibly be long-term dude. We're 1 month in.
4. What is the absolute best thing about you? I'm quick to give and slow to take.
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer): Chele - Exactly how difficult is it to hang around all those good looking GA boys ?

CaliGirlED said...

You know that's my #5! LOL

thinking that... said...

i love the exchange between the two of you on the first and third question, you all are too cute!

1. i'm a classic pisces and would change how sensitive i am (works against me sometimes).
2. i would be in bermuda.
3. i'd take the man i just met (three days before he had to report for duty, army man).
4. i'm a true friend, when you need me i am there. (taking on your problems more than you do again classic pisces).
5. if you go to china will you keep b-n-b updated?  this is the only blog i have NEVER deleted.  i so enjoy your post and the people! *cough*go to china*cough*

Sasha in Stilettos said...

1. My smart mouth. My snark game is proper
2. Hawaii sounds good
3. Who wants to come with me?
4. Loyal to a fault
5. I would ask but I don't wanna get banned from BougieLand. If you ever do a BnB after dark though...

CaliGirlED said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?...My stubbornness when pushed into a corner.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?...Jamaica or Bahamas
3. Who would you take?...A friend
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?...My compassion for others
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't?....(Since Jubi asked what I would have)....RILEY can we see a picture of you?

blackprofessor said...

Caligirl,
Your #5 is my number 5!!

Jazzy Jazz said...

1) My tendency to be late and my mouth 
2) a nice beach with great shopping and a great hotel - everything paid for 
3) no one 
4) I am extremely generous , and I trust people even when they have proven that they are unreliable 
5) nope @Jubilance:disqus covered it lol

blackprofessor said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't? I am probably way too over analytical. It works most of the time but sometimes it doesn't.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?  Somewhere relaxing with good food, smooth drink and good company.
3. Who would you take? That depends!
4. What is the absolute best thing about you? I am a social justice person and can't stand to see injustice anywhere no matter how trivial.  I usually stand up for the underdogs.
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer). Caligirl took my #5.   You and 3N seem to have a healthy relationship.  Given all the shenanigans we read on this blog and what I have experienced in my own life, what kept you going so that you were ready for 3N??

MsJamie14 said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?

My uh "selectiveness." I do believe reputation is important and though I could probably lighten up a little, it's served me well and I'ma roll with it.

2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?

The remote beaches of the Maldives.

3. Who would you take?

I'd take him. lol

4. What is the absolute best thing about you?

My personality. It's recognized for it's greatness, but still an acquired taste. Works for me. :)

5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)

Don't know... Why you don't follow me back on Twitter? *shrugs* lol

Singlelif said...

A classic Pisces over here, too !  Was just talking this morning about #1 and #4.

The Bunni said...

1. Being too sarcastic.
2. On the beach with a refreshing beverage.
3. If I had a man, my man.  Since I don't, my best friend.
4. I'm the most loyal person you'll ever know.  Typical Cancer!
5. I'm new to twitter.  How do I get on the blacknbougie twitter list? 

The Bunni said...

I'm a classic Cancer too.  #1 and #4 all day!

CaliGirlED said...

 Me too on #4. I like your #5. Sometimes it's hard to be ready for someone good when you've interacted with different levels of ratchassedness.

sugahoneyicedtea said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
How generous and forgiving I am, when I should really be tagging some tail lol, also my procrastinating ways (Iknow, I know lol)
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
Aruba sounds nice. +1 for being out of the hurricane belt lol
3. Who would you take?
Hmm, maybe the new boyfriend? But if I'm single, then nobody (snickers)
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?
I really had to think for this one lol, but I would say my personality. Maybe more spice then sugar, with a dash of spunk..sometimes lol
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)

TNDRHRT said...

1. My love for tacos.  It's bad because I eat too many when I make them at home.  They have to be hard shelled...I do not like soft tacos unless they are made with corn tortillas.

2.  A beach in Hawaii or any tropical locale.

3. I'd take my mother.

4. My caring nature.

5. What's your government name?  Had no idea Michele Grant was a pen name. :)

Sasha Iman said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
In the words of Katt Williams, I've got f*ck it in my system. I also live by the words "Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized
anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't.--Eleanor
Roosevelt" That tends to rub some people the wrong way, especially the ones who are afraid to  go after what they want in life or break convention but hey, f*ck it. If I'm doing what makes me happy and not hurting anyone in the process, I care not one bit what others have to say.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?Hmmm, I'm torn between Jamaica and Spain (Salamanca, Madrid to be exact).
3. Who would you take?

Jamaica = I'd love to holiday there with my besties from University. This Christmas I'm trying to drag at least one of them along. Spain = Me, Myself & I.
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?Once we're friends, and I mean really truly friends, not "I'm on your friends list on facebook friends", I've got your back.
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)No burning questions for you or a BL member in particular, but since there's a lot of Bougie Dallas folks up in here, I figure I'll throw 2 out and hope one sticks:
I've tried google, but Dallas has way too many options and secretly or not so secretly white only places to mix and mingle so... 1. Where can a young bougenista (22 as of this Summer), go to mix and mingle with well to do individuals for the purpose of making friends, meeting others who are either business owners or self-employed, or both? 2. What's good with the 50-11 different chamber of commerce branches? I need some direction here. I ought to get this straightened out when I get a business mentor through Score, but I'd love to get a branch recommendation from someone of color if possible.

 

Sweet N Tart said...

1. I'm very opinionated.
2. Paris, Madrid, Rome?
3. My mom
4. My creativity
5. Are you ever going to reschedule the BnB meet-n-greets?

JohnKinPDX said...

1. I'm not the most forgiving person on the planet
2. Somewhere with snow and/or rain - Texas is killing m3
3. Lady friend
4. I'm a nice guy
5. I'll ask you in person.

L.P. said...

*De-Lurking activated* :)

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?My opinionatedness (yes I just made that up. Lol)
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?My hometown of Abidjan, Cote d'Ivoire.
3. Who would you take?My best friend from the States, she's never been.
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?My compassion and open-mindedness.
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)What is your absolute favorite piece of clothing (from your closet)?

Jasmin said...

1. My lack of patience. I'm quick on the uptake and expect everyone else to be too.

2. Granada, Spain

3. The boyfriend

4. I'm very perceptive of others' emotions.

5. General Bougieland question: Who's your celeb doppelganger?

Sasha Iman said...

1. In the words of Katt Williams, I've got "eff it" in my system. I also live by the words "Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized
anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't."--Eleanor
Roosevelt



That tends to rub some people the wrong way, especially the ones who are
afraid to  go after what they want in life or break convention but hey, eff it. If I'm doing what makes me happy and not hurting anyone in the
process, I care not one bit what others have to say.

2. Hmmm, I'm torn between Jamaica and Spain (Salamanca, Madrid to be
exact). Jamaica because I have family I haven't seen in a long time, and
Spain because that's were I've wanted to go for the longest.

3. Jamaica = I'd love to holiday there with my besties from University. This Christmas I'm trying to drag at least one of them along. Spain = Me, Myself & I.

4. Once we're friends, and I mean really truly friends, not "I'm on your friends list on facebook friends", I've got your back.

5. No burning questions for you or a BL member in particular, but since
there's a lot of Bougie Dallas folks up in here, I figure I'll throw 2
out and hope one sticks (I've tried google, but
Dallas has way too many options and secretly or not so secretly white
only places to mix and mingle):

1. Where can a young bougenista (22 as of this Summer), go to mix and
mingle with well to do individuals for the purpose of making friends,
meeting others who are either business owners or self-employed, or both?


2. What's good with the 50-11 different chamber of commerce branches? I
need some direction here. I ought to get this straightened out when I
get a business mentor through Score, but I'd love to get a branch
recommendation from someone of color if possible.
 *My bad if this is posted twice, my 1st attempt seems stuck in disqus limbo.*

Sasha Iman said...

1. In the words of Katt Williams, I've got "eff it" in my system. I also live by the words "Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized
anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't."--Eleanor
Roosevelt

That tends to rub some people the wrong way, especially the ones who are
afraid to  go after what they want in life or break convention but hey,
eff it. If I'm doing what makes me happy and not hurting anyone in the
process, I care not one bit what others have to say.

2. Hmmm, I'm torn between Jamaica and Spain (Salamanca, Madrid to be
exact). Jamaica because I have family I haven't seen in a long time, and
Spain because that's were I've wanted to go for the longest.


3. Jamaica = I'd love to holiday there with my besties from University. This Christmas I'm trying to drag at least one of them along. Spain = Me, Myself & I.


4. Once we're friends, and I mean really truly friends, not "I'm on your friends list on facebook friends", I've got your back.


5. No burning questions for you or a BL member in particular, but since
there's a lot of Bougie Dallas folks up in here, I figure I'll throw 2
out and hope one sticks (I've tried google, but
Dallas has way too many options and secretly or not so secretly white
only places to mix and mingle):

1. Where can a young bougenista (22 as of this Summer), go to mix and
mingle with well to do individuals for the purpose of making friends,
meeting others who are either business owners or self-employed, or both?


2. What's good with the 50-11 different chamber of commerce branches? I
need some direction here. I ought to get this straightened out when I
get a business mentor through Score, but I'd love to get a branch
recommendation from someone of color if possible.

 

*My bad if this is posted twice, my 1st attempt seems stuck in disqus limbo.*

Only1DivaC said...

1. I'm very opinionated but have learned to dial that back a bit and voice when needed. I'm also impatient with people that are indecisive
2. Villa overlooking the Mediterranean Sea
3. My future significant other (just need to start working on getting one)
4. I'm hilarious when people get to know me
5. CaliGirl, Singlelif, and Jubi took my questions

thinking that... said...

it is more than a notion being a pisces only the strong can survive!!!.....  :-)

maureen said...

1. Procastination
2. Fiji
3. This guy I like. Lawd I hope the feeling is mutual.
4. Giving person ( to a fault sometime), caring, loyal. Great listener.
5. Will u being going to China and will u be doing a book tour?

Miz JJ said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
I like alone time and can be labelled reclusive. I need to be able to re-charge solo. I can't be good to other people without that time.

2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
New York. Buying outfits in preparation of going to watch US Open tennis.

3. Who would you take?
My mom. We love tennis & we love the US Open. We've been before.

4. What is the absolute best thing about you?
I'm loyal. If I am on your side then I am on your side until the very end.

5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)
You share a lot and I always find it interesting.  

Big October said...

1. Sarcasm


2. Tahiti

3. Her

4. My imagination. I create worlds with my mind.

5. I already asked the questions I needed to ask.

Reecie said...

1.  being so moody2. Hawaii works, never been and I live for a beach3. a good girlfriend4. extremely compassionate and loyal5. nope, but I'll roll with Jubi's question too :-)

thinklikeRiley said...

1. I'm told I'm too direct. I do not care.
2. Who's paying?
3. See number 2
4. Generalized awesomeness
5. Can you bring me back some stir-fry shrimp and bootleg Jordans?

md_KG said...

*fist bump* on the tennis love. The US Open is my next GS target.

JoycelynC said...

Glad to know I am not the only one who hates floured tortillas.  All my friends look at me crazy when I ask for corn soft tacos. 

Aqsoul said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?

I can hold a grudge like nobody's business.  Stubborn thy name is Aqsoul :-/

2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?

Santorini, Greece

3. Who would you take?Mom, sister & daughter
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?Sense of humor
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)Are you going to China for 3 months...LOL

md_KG said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?It's a toss up between my sarcastic/snarky/dry wit and over-analytical nature. 2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?Barcelona since I've never been. Peru or Brazil would be nice too.3. Who would you take?It depends4. What is the absolute best thing about you?My loyalty to and compassion for the people I care about. My sense of humor comes a close second. 5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)Not really. You already share so much on the blog (and Twittuh) so I'm good ;-) CaliGirlED's question about Riley is intriguing though...LOL.

JoycelynC said...

I second question #5

sol_dier said...

1) procrastination 
2) St Vincent & the Grenadines with a quick stop in Paris
3) just me. I need some alone time.
4) My creativity in problem solving
5) how tall are you?

tishatweets said...

1. Hmm. Not really sure how to answer this, because I am actively working to change the things that I don't like about myself. I will say what I think will be hardest to change would be the propensity I have for analyzing a situation to pure dee death. Serves me well in my career, not so much in personal relationships.

2. In love. Can I say that? I miss that. If I could be anywhere I'd be there.

3. I'd take a man who is worthy.

4. The best thing about me is my heart. It can be my blessing and my curse, though.

5. I don't think I have any burning questions.  I will say that I like what I'm learning of a couple people. :)

Ms. LTB said...

1. I tend to think too much and detach too easily.
2.  Facedown on a massage table - soft music, candle light only, warm oil,  nice breeze from the ac/ocean, and strong male hands.  Right now I'm flexible on the actual location of the table but Maui would be nice.
3. I'm don't mind going alone but I'm willing to take whoever doesn't mind paying.
4. I give of myself with no strings attached.
5. Nope. I think all questions directed at you have already been asked and I don't know enough about the other folks in BougieLand to go there with them :-)

SingLikeSassy said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?  I overthink simple ish all.the.time.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
Berlin. My good friend is there, I have had some great times there.3. Who would you take?I can't answer this question right now.
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?My charm and wit. *spirit fingers*
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)David, if Chele hadn't been as cute as she is, would you have still tried to date her based on what you thought you knew about her from the blog? Tell the truth.

GuessImJay said...

I can't think of PG-13 answers to any of these questions right now.

Natasha said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?Analyzing everything to death..
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be? On a beach in Hawaii enjoying a good book
3. Who would you take? At this point in my life, absolutely no one
4. What is the absolute best thing about you? I have a quirky sense of humor
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer) Cosign with everyone who asked to see Riley's face

SingLikeSassy said...

"I like alone time and can be labelled reclusive. I need to be able to
re-charge solo. I can't be good to other people without that time."

I hear you on this. It amazes me, though, the people who can't grasp this and insist on pressing boundaries then cry hurt feelings when I dig in to them with my tongue. I *said* I need some alone time. Key word is ALONE.

Ms. LTB said...

Okay I just burst out laughing at work.  Can I use my #5 to ask what rating your current answers rate for each of the questions? 

SingLikeSassy said...

I hope it's mutual too Mau ((hugs))

SingLikeSassy said...

Five-signing on the pic of Riley. *taps foot waiting*

LikeLena said...

1. I have a touch of lastworditis myself
2. Spa
3. All by myself
4. Capacity for love
5. Can 3N retweet that swimsuit pic he had up for 20 seconds before you made him take it down?

OneChele said...

I will probably go for some of the time, not the whole three months. I'll still post. 

Jeannette said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't? - Thinking that everyone has an ulterior motive and it's up to me to find out what that is 1st before really letting them in.  (long winded i know).
2.If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?  in my Deluxe penthouse apartment in Manhattan... planning my next shopping trip

3. Who would you take? Shopping? Perhaps one well deserving friend

4. What is the absolute best thing about you? - I have leadership qualities that people gravitate to.. they also appreciate my no bull-ish personality... straight no chaser. :)

5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? Where in the hell do u meet all these fine men... got damn!?  lol 

SingLikeSassy said...

Now I REALLLLLY want to know the answers.

OneChele said...

Please don't pump up their egos anymore, we're running out of room in Dallas. They are good guys at their core though. Southern Gents with good intentions for the most part. 

OneChele said...

Ha - No BnB after dark! I have family members who read this blog ;-)

Natasha said...

"I hear you on this. It amazes me, though, the people who can't grasp
this and insist on pressing boundaries then cry hurt feelings when I dig
in to them with my tongue. I *said* I need some alone time. Key word is
ALONE. If you want me to be nice, leave me be"  <---------- THIS!!!!!

Jeannette said...

LOL.. u's a mess!

Sexyeprincess said...

Tisha..I second number 2's reply..in love would be wonderful place to be right now.

OneChele said...

Sheer determination and the unshakable belief that I deserve to be happy, by God. I'm a romantic at heart, I'll never give up.  I've been around enough to know that all men are not created equal. Plus, I did take that six month break to get my mind right. Add to that the fact that he snuck up under all my defenses when I wasn't paying attention. Sneaky azz.

Wanyanak said...

1. My reclusive tendencies.


2. Jinja, UG, watching the sunset over the River Nile.


3. Him.


4. My sense of humor.


5. Like CaliGirlEd I would luuuuurve for Riley to post a picture of
himself. I so love his mind and have the biggest e-crush on him.

SA said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?I worry more than I like...especially about things in the future I have no control over.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?On a beach. Taking a nap. With some wonderful frothy drink when I wake up.  Lots of  massages 
3. Who would you take?Since I don't have a man, I'd take any close friend or someone from my family-  who ever is up for it. The more the merrier.
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?Err, had to think long about this. I'm good at encouraging and lifting people up.
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)How is your life so entertaining?

OneChele said...

I do and you're on the Bougie Twitter list.

Sexyeprincess said...

1) allowing the fear of failure to increase my stagnation at the workplace.
2) in bed wrapped up with the man I love..in the Caribbean somewhere.
3) see above.
4) I'm compassionate and warm
5) no

OneChele said...

You're on it

OneChele said...

Well, Michele is my real name.

Your Girl "C" said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
I'm very honest.  Sometimes I should probably tell people what they want to hear rather than giving my real opinion when asked.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?Not sure.  Probably on a plane heading to D.C. to watch the MLK memorial dedication.
3. Who would you take?Noone.  I'd rather take it all in by myself.4. What is the absolute best thing about you?I'm very loyal to my friends.5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)Have you considered interviewing Riley?  A lot of us in BougieLand are really intrigued by him.  He's probably young enough to be my son so I'm not curious from a dating perspective but would just love to know more about him and that brain of his.On another note, you and 3N in China for three months sounds like the making of some damn good bougietales, maybe even a sit-com.  "Newly together Black and Bougie couple.  He's from a small town in Georgia, she's from a big town in Texas."  We'd love to follow that story Chele!

OneChele said...

Yes ;-)

CaliGirlED said...

I can go with #2 as well. I am soooo long overdue!

OneChele said...

That changes. I'm fairly partial to a pink and black paisley Michael Kors wrap dress right now.

CaliGirlED said...

 I feel you on #1!

OneChele said...

First of all - happy birthday, diva!
Second, yes (for at least part of the time) and yes.

OneChele said...

Can't you pop over to Canal Street for both of those?

OneChele said...

Heckie naw. He can not...

OneChele said...

Just lucky I guess? Actually, I probably make it sound way more entertaining than it really is ;-)

OneChele said...

I met 3N through BougieLand, his friends are part of the package. Though I have dated some fineness in my day. I meet men all sorts of random places - grocery store, post office, gas station, sports bar...

OneChele said...

One - ma'am, where ya been?
Two - Riley does not want to be interviewed, I've tried.
Three - We'll talk

David Chase said...

Hey!

David Chase said...

Ma'am.

David Chase said...

What can I say - I'm a sucker for the smart girls. I like to banter. I was interested when all her pictures were cartoons or shoes. I knew I was in trouble when I was personally offended by DFKAN's ratchetery.

Cute comes and goes. Character, creativity, class and wit are hard to find in a woman that also gets me and makes me laugh.  So to answer your question - yeah, I was gonna holla no matter what.

CaliGirlED said...

 Wrap dresses are a girl's best friend. They're flattering on so many different shapes and sizes!

thinklikeRiley said...

Soon as you took out Steve - BWAHAHAHA!

CaliGirlED said...

 Riley is in New Orleans ladies! LOL

CaliGirlED said...

"Cute comes and goes. Character, creativity, class and wit are hard to
find in a woman that also gets me and makes me laugh.  So to answer your
question - yeah, I was gonna holla no matter what."....Just wow! You go David!!!

thinklikeRiley said...

Ladies, ladies. One day only. My actual pic on DISQUS.
This will self destruct in 5... 4... 3... 2...

CaliGirlED said...

 Uh that would be called talented! ;-)

md_KG said...

I am so feeling you on #1!! A friend and I debate this all the time! I always feel people usually have a hidden agenda. Emphasis on usually.

*giggles at your #5*

MsJamie14 said...

Well thanks. I'll buy your books now. LOL (been meaning to anyway! :) )

Bailey said...

OMG, he's Shaza.

Bailey said...

I saw that. *wipes drool from side of mouth*

Bailey said...

See above.

MsJamie14 said...

1. I'm shocked you actually posted your pic! I figured you'd stay behind the curtain forever!

2. I'm so glad you aren't a troll looking dude. LOL. You never know....lol

Thanks for sharing!

MsJamie14 said...

*hollers!!!!!*

Bailey said...

Awww... that's so sweet.

Only1DivaC said...

Uh, not everyone when you have the wrong undergarments. Trust me I have seen the ugly side of wrap dresses gone oh so wrong!

blackprofessor said...

What??? Riley, you kind of cute over there with those locs!

Bailey said...

1. I play my cards very close to my vest
2. I would love to be in a bathtub big enough to swim in, with bubbles and wine
3. I have some one in mind
4.My sense of humor
5. Which of the Georgia Boyz is the finest? And did you know Riley was cute all this time?!

CaliGirlED said...

 So nice of you to oblige! Just needed a face to go along with those snide comments. LOL!...Ladies control yourselves! LMAO!!!

Natasha said...

Well alrighty then Riley!!

michaeldavis said...

1. My determination and unwillingness to settle and be happy with my station in life.2. Rio, at the Christ the Redeemer statue (shakes fist at customs for messing up my pics from last time)3. (scans BnB, scribbles down names)4. My determination5. WHEN are you going to have a BnB function for Dallas?  I already promised my 7-cheese Macaroni & Cheese :)

michaeldavis said...

there's a Canal st in NYC too LOL (throws salt on CaliGirl's travel plans)

Singlelif said...

*thinking Imma pull one of your locs and run*

Wanyanak said...

Uhm... my e-crush just got bigger! :)

Andrea M said...

I just took your reference! HAHAHA! #ADifferentWorld

Ziggy Marie said...

1.        My over thinking that comes with a side of anxiety.  Truly need to take life as it comes (including the ups and downs)
2.       Found the website for Zimbali Retreats (20 mi outside of Negril) this week…I would definitely like to be there under a waterfall off the “grid”
3.       I would love to take all my friends that need a vacay too, but if not…my ipod, charger, pen, and paper would be perfect
4.       My passion and overall happy/calm spirit
5.       Hmmmm, is the Bougie Cruise still on for 2012?  If so, how can I book

Ziggy Marie said...

Can Houston ppl crash?  7-Cheese Mac....*Yum*!

Ziggy Marie said...

Can Houston ppl crash?  7-Cheese Mac....*Yum*!

Ms. LTB said...

Feel free to join me.  I'm in Florida so we have plenty of beaches :-) .  I have a little "extra" motivation for a massage right now because I tried a personal trainer on Monday and I'm convinced that he was trying to kill me.   If we get enough people maybe they'll shut the place down for us, add in some drinks and maybe a group discount LOL

michaeldavis said...

I know Michele doesn't want to do this right now, so I'm forced to bring out the big guns LOL

Andrea M said...

What I miss?

Andrea M said...

Mind goes straight to gutter.

Andrea M said...

Canal street in NYC. Notorious for knock offs

Miz JJ said...

The US Open was really fun. Hoping to get to Wimbledon next year.

Brenda Kay said...

Mature Bougie is going to come straight out and say it - Riley is FINE! 

Mykeia said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?  Ugh, I am a time waster, I hate it about my self, I am a walking contradiction. LeSigh.  Also my facial expressions get me in TROUBLE--really trying to control this.2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?  In another country, pick one.3. Who would you take?  My hubby and son.4. What is the absolute best thing about you?  My positive outlook on life and my determination not to be defined by my upbringing.5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)  Where oh where do you find some of the pictures for the posts?  The pictures are sooooo great, I swear the man in the picture yesterday looked like a broke R. Kelly.  (My hubby's words.)  Also the Usher themed wedding, is there anything that you've seen more interesting than that?

OneChele said...

I'm biased on the Ga crew. Clearly, I have my favorite.
I had seen Mr. Riley via Skype so yes, I knew he wasn't hard on the eyes.

Mykeia said...

Don't you hate when people don't get your dry wit and sense of humor?  And then they act like it's the end of the world...sorry my own issue.  So basically I am co-signing with you on the dry wit.

The Bunni said...

I...I..I.......just wow!  Riley u are some kinda fine!

Earthangel172 said...

1. My "idon'tgiveaphuckness" as it relates to people who are assume they play a "role" in my life.
2. French Polynesia
3. My Naija boo....Igbo kwenu!
4. Fantastic listener
5. Not at all.

Earthangel172 said...

#roadtrip

Brenda Kay said...

1. I'm a night owl - so don't even think about calling me before 10am...actually make it 11am. Being an artist, I find the late nights, very early mornings are my most creative times and I'm not changing that part of myself. So if a partner wants to roll out of bed at 8am, that's fine. Just don't wake me up in the process. 

2. The Smithsonian in Washington DC

3. Sadly, I don't know anyone who would appreciate it as much as I would. So I would just enjoy the adventure by myself. 

4. My generosity.

5. Where are the single mature men folk over the age of 50 in Bougieland? ;-)

Jeannette said...

Riley i didn't know u were a Bronxite.. me too...well at least a former Bronxite

Jeannette said...

Easy bruh...she didn't come out the womb being ya guhl... lol

Jeannette said...

Spread that message to the brotherhood....! We need more like ya!

Grace said...

It's not just the Georgia Boys, there are a lot of good looking men running around BnB. How DO you do it?

SingLikeSassy said...

The Smithsonian in Washington DC <--I am all about that. Holla at me.

SingLikeSassy said...

Glad to have a face to go with the comments because you are entertaining.

How does it feel to know all these ladies have Interwebz crushes on you?

OneChele said...

I so feel you on that night owl thing. As for the baby boomer Bougie bruhs, I'm working on it. Owen is going to sign up some of his crew. 

OneChele said...

It's hard to top the Usher wedding. That level of ratchet blog fodder only comes around once ina  blue moon. I use three different photo services on the web to get my pics and then I add the captions. 

OneChele said...

Bouge Cruise is still on, there's still space: http://mybusinesspage.site90.com/upcomingevents/cruises/bougieatsea.htm

AppleBerryMIA said...

I just said the same thing on Twitter.

CaliGirlED said...

 Bad underwear can mess up the cutest outfit, period!

JoycelynC said...

well damn! Looking like that with all that sense! Go Riley!

CaliGirlED said...

No salt here my friend, my travels are in another direction. ;-)

CaliGirlED said...

 Oh ok.

CaliGirlED said...

 Sorry Angel can't make it. But send me a postcard! LOL

CaliGirlED said...

 That was some serious ish that night! LMAO!!!

CaliGirlED said...

Nite owl over here!

rozb said...

1.
What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?
On a superficial level, I could do with fewer pairs of high-heel shoes, as I am already tall. But I can't quit stilettos and I won't (even if bunions come a callin'.) On a deeper level, I tend to tune folks out when I am listening to them, kinda like that Dave Chapelle skit where he dreams he has goat legs.



2. If you could
be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
On a screened in back porch in the country feeling a breeze on a porch swing and sipping some sweet tea.



3. Who would
you take?
My fiance, of course (I am in the throes of love - don't judge me!!!) and my rottweiler Leonidas.



4. What is the
absolute best thing about you?
I have a lot of compassion for the underdog, and I firmly believe in fighting for those who cannot do it for themselves.



5. Is there
something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may
not answer)
This is for JohnkinPDX - since the breakup of your last relationship, waht do you do differently in terms of approaching, wooing, and starting a serious relationship?

rozb said...

Kinda like I expect you to look - youthful, handsome, and healthy! Glad to know ya, Riley!

SingLikeSassy said...

That'S cause WE ladies are all fine and smart and funny and thoughtful etc. You see everybody who comments -- man and woman -- is trying to get a bougie hook up.

Mykeia said...

Co-sign!  I love the Smithsonians...

Guest said...

Testing

maureen palmer said...

Thanks. I'm late for  date trying to catch up on BnB. SMH.  #bnbstruggles

md_KG said...

Oh, I've been to Wimbledon and it's so much fun! If you get the chance to go you have to go.

Singlelif said...

Huh ? I thought he was in Bronx, NYC ?  Coulda sworn I saw him on the #6 train...lol

CaliGirlED said...

Girl reading too fast, all I saw was Canal St. and shrimp. Don't know anything about Canal St. in the NYC.  Didn't even realize Riley said stir-fry. Duh the topic was China right? Ok so I had a blonde moment. LOL

tiffanyinhouston said...

Riley's picture was worth the wait. That is all.

Singlelif said...

Yep, I hate it. It gets frustrating having to constantly explain my intent.

tiffanyinhouston said...

Picture is too damn small, dammit!

Ms. LTB said...

Well helloooooooo Mr. Riley :-)

GrownAzzMan said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?I tend to say exactly what I think at any given moment. As soon as I learn to spell diplomacy, I'm gonna by me some.2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?On an Island with a beach and somebody to bring me drinks3. Who would you take?I would take her.4. What is the absolute best thing about you?I was a ride or die friend before the term was invented.5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)What's up with the bougie meet and greet book tour?

SA said...

I agree. Very talented.

Jazzy Jazz said...

I must be the only girl wrap dresses arent flattering on. :( They do nothing for my figure but make my butt look like a bus. I already have a big butt - I dont need any help 

GrownAzzMan said...

Got the name honestly.

GrownAzzMan said...

Jeanette, lots of me think this way.

GrownAzzMan said...

????

CaliGirlED said...

Aw Jazzy :-(

CaliGirlED said...

Bwahahaha!!!

CaliGirlED said...

Hey GAM I was wondering where you were!

BlackButterfly said...

1.  What one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't? My ability to cut a person off.

2.  If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?  A tropical resort with an attendant named Jacques fanning me, bringing drinks and food and rubbing on sunscreen.

3.  Who would you take? No need to because I have Jacques.

4.  What is the absolute best thing about you?  My depth of love for those I love.

5.  Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't?  They've been asked by others here.

Jubilance said...

I wanna know the names you were scribbling down homie...

JoycelynC said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?  I am very honest, my friends and family know if you don't want to know the truth as I see it, don't ask.  I don't know how to sugarcoat with the people I care about because it seems phony to me.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be? Right now, either Paris or South Africa.  Both are on my list of places to go
3. Who would you take? My best friend who is an overworked, underpaid prosecutor in Miami
4. What is the absolute best thing about you? Though I have a slightly hard shell, I am very compassionate and generous on the inside.  I will bend over backwards if I can help a friend or family member with something I find worthy.  I don't do mess though
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer) Nope, all the questions I might have thought of have been asked. 

CorettaJG said...

Hmm, no kidding

CorettaJG said...

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?  I tend to speak loudly, like my mama.2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?  I had an amazing time at the Ritz Carlton in Montego Bay in May, going back there would be nice.3. Who would you take?  My sister friends - they all work too hard like me.4. What is the absolute best thing about you?  I'm loyal, to a fault.5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)Nope. But, I'm looking forward to the DMV area BnB meet and greet.

Brenda Kay said...

GAM ~ we definitely need more than one mature aged man in Bougieland. :-)

GammasWorld said...

I'm with ya girl!  

sol_dier said...

Kinda?.
No Kinda about it. lol

Angel Blanca said...

Considering it's already Friday here, I'm gonna show my #latepass.

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?I *know* I should get out of my comfort zone more, but it is *so* difficult. In particular, I need to attend more social events and interact with others more.
2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?Beach. Ocean. Lake. Island. Cruise. (do you see a thread in my responses?)
3. Who would you take?Does my Kindle count?
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?I really am as kind and generous as I appear...although most people are suspicious about this until they've been around me for a while.
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)Not really, but I am open for questions!

kjnetic aka Peter Parker said...

"1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?
3. Who would you take?
4. What is the absolute best thing about you?
5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)"1. My Heart.2. South Beach, or Runaway Bay. with a Cigar and a drink.3. N/A.4. My Heart.5. The Prosecution rests, Yuh Honna.

AndreaPlaid said...

Sorry I'm late to the game, but here are my answers:

1. What's one thing you probably should change about yourself but won't?Being a neatnik. My place needs to be tidy, full stop.2. If you could be any place in the world right now, where would you be?Italy.3. Who would you take?Me, myself, and I.4. What is the absolute best thing about you?Being a ham--I've finally come to grips with that part of my personality. 5. Is there something you're dying to ask me (or anyone in BougieLand) but haven't? (I may not answer)Dr. Jayme, what moved you to go into the mental-health field? 

Mature Dating said...

A person can consider about initiating a mature dating relationship for a number of different purposes.

MsJamie14 said...

1. I'm shocked you actually posted your pic! I figured you'd stay behind the curtain forever!

2. I'm so glad you aren't a troll looking dude. LOL. You never know....lol

Thanks for sharing!

Jeannette said...

I'm sure .. hard to find them though.. 

Jeannette said...

Yeah that's me all day.  I could change, but my "gift of discernment" has not failed me yet.

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