Wednesday, March 23, 2011

"We should have Kardashian'd it"


So I'm chatting away with a friend I haven't talked to since college. [Damn Facebook] We were in the same dorm but actually met because I ran up two flights of stairs in the football dorm to save her from getting busted in a dude's room after bed check. What was I doing there? Studying.  Moving on...

It was both hilarious and alarming to see how my priorities and attitudes have shifted since college, hers - not as much. She was dating a guy who was a first-round draft pick but dropped him to date a guy from Oklahoma that she thought would go higher. He got busted with drugs and never got drafted. She married a baseball player but cheated on him with a part owner of the team. She left him for a tech guy and left him for a venture capital consultant. She's twice divorced and currently single.

When she found out I'm still single [insert deep sigh and eyeroll here] she said, "We did it wrong, we should have Kardashian'd our way to the top!"

Huh? I don't watch all the Kardash reality shows but I've seen enough to know that one of 'em has a whiny baby daddy that she's not married to, one married a Laker after knowing him for two days and one swaps out famous/semi-famous African American athletes/entertainers like bed sheets. I don't one hundred percent understand the mama's story either.

So I asked, "Sorry, what part the Kardashian Way do you think we should have emulated?"

"Well they marry money, have any man they want and people look up to them. They do things their way with no apologies and when they don't like the circumstances, they upgrade looking good doing it."

There are so many things I disagree with in that statement. What are we, 14? Is this what's hot in the streetz? I can't. I can't be a grown-ass woman idolizing reality stars. Looking at her track record, didn't she try to "Kardashian it" and failed?  I mean jeez, what about the romance, what about the determined pick of a proper life mate? Is it really all about bouncing the booty to maintain the bank balance?

"You're so funny, Michele. You just don't get it."

Maybe I don't. I think I'm okay with that. I hope this isn't what reality TV is teaching the youngsters - chose your life mate based on bank and mentions in People magazine? Sex your way to the top, don't bother having life goals beyond that? All looks and no substance is fine as long as you get a show out of it? [minor rant, sorry] But the bigger question is... do we really go through life Kim Kardashianing our way through? Do we hit a plateau, discard (or get discarded) and upgrade? Y'all just have to give me your thoughts on this one. I'm thoroughly perplexed. 

95 comments:

OSHH said...

Her logic is ridiculously flawed, in no way would I want to emulate the that clan.

Wanyanak said...

Uhm...so the Kardashians are now a verb? Like...OMG! What is the world coming to?

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

1. I don't watch the show(s) either, but I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks Baby Daddy Scott is a whiny little she-puppy.

2. If that is what I have to do to live the fabulous life, then I'd rather starve. No thank you! Besides, I assume your old college friend is the same age as you - past 20. She's way too old to think this groupie tactic is the way to go (plus, didn't she try that and fail?).

Just_A_Thought1218 said...

*flava flav voice* wooooowwwooowww!!!

This is unadulterated inane shiggity. I...

iCan't. I just can't.

CaliGirlED said...

AGREED! Yes this is what the youngsters are being taught which is why parents, aunts/uncles, cousins, friends, WHOEVER have to teach and show a better way! I actually sat my daughter down and explained how the person who makes $100,000 can be better off financially than the person who makes $1,000,000. My point, being financially smart and not worried about "high signing". We will definitely revisit that one later when she's allowed to start dating. Just wanted to plant that seed!

I admit to not being up to speed on the goings-on of the celeb folks, so maybe that's why I have to ask this question. Who is Kim Kardashian? I mean what did she do to make herself and her family famous, or vice versa. (Old money, new money, actress, model? What did I miss?)

David Parrish, Jr.(Inkognegro) said...

Um...errr....Bouge?


I'd like to submit an Ethnicity verification form for your college Homey...

Something tells me Becky has a different set of life experiences...

EvolvingElle said...

Haven't commented in awhile. *waves* Hey, Chele! Ok, back to the topic at hand.

First, I must mention that I am a KUWK fan. I love the show. However, I would never aspire to have a love life like any of the sisters. While Khloe and Lamar actually seem to be doing ok (suprisingly), Kourtney and Kim need some help. To answer your question, our we to "Kim Kardashian" our way to love? In a word, no. Kim is just looking for the next dude that's going to put her on the front page of some celebrity news magazine. Poor Kourtney decided to have a baby with a baby. Unless the reality star is Donald Trump, someone who is successful in a business sense, we should NOT aspire to be like a reality tv star. OK, I'm done.

blackprofessor said...

Boo to your friend! I don't do the Kardashians but they annoy me to no end as they seem like fame whores! Trying to emulate them was the same shiggity Montana Fishburne uttered and I wasn't feeling it then nor am I feeling it now.

As far as your friend, I was thinking the same thing about her "Didn't she try that and it FAILED!" I am assuming this woman is near 40 and she is still on some college mentality, this is not a good look!

blackprofessor said...

Caligirl,
Stay in the dark, you aren't missing out by now knowing who she is, LOL!

Pretty Primadonna said...

*snicker* at "Becky..."

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

Long story short - The Kardashian's father was one of O.J.'s long time friends and (I think) one of his lawyers in the murder trial. If not one of his lawyers, he sure helped with O.J.'s defense. The mum, Kris, used to be a flight attendant. But I never knew any of this until after Kim (in black) started hanging out with Paris Hilton (never a good sign), and had a sex tape 'leaked' starring her and Ray J (too many damn sex tapes floating around for me to buy that 'leaked/stolen' story).

The other sisters are just riding the fame brought by Kim's shenanigans, imo. Mum too.

Michele said...

@ CaligirlED: What did she do? Nothing! She's famous for making a sex tape with Brandy's little brother and for having a huge butt.

DesertBlack said...

I will probably take some heat for this one.

First, yes that is what the current round of reality shows are teaching and exposing us to in general.

Second, my personal thought if you desire a particular life style earn it yourself by your own drive and determination. If done this way one (he or she)does not have to depend on another for a particular life style. It belongs to you and you control it. (remember we were never promised anything)

Third, this is still the land of the free and one has the right to do it their way.

It just circles back to choice.

Earthangel172 said...

"Is this what's hot in the streetz?"
#DEAD....LMBO

"Well they marry money, have any man they want and people look up to them. They do things their way with no apologies and when they don't like the circumstances, they upgrade looking good doing it."

Small minds say small things.

Michele said...

I don't understand an adult woman wishing to be like the Kardashians. Really?

But to answer the question: Do we hit a plateau, discard (or get discarded) and upgrade?

I hope not. Plateaus come ... sometimes we fall into a rut but the answer is not to cut and run, shrug your shoulders and say on to the next.

Earthangel172 said...

Her dad was a lawyer on the OJ Simpson case. I didn't know who she was until the sex tape with Ray J came out. That's all I have.

Oy vey!

.tisha said...

I understand how you felt. I'm OFTEN disappointed by the views that my generation has on marriage--or even just relationships in general. I've heard women say of men they are now in marriages or serious relationships with but who cheated on their last girlfriend say "but that was just his GIRLfriend. They weren't married!"

Some HUH?!

Does.not.compute. If he wasn't faithful in the SMALL thing of being faithful to JUST his girlfriend, how can you expect him to be so in the HUGE undertaking that is marriage? I thought I might have been just a little bit crazy in this view, until I remembered that the Bible teaches the same thing--the Bible doesn't say "you screwed up on the little thing, so I'm going to reward you with something bigger." It says "You've been faithful over a FEW things, come on up and I'll make you ruler over MANY."

Kinda tangential, but the overreaching point is that these women are going about it all wrong. And it further contributes to the breakdown of families, morals, and values in our society.

.tisha said...

She's screwed various and sundry stars and almost stars. And documented it. There. There's the story of her life in two sad sentences. LOL. #butreallythough

OhMyGodYes said...

You know... some women can't pull off the Kardashblah blah blah. They just aint got it like that. They aint got the ass or the face or the lack of brain. I know some really attractive women who have this syndrome. And I wonder, are these women conditioned to this behavior because of the way they have been treated by men? Have they been taught to believe that because they look a certain way, they are entitled a certain man who will provide them a certain quality of life? You gotts to use what you got and all some people have is their looks. If that’s all they have going for them, give them a cookie, pat them on the head, and wish them luck.

littlemiss said...

The media is influencing women to be this way. Most of the tv shows that are popular now [basketball wives,love and hip-hop, real housewives etc] show women preying men with wealth. I mean of course we all want to have financial stability but this shouldn't be the only motive for finding a s.o. Like yourself I find it odd for a grown women to be idolizing characters like Kim and Khloe. But I am in no position to judge for everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Good luck to all the women who are Kardashian' ing it, cant knock your hustle, to each their own

Penny said...

Never seen the Kardashian show, so not really familiar with it. However, based on your comments about your friend, I think the messages the Kardashians send out is being sent out to many of our young women of all races. That's a shame.

Question for your friend, what is her plan when she is past her "sell by" date? There is always another 23 year old in the wings.

Mony_Mony said...

Unfortunately, too many people fall into this bullshiggety. But what people forget is: A. the Kardashians have their OWN money (dad was OJ's lawyer, stepdad is former tennis pro Bruce Jenner, same high school as ppl like Mariska Hargitay and Tatyana Ali) and B. they are white. Both factors give them a lot more leeway in terms of image and eligibility than the average black girl (or average girl period) is going to get. They may be fame whores, but in general the public doesn't consider them to be real whores (as compared with "famous" people like Superhead or unknown groupies in general). I'm all for personal choice, but don't be surprised if your story doesn't turn out like the Kardashians.

happinessisme said...

Please. Your doing fine. Your the one with the book deals and awesome life. She had SEVERAL attempts to kardashian her way to the top but failed miserably from what your saying. She has no game because if she did, she's still be married(or at least have a settlement) from 1st draft pick. Or part owner of the team. Game recognize game, and she has none.

BlackButterfly said...

WTH!!! I don't understand women who've lived some life aspiring to base their lives off of the Kardashian family. People trying to live comic book lives are delusional.

These are desperate times because character and self respect are at a minimum in today's society because too many have the ' I will do anything for a dollar' mentality. I have watched the show a couple of times with my teenage daughter and I have to say that it was embarrassing to watch. I watched my daughter's response to it and although she expressed her dislike at certain parts that she found embarrassing or tasteless... she still watched it as a source of entertainment that she found hilarious.

I must admit that am scared for this generations perception of what constitutes "making it" in life. I counter the high levels of @#$%@#$ trash that is readily available for her to consume with requiring high expectations in education and continually reinforcing her values for herself beyond her aesthetic. With hope and prayers she will go on to inspire other young ladies to do the same!

Just_A_Thought1218 said...

PREACH! Not only society in general judges women of color more harshly for, well, everything really; but sexualized images/actions in particular; but black men in particular do so as well (and probably more harshly). Yes, we have a few brothers here in bougieland that might not, but the rest of the world is decidedly not here.

.tisha said...

You so hit the nail on the head with "character and self respect are at a minimum in today's society." That sums it (and so many other things) up right there. People will do anything on television or to GET on television. I often wonder what other cultures think of us (read: America, not black folk. For once. LOL).

Natasha Hunter said...

Puh-leeze... the Kardashians don't even want to Kardashian their way through life anymore. Them broads (sorry for the term, but that's what my brain said) are not happy with the way their lives are going with the exception of Khloe.

Ole' girl should be embarrassed to even think something like that... not "we should've studied more," not "we should've participated in foreign exchange studies," not "we should've tried out for the Lacrosse team," but "we should've Kardashianed our way to the top "!?!

Fired.

rozb said...

I don't even know what to say. For a grown-A woman to talk out the side of her neck about "Kardashianing" life, one would have to wonder about her mental stability.

But look at what we are inundated with nowadays: shows about "wives" where 98% of them aren't wives at all, women flossing (do they still use that term?) the latest in lip and butt enhancement technology posing knock-kneed in 6-inch heels, then complaining that they aren't happy or satisfied. The Kardashians aren't particularly talented or useful, but the media makes it seem like they are having the time of their lives. Maybe they are, but our society enables this and so many grown-A women co-sign this garbage. Their lifestyle is cartoonish, and does not really root itself in everyday reality.

I knew were going to H-E-double hockey stick when my 20 year-old niece put a weave in her hair so she could get a "Snookie Pouf" and almost had a fit when she couldn't watch the Kardashian show on E! network. Her idols are: 1) Beyonce; 2) Kim Kardashian; 3) Snookie. She said she wants to combine all three for her look. I know - not a good look for a petite AA sister with big doe eyes, dimples, and a cute proportionate figure. My niece is more of the Chrisette Michelle-type, and when I told her this, she got upset and teary-eyed. Wow.

If your friend keeps this up, she is going to end up looking like Baby Jane trying to chase impossible dreams while getting more plastic surgery than Joan Rivers.

How about we turn those shows off, and not indulge in the foolishness and buffoonery?

Hope I didn't ramble too much...

Evansaw said...

In a few years, we will see the results of all these reality shows reflected in our young people's value systems. I am already seeing the results of this in my community. Fourteen year olds that look thirty. Kids who think the world will end if their phones don't work for a day. Fake hair and fake everything else on teenagers, and if you don't get it for me, that older dude that has been eyeing me will. If you let the television raise your kids, then that same medium will dicate how they relate to the world. You can bet the Kardashians have their regrets the same way we all do, only they don't show that part on T.V. The worst part for me is how young ladies devalue themselves more than ever these days. We need to show them that this stuff is not or should not be what real like is about, but somebody's fanatasy life put on display for the world to see.

BrendaKay said...

Montana Fishburne foolishly thought that she could "Kim Kardashian" her way to Hollywood stardom. So it is really all that surprising that other IQ challenged women stupidly believe that their sexing skills and a surgically enhanced body are NOT the way to eternal happiness and a fat bank account? Our celebrity obsessed culture has always placed more value and attention on the superficial over intelligence, education, and talents that don't require a state of undress or outright nudity. Just take a look at which female singers are top of the charts ~ far, far less about actual singing skills, and much more about being the male visual embodiment of a stripper / porn star.

BrendaKay said...

Jumping up and down in the Amen Corner! :-)

Natasha Hunter said...

"...continually reinforcing her values for herself beyond her aesthetic."

That's what needs to be hot in the streets right now!

CaliGirlED said...

I knew about the tapes and the "butt", but I had heard her name before the tapes and was just clueless. Thanks!

Natasha Hunter said...

That's sad because Chrisette is gorgeous... anyway she wants to rock it, weave, short cut, ceasar... and talented to boot! That's an awesome compliment, although probably not to a 20yo. Give her time. :)

CaliGirlED said...

Thanks Yardie! So basically as I thought she lucked up on some "celeb stupidity"!

CaliGirlED said...

And from you insightful sistas here in BougieLand, I can safely conclude that I did not miss anything, her fame is just some media/celeb bullshiggity. She did nothing worthwhile to gain her status.

CaliGirlED said...

"the Bible doesn't say "you screwed up on the little thing, so I'm going to reward you with something bigger." I like that!

CaliGirlED said...

"Question for your friend, what is her plan when she is past her "sell by" date? There is always another 23 year old in the wings." This.right.here.

Tonda Williams said...

Chele-You have said everything that I feel so I have nothing to add. Besides, my face is still about 10 kinds of twisted from her perspective...*smdh*

Tonda Williams said...

WHERE should I send my tithes? THIS was a sermon

OneChele said...

Sister through and through. Anyone familiar with 5th ward Houston? She's a former Homecoming Queen from Smiley.

thinklikeRiley said...

Them Kardash chick appear to have their uses.
Wouldn't wife one but ur uh...

Cha Keziah said...

This is pure wisdom, and so smart to share with your daughter now. I began telling my goddaughter that at 5y.o. when she called me one day talking about this little boy in KINDERGARTEN who told her "she should be friends with him because his daddy has money and can take them to mcdonalds every day." Yeah, that life lesson began with a quickness.

Lady4Real said...

I don't see any reason why you should catch heat for this comment, I think you are totally right with all your points. Great comment.

DCSquared said...

That's exactly what I was thinking! LOL!!!!!!!!!!!

David Parrish, Jr.(Inkognegro) said...

Thats FASCINATING. Although the flushed out details lend to a different kind
of entitlement and privilege, though.

Lady4Real said...

I'm not a bad looking female, my Dad knew that from the day I was born and went into preemptive strike. He always told me, 'you are a beautiful girl but looks are only skin deep, it's how you treat people that matters in life and your brain will get you further than your looks ever will'. Sometimes he would just tell me I'm cute but I'm not that cute better put something behind those looks. He bought me books, kept me in museums, made me watch the news so I would know what was going on in the world around me. He kept me humble and taught me how to treat myself and others and now at 27 I see beauty differently, I value my brain and I love my heart. I can appreciate a pocket full of lint, pennies or millions its all the same to me because it comes and it goes. Money is nice but it won't wipe my tears away on a bad day, it won't make me laugh, and it can't be my best friend. They need more then a pat on the head and some luck, they need some encouragement and wisdom.

Cha Keziah said...

I had one overarching thought while reading this: But you're an adult. I don't expect to hear this from adults. Sigh.

Chele, I join you in this state of perplexity.

CaliGirlED said...

If he was grown, I would be giving a strong side-eye, but at 5 years old, I have to say I won't hate the playa or his game! Too damn funny!!! However, you were right to start that life lesson cause if the playas are starting at 5, then our little ladies need to be armed with some knowledge!

Still laughing at that one!!!

Grace said...

My 16 y/o niece came downstairs dressed like a Kardashian clone, tight dress, big hair, boobs cinched up to her neck, too much make up and high heels. I sent her back up there and raided her closet and make up drawer. I don't know why her parents (my brother and sister in law) are letting her buy that crap but she won't be wearing it on Auntie Grace's watch. No. Little Girl. NO.

CaliGirlED said...

"Small minds say small things."...End of discussion!

CaliGirlED said...

"I'm all for personal choice, but don't be surprised if your story doesn't turn out like the Kardashians."...Just when I thought no more good points were needed! Can we put this up on billboards?

Lady4Real said...

I don't know what I would do if I had a daughter, I'm 27 and when I was growing up the riskiest girls out were TLC, Salt-n-Pepa and Da Brat and I didn't want to be like any of them because my Dad was my role model and so were my brothers. I wanted to wear baggy clothes, rap, write poetry and play basketball. I feel sorry for young ladies nowadays, lack of fathers, craziness on tv and a shortage of postive female role models. I'm guilty of liking my fair share of reality tv shows but they are comedic to me nothing to admire or aspire just good for a nice hearty laugh.

Lady4Real said...

" If you let the television raise your kids, then that same medium will dicate how they relate to the world."
THIS.RIGHT.HERE. My sons watch their far share of television but I be damned if they think Lil'Wayne is someone to imitate. They know that their uncles, their dad, their grandad are the type of men to look up not the make believe people on the t.v. Parents need to get back to parenting and stop letting their kids run shiggity.

Trudy said...

Good point...people do ignore the race factor. NONE of their behavior would be considered acceptable for Black women. They have more endorsement deals than Lil' Kim and she can actually rap! People need to stop. Black people always idolize non-Blacks who sleep with Blacks or do stereotypical negative "Black things" and assume that they can have the same things those people do. Uh no, you can't. Thus, it makes more sense to simply live a life of meaning.

Here is the thing...there are women who are successful and wealthy and they are not doing any of this. The truth is people crave the ATTENTION over the money. In the age of recession ATTENTION IS THE NEW MONEY. Thus, it is not about wealth because wealth or even being comfortable is what many women have achieved without this. However, they are not in the spotlight. People want the faux attention based on over exploited sexuality. To them, money is just the side perk. This is why they pursue this Kardashian type lifestyle.

I find the need and obsession with attention to be a disease and a dangerous one at that.

Mony_Mony said...

It's from (or popularized by) a song by Marsha Ambrosius, Hope She Cheat On You. She says something like "I hope she Kim Kardashians her way up", referring to her ex's new woman.

maureen palmer said...

Speaking of reality, T.V I'm getting my hair braided last sunday and my hairdresser was watching BasketBall Wives and would u believe two of the castmates had a verbal fight over who has slept with more ballers. If I'm not wrong, of the girls is engaged to Chad Ochocinco. Who are these people greenlighting these shows.

I watched on episode of the Kardashian's, and that was to much for me for my soul; can't feed my spirit with that nonsense. Like my cubemate told me, this the great ol U.S.A u can't knock their hustle for $$$$.

Sad state of events, we definitely hit a SNAFU.

CaliGirlED said...

Agreed!!!

My daughter received SATURDAY detention for 4 tardies to her 1st class in the last 3 months. Had to tell her, "These folks ain't playin with you!" Had to reiterate by not letting her participate in the track meet today. (She could have shot me dead where I stood! LOL) She has to learn that punctuality matters...Oh wow, just had a light bulb moment! Like Tisha said earlier, "The Bible doesn't say "you screwed up on the little thing, so I'm going to reward you with something bigger."

Gotta love BougieLand!!!

Lady4Real said...

WDDDA? Let me stop acting like I don't know the answer to that question, They do that everywhere. I knew girls like this poor woman, I hear about women like this poor women and they always leave me sounding like Astro from the Jetsons "Ruroh?"
I have someone very close to me that has a job but doesn't make enough for her ends to meet but she always has her hair done, nails done, goes out to the club and all her bills are paid because she has a man for every bill. She has a gas & electric boyfriend, a cell phone bill boyfriend, a diapers boyfriend and a rent boyfriend, sometimes she'll trade them all in for one guy but if the one leaves she can recruit new bill paying boyfriends. I feel sorry for females like this, to me that they don't truly know their worth and it's sad.
I said in reply to a comment earlier that my Dad shaped my view of myself which boils down to I'm cute but cute only goes so far, I need a brain behind these pretty eyes, a caring and compassionate heart behind these nice breast and some courage to stand on my own two feet with these long legs. (I don't lack confidence but I damn sure ain't conceited.) At the end of the day beauty is vanity and it all fades away, you need something more and most of all you need yourself because you came in alone and you're gonna go out alone so stand on your own because really you are on your own in this world.

Digal704 said...

Imma pass on the "kardashian way". They are beautiful and have money but I still see ho, clueless to men and whiny chicks.

JohnKinPDX said...

Not a fan. Fine ain't everything.

ConvertingMe said...

I'm going to say this... There is a difference between grown and adult. One is maturity of the mind and the other is maturity of the body.

I had a "just breathe" conversation the other day with a relative. She too has gone through her share of men (major and minor league) and probably has a stable of "bill paying boyfriends" to cover what she can't with her "dropped-out-of-college-to-get-pregnant-by-a-baller-who got-hurt-first-game-of-the-season-and-could-never-play-again"' 's job but she covets what I have which may not be flashy but is solid.

Steve said...

There's a word for women like these and it's not "Kardashian"

rozb said...

I am on Team Grace! If more aunties, girlfriends, cousins, and sisters help mentor our young women, we wouldn't have to worry about a sea of Kardashian Clones".

J. Jackson said...

Wow, your "friend" is deeply troubled. If she's 30+ trying to idolize the Kardashian's, she has FAILED in life.

Anyway to get on Kris (their momma), she's their madam, pimping them out to the highest buyer.

Ol' girl has some deep rooted issues. It seems that she thinks the world "owes her" and all she has to do is look pretty and not do anything. I had a friend like that too, it was ol' girl who wanted to do three way action. It's funny to have time pass and see that people still don't have a clue and living their lives as if they're still teenagers.

Personally, I would prefer a 9-5 man, with benefits, who comes home everyday, and treats me like the QUEEN that I am, than some dude who has a large bank account but is spending it on you and his OTHER women.

I wouldn't say people Kim Kardashianing their way through life, but situations do present themselves where people change for the better or worse. Personally, I don't think "upgrading" is always the best option. Sometimes, the grass is NOT greener on the other side...

Mykeia said...

Good for you! I TRULY believe that alllllllll little girls need to have a team of women to help them out, good thing you're on her team. We need more aunts like you.
My best friend's daughter knows that if I see her out looking a hot mess I have the right/authority to make her go change and/or come out of her make up...

ConvertingMe said...

Did you say 5th Ward of Houston?

That's so hood! I got family in Houston's 5th Ward. They are willing to smack a sister sideways...

Mykeia said...

All on point.
Dead at the Baby Jane reference, just dead.

Lady4Real said...

What does it ryhme with? I'm thinking it ryhmes with 'smo' or 'fold rigger'. What say you ?

Asada said...

The only one CLOSE to doing it right was the tall one...Khloe. But she married a man who had three kids with one woman he knew before he became famous, but never married.

Diggame said...

Anyone who looks as the Kardashian's as a model really need to evaluate their though process...

But moving forward she seemed to be a person who wanted to marry a template of a person that marry the person for who they really are. The Kardashian's are doing their thing and hustling the idea of having no talent but at the end of the day will the money mean everything. Paper can only take happiness so far in this game of life. The great rapper Common said "What's good of a Range when it's time to head home"

Asada said...

It took me afew minutes to remember who she was. Like " oh yeah....."

Lady4Real said...

Instead of 'upgrading' shouldn't a couple 'come up' together? I admire the stories of couples who started out in a rinky dink apartment, a bus pass and tv dinner to share and now have a retirement plan, a nest egg, 401k, a home and adequate transportation. A happy home and faithful spouse/s.o. is better than the crap shoot of 'upgrading' to me. Very little people seem to believe in thick or thin, better or worse anymore.

J. Jackson said...

@Lady4Real, I agree with you. Unfortunately, some people want a ride that's "free", so they on the prowl for the baller types. #imgood

To me the stories of couples who came from nothing and made something really shows their perseverance and their faith in one another. It's so easy to walk away when the going gets tough.

J. Jackson said...

Along with the fact, she (Khloe) only knew Lamar all of 5 minutes before she married him. Hey, if they like it, I love it. LOL

Tonda Williams said...

TEAM GRACE......all day!

Jasmin said...

I'm guessing by "Kardashian'd it" she means "h*ing it up"? Poor soul.

Even Kim Kardashian doesn't want to be Kardashianing it anymore--she turned 30 this year and in an interview she seemed to lament the fact that she's not going to be the "hot, young thing" any longer. Does anyone else notice that whenever she's with a man she's talking about marriage and a family, while he just stands there with a look on his face that says "Yea, I'm hittin' that"? (See Bush, Reginald.) The "price" of that kind of fame is not being taken seriously, and I doubt she'll be too happy about it when she hits 35 and officially enters "celebrity old age".

Leo the Yardie Chick said...

Pretty much!

CaliGirlED said...

Lady if you had a daughter you would know what to do. Especially since you had such a powerful presence and role model in your dad. That stuff would just flow right on down. And if I'm not mistaken you're married, so that would just be double protection...But it is scary! I pray everyday for wisdom and guidance. And she's 13, so I also pray for her own wisdom and protection. I know I probably shouldn't use terms like, "your little raggedy friends", but when she's out of line I just have to remind her of where her bread is buttered. LOL

CaliGirlED said...

Team Grace!!!

CaliGirlED said...

Mykeia that's sooo true! My daughter and I were at a college basketball game to watch my friend's son. At the concession stand we saw this girl had on this very short fitted dress, ok let's call it what it was a long tight shirt. I told my daughter that if I ever catch her with something like that on I would ATTACK her! Well later, after the game, she was with my friend and they saw the same girl. My friend told her that if she ever saw her dressed like that she would hurt her. My daughter knows that I give rights and authority for "anti-ratched actions" on my behalf. LOL

CaliGirlED said...

All that glitters ain't gold?

OneChele said...

My niece got so tired of Aunt Chele double checking her outfits that she used to text me a pic in the morning and say "Is this okay?" I had to introduce her to the concept of "keeping some mystery" - if the legs are out, the chest is covered. If the chest is out, more conservative below the waist. Not everything has to be on display. For her 15th birthday we went to AVON store and got her a consultation on make up. It takes a village people. An entire village...

CaliGirlED said...

She can talk about marriage and family all she wants, most men are going to see her just as what Riley said earlier. True happiness awaits her when she steps out of the spotlight and lets some time pass by.

GrownAzzMan said...

That about sums it up....

GrownAzzMan said...

What's wrong with a huge butt? IJS...

Jason P said...

"Not Wifey"

C Nelson said...

Man. I swear before God, any man who ever has cause to say about me, "she has her uses" had better be talking about winning Jeopardy, kicking butt in Scrabble, or otherwise putting my brain on show. My best talents don't peel, dye, or jiggle. I feel sorry for any woman that can't say the same.

SingLikeSassy said...

I don't know that I could continue to be friendly with this chick, given her life view. Yes, I judge. *shrugs* You should send her a copy of "The Women of Brewster Place" and tell her to play close attention to Jackee Harry's character.

J B said...

I refer to this phenomenon as "trading up...like Chele, I have friends who aspire to this mode of thinking, although maybe not on the professional athlete tip. I actually have a friend who is acutely disappointed if her friends' men are not "pretty". I can't imagine always thinking "Okay, got this one, let's get one better".

I've witnessed this phenomenon first-hand at work. When male engineers are promoted to management, it seems like the support staff's dresses become shorter and tighter, and the heels get higher (not so smart on a hilly worksite). The support staff knows their salary increasesm, too. Combine that with n-year itches that seem to coincide with these promotions, and you've got a nerd soap opera in the making. It's not pretty.

The Kardashians were good for one thing for me: thanks to one episode, I have been an WNBA dancer for the last 4 years, and got to realize my dream of performing at a Lakers game.

Iced_Coffee_Sweet_Tea_Diva said...

I was trying to compose a sincere, heartfelt post but here's the long and short of that: when I knew Robert and Kris K years ago, the girls were little, he loved his wife and children, was a husband and father - not married to the business - and a class act gentleman. She loved being mommy, loved her husband, was a just a nice person who married one of the good guys. Don't know where it derailed (their marriage) but he was still down for his children. You know the comments about people spinning/rolling over or looking at so-and-so from the great beyond? That (imho) would be papa K, who would (imho) want all of his progeny to focus more on the business side and much less on the show side of the game. Le Sigh...

Stank_0 said...

Man, I used to be upset with my Dad for pushin me all the time. I wanted to say, "Ay, I'm doin well in school. Fall Back." I knew better than to say that outloud.

Now I'm so glad.

As a man, I can't exactly Kardashian my way to the top (although that is changing now) but even if the option was there. It's just not me. When I look back I regret not studying abroad, not volunteering, etc.

My parents were smart after all.

Untouched Jewel said...

Chele, I find nothing about this friend of yours amusing in any form or fashion in what she did with her life and the men in it. That's not Kardashianing it up, that is plain and utter R.H.B. (Ratchet Hoe Behavior).

Alvin Milton said...

I think women been doing this forever and the Kardashians just put a face to it and live it everyday on TV.

AndreaPlaid said...

Agreed, CaliGirlEd. Cute at 5, aiight at 15, no bueno at 25, fuggetaboudit at 35 and beyond.

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