So one of the things that I love about BB and Jayme (two of my galpals) is that they want the very best for me right now, this minute, every day, forever. One of the things that drives me crazy about them is that they want the very best for me right now, this minute, every day, forever. Sometimes they decide what the very best for me is and I have to reign them back in. They do it with love and from the perspective that they are both older, married, with children and well out of SingleWomanDramaLand where I sometimes dwell.
Jayme has three men she wants me to meet. One I'm apparently meeting for coffee on Saturday. BB has three men she wants me to meet, two of them have already called. For the record, I asked BB's permission before sharing this because BB know she wrong. [Not knows she is incorrect, but know she wrong. She admits it.] Here's why:
Bachelor #1 - Divorced brother with three grown children in some sort of hospital job. Nice guy, very nice. Courteous. Not the best conversationalist (cannot recall what you talked about at the beginning of the conversation less than ten minutes earlier). But pressed. Press-ed. Nineteen calls in three days pressed. OMG, let a sister breathe. Let me decide if I want to get to know you. Who calls at 7:30 in the morning and at midnight when they are NOT your man? That and the "tell me more about Michele - I want to learn what she's all about, tell me everything that makes you you." How am I supposed to answer that?! Unfortunately, that's his third line after "Hello" and "How are you doing?" Every. single. phone. call. Did I mention 19 calls? As I type, he's calling again. Twenty. Calls. Y'all have to tell me - am I being too critical? Because this seems a bit much.
Bachelor #2 - Government man, former officer in the army. Now working in private aviation. He called Tuesday and left a message. I was planning on getting back to him today. He called back today and opened with, "Why didn't you call me back? Are you one of those women who plays games?" Uh - hello? First flaming scarlet flag, he's 47 years old and never married. Dude said (AND I QUOTE), "I've never met a woman who made me forget all the others or made me want to be faithful." BougieLand... it took everything I had not to hang up the phone right then. He asked me what I was doing when he called the first time. I said yoga. He said, "Black people don't do yoga. But looking at your picture, you're redbone anyway so you can do what white people do and get away with it." **crickets**
Before I could make up a reason to get off the phone, he hit me with a series of terrible questions. "So why are you still single?" "You probably like those pretty boys, huh?' "Is your hair a weave?" "What was your last sexual experience?" "Do you believe in cooking and cleaning for your man?" "What are your thoughts on fidelity?" I didn't answer any of those. Then he proceeded to tell me I was too serious and needed to "loosen up" and that I probably didn't have time for a man anyway. Because that's the problem with "you professional women" - don't wanna make sacrifices for a man. AND THEN (no I'm not done) he told me that the last woman he dated (a 52-year old chick who had been married three times ) cheated on him. Me: I'm sorry that happened to you. Thanks so much for calling. *CLICK* I don't even need your opinion on this one. No. Thank. You.
So I told BB to get Mocha Dude Speaks (her hubby) to scout out Bachelor #3 for me. She's no longer allowed to give out my phone number without supervisory oversight. [side-eye] I was so irritated at one point today that I tweeted for intelligent male life. I needed one man to say to say one intelligent thing to me to cancel out the ignorance I was listening to.
Le Deep Sigh. What y'all think about Bachelors #1 and #2? They know nothing about the blog so feel free to speak your mind. What part of the game is 20 calls? People are still calling folks redbone in 2010? What are our thoughts on men that are unmarried after "a certain age"? While you guys go in on that, let me go chit and chat with BB for a minute...
146 comments:
Hahahaha. OMG. The 20 calls dude is MUCH better than the other nut who is going to end up in an old folks home grumbling at nurses. I know your friends mean well but my friends have accepted their brutal demise if they ever give my number out to a man...ever. They've never done it so I am thankful for that. I totally UNDERSTAND your need to hear something intelligent to cancel out the ignorance. That is so funny...I feel the same way. Good luck on the dating front. I put up a temporary white flag several years ago...I haven't lowered it since but maybe one day. For now I'm happy as is. lol.
I needed this laugh this morning! Sigh! 20 calls is way too much, what part of the game is that?
I think married men may be better match makers than married or single women. I met my SO through a male friend. I knew something was different because he was insistent that we meet and gave various reasons why he thought we would be compatible. Both of us trusted his judgment and instinct, and he was so right! I say you let their husbands screen the guys before you talk to them.
Bachelor #1 sounds like he's sitting on a couch with his feet tucked up under him sipping some herbal teas. Probably no room on the couch because of all the cats. Then probably giggles after you hang up and starts fantasizing about your life together. This guy does the "You hang up first" mess on the phone, and once he's in, he becomes like a bedbug infestation - once they're in, gotta throw away the whole damn bed and burn the pajamas just to be done with 'em. Nope - leave that one alone...
Bachelor #2 sounds full of himself and other foul substances. He has never found a woman who could make him want to be faithful, and yet he has the unmitigated gall to complain about being cheated on. For real? With all his snide comments about race, weave, and other craptastic stuff, he is most likely that guy that shows up to the club in extra-smedium muscle shirts (they still do that - ask Mr. Long) who sits at your table uninvited but won't leave, even if you ignore him. He sounds bitter and sad. And to call you redbone (WDDDA anymore?) He probably told BB "BB - I think me and Chele got that chemistry thing going on. She wants me. Oh yeah, she wants me."
Stories like this make me glad to sit on the sidelines. The score is 59-3. I don't want to go in. I hope the Monty Python "Summarize Proust" sketch helped.
O.M.G. BB was SO wrong for giving out your number without prior approval. I hope you have properly chastised her.
Bachelor #1 seems very needy with stalker tendancies. RUN!!
Bachelor #2 sounds like he can't find a woman to put up with his BS and is a little bitter about that.
All I can do is SMH...
Um, 20 calls in three days is ridiculous. Can you imagine how it would be if he were your man? Ugh! Can you say "suffocation"? No comment on #2 ... just yuck.
Lawd Imma get enough of visiting BougieLand in the morning. PASS.ON.BOTH. BB - we know your heart is in the right place, but sweetie Gamma is taking you off matchmaking duties effective immediately.
Your prospects sound like they’re cut f/ the same cloth as the one who told me about his suicide attempt (true story!) after he’d just asked me out on a date, and I’d accepted! Yes, that outing was as ridic as that conversation. That was a setup, too. I’ve no doubt Seinfeld was onto something: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kS_jdcV5QsM. As for being or not being married at whatever age, I don’t know that it signifies anything. I think whole people feel content within themselves and bring joy to others, coupled or not.
SMH, If it were me I'd tell my friends to chill on the "hook ups".
MY BFF tried to reacquaint me with a guy she said I had spoken with on the phone a few times like ten + years ago LOL at his request, dude is not physically appealing to me, texted me like 25 - 30 times in one day and wasn't talking about sh*t. Then he living with a woman, SMH...I told my BFF I'll pass.
See ... being a bougie bachelorette myself ... this is the shiggity I keep coming up against & am not pleased one bit ... dudes like those are cut off with a quickness ... I got someone to fill me up with the hot chocolate when I need it ... conversation and hang out buddies ... I'm good ...
Twenty calls in three days? No way, José!! Plus, I am concerned that he had that much time to call you!! As for bachelor #2, he just had "ain't right" written all over him! I see why your friend must now get supervision with giving out your number!! Are you being too critical or picky? Not even!! (Side note: not sure why my Yahoo Avatar is stuck in winter!! I'm not that wack! I promise!)
Just a couple of comments this morning. First of all, no woman can "make you want to be faithful" it is something that you have to want to do. If you're going to inject that into a conversation this says a lot about you. It says you are challenging a woman to "make you" be faithful (this is mean you want somebody to go behind your back and make sure that you're not calling somebody on the side) if you are a grown man who wants a woman checking up on him 24/7? Or and probably truer in this case, your faithful statement is broadcasting to the woman that you are planning on cheating. You are inviting the woman to be a part of your "harem."
My two cents.
1. "Who calls at 7:30 in the morning and at midnight when they are NOT your man?" <--a man trying to figure out if you have a man. Which means he has isshas. Of course that was evident from the 20 phone calls. Damn.
2. These kinda ninjas get on my damn nerves. He says he's single because he couldn't find the right woman. No, no, he is single because smart women don't fall for his stupid ass and he's *just* smart enough to not wanna be long-term bothered with the dumb ones who do. Let him keep his old man in the club status.
*eye twitch* seriously? dude 2 is just too full of fail for words! I can't....like my eyebrow is really jumping.
Bachelor 1, that is SUCH a turn off to come across as a needy stalker. I'm sorry, blowing up my phone 20 times in a short period of time will never be the business....I just can't with that foolishness, such a turn off.
Men who haven't been married that late in life get a side eye, and he proved exactly WHY he hadn't been married. There's generally something fishy in the background for a career bachelor and if you are at all marriage minded then I wouldn't even deal with them.
Vonnie
http://www.socialitedreams.com
whoooooooo Michelle!!!!!!! whooooooo!!! why're your friends doing you like this??? WHY?? where do they FIND these guys? sweetie, i think rely on your own (from your blog-tales, clearly formidable) power of attraction and hook your own man... these guys sound like desperate/arrogant/clueless (insert appropriate descriptive for each bachelor) lunatics.
i really have to put in motion my plan to follow you around for a day, just to watch the drama that inevitably ensues....
blessed weekend, ngwana - here's hoping that life (and the bachelor candidates) gets saner....
B1: This dude is on some extra stuff like extra crazy stalker stuff! Leave him alone. He's either been out of the dating game too long or just plain crazy. Either way find someone else.
B2: Well ex-military is automatic disqualification for me. I salute the troops just wouldn't date 'em. 47 and never married is automatic disqualification too. You should have hung up on his ass after that first doozy. BB you are fired from handing out OneChele's number! You're still cool though :o)
Let's hope B3 is a better candidate!
Blkprof,
Of course they are. The single and married women are meeting the "representatives," not the men themselves. I can count on one hand the number of my male friends I would set up with any of my female friends because I've seen and heard them not their "representatives." It's human, we all want to present ourselves in the best possible light. Unfortunately, Chele is seeing them with the "lights off" so to speak. At least they're keeping it real, right? RIGHT?
*Strapping on Kevlar*
Ladies, I think you should get a male friend to vet any potential match. The only way this will work is if the two can just parlay for a minute. If it's obvious the male friend is there to do the "check up" then he'll meet the "representative" as well.
I CAN'T STAND YOU!!! LMAO
"Bachelor #1 sounds like he's sitting on a couch with his feet tucked up under him sipping some herbal teas...This guy does the "You hang up first" mess on the phone,..." "he is most likely that guy that shows up to the club in extra-smedium muscle shirts (they still do that - ask Mr. Long) who sits at your table uninvited but won't leave, even if you ignore him."
Why did I think I could sip on my coffee while reading your comment? SMDH!!!
*eye twitch* I'd be convening an emergency Sisterhood Meeting immediately after those two sets of conversations, especially after Bachelor #2. I'm just saying.
I'm stuck at "7:30 in the morning"!!!
Minus the divorce and the 3 children, #1 reminds me of my last boyfriend and if you remember any of the comments I made last winter and spring, you'll understand why I say... Noooooooooooo. I would have hung up on #2 long before you did. I guess somebody missed the memo about your new drama free plan.
Guys always know who the "good guys" are, like girls always know who they would or would not set up with their baby brothers.
*shuffling into BougieLand with dark sunglasses on and big silk scarf tied round my head*
What had happened was...
never mind.
The men took over anyway. Told Jayme and I to "let the testosterone handle this" - I'm just going to sit in the corner and get my pray on.
LOL! Points for trying?
Good Lawd - 20 calls and he hasn't even "met" you yet?! He can't even get a whiff of the hot chocolate, he'd never let you out of his sight.
As for old boy with the color-struckness (that's word right?) - hell naw. Just had a guy say the other day "You are pretty for a dark chocolate girl" - no sir. Cut.
Short version?
#1 - Stalkeriffic
#2 - Dog - old dog at that
Next!
Uh-oh, temporary white flag for several years? *considers* It's a thought.
No Kevlar needed, sir. These two are a definitive "when keeping it real goes wrong"
Perhaps some gents should take a class on how to walk that line b/n showing your representative face and keeping it so real no one ever wants to see your face again?
Already done. The hubs took over this morning.
Points for Monty Python.
59 - 3?
You're not even coming out of the locker room, huh?
Ummm...I have been reading your blog for a while now and I have never posted a comment BUT today and I am coming out of lurkdom.
I was dying at: BB know she wrong. [Not knows she is incorrect, but know she wrong.]
The questions and comments from #2, wow. On to the next. I HATE WHEN PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT BLACK PEOPLE DON'T DO YOGA OR ANY OTHER FILL IN THE BLANK ACTIVITY. People are all the same and like to try new things, really it's 2010.
Good luck to you, I started reading your blog after your post that was featured on Essence, so girl take your time...
I love your comments and the people who post here...this blog is a part of my morning routine now.
Be and stay blessed.
Co-sign, co-sign, co-sign!!!
I was at the gym last week about to swim when this guy I'd been checking out said, "Are you getting in the pool? Sisters don't swim!"
I dove in and looked at him, "Clearly we do"
Him, what about your hair?
Me - I have a blow dryer and a flatiron, it'll be okay.
Hate that! Stupid stereotypes trying to keep people in a box.
Okay, rant over.
Hey yall there go BB!!! *snickering*
Ok girl, you blew it but Chele still has love for you. Just sit back with the rest of us and wait for the Newest New Dude blog. LOL
@BB: It's not like they showed you their tendencies. But this was some humorous activity, I must say. Made my morning...
Who still says stupid shiggity like that?!!
People gotta learn - thirsty ain't sexy.
Oh my. I sense a guest post in your future :-)
Two cents well-spent...
LOL - most of my days are low key (thankfully!)
*side-eye* to BB who did NOT share that she smacked her man upside the head after that "testosterone" comment. I simply sent Mr. C the "don't get put in the guest room tonight" look.
Just so you know Chele, the hubs have gone Chele-tastic on the search. Ninjas got a spreadsheet and a point system. I don't know WHAT you're gonna end up with.
Oh - best part: They've codenamed the project.
Wait for it...
Godiva Gumbo.
I didn't ask why.
Let me get over here in the corner with BB to get the pray on. May have to kick off a spiritual or two. Rock of Ages? Swing Low, Sweet Chariot?
Already done!
Truth!
I do remember those comments! *looks for running shoes*
As we are known to say: Y'ALL ARE DOING THE MOST
Just put Jesus take the Wheel on repeat.
I still love you. But once I found out your husband picks out your clothes, does the grocery shopping and plans the family vacas... I should've gone straight to him anyway.
But then again, you picked out a good, good husband for yourself (twenty years ago).
HA! Nuttin' but love for ya.
*giggling with hand clamped over mouth*
Hate you both. *packs up Bible and exits BougieLand*
We are calling it Godiva Gumbo because the Contessa (yes, this is what we call Chele) likes chocolate (hot or otherwise) but it's got have the right spicy blend. You can't fake a good gumbo. You ladies go on about your bidness. We got this.
Too full of fail for words....lmao! Vonnie you hit the nail on the head. Dude #2 is a hot.damn.mess. I just can't. And I really really don't do needy dudes, so bachelor #1 would've been told to lose my number and forget my name immediately. I'm gonna be SMH for the rest of the day.
What did you SAY in call number one that prompted nineteen more?!
Either you're just that seriously addictive or dude is cray-zee.
B2 needs an old school Come To Jesus reality check.
AW BB! Don't leave! We still love you ;-)
It is good to have a great circle of friends. Chele seems to be in good hands.
Either you're just that seriously addictive or dude is cray-zee.
How am I to respond to that one? LOL! I'll take cray-zee for $2000, Alex.
Team Dudes!
I am amazed at how many times I read things on your blog and say: WHAT PART OF THE GAME IS THIS?!
do not give either of these men positive reinforcement by giving them any attention. ugh. don't do it.
Laughing so hard (at these two "men") that I don't need to do crunches today. Wooh... TOO much!
First of all, "BB know she wrong. [Not knows she is incorrect, but know she wrong. She admits it.]" CTFU!
Second. I can't with either of these two. Way too many calls, inappropriate times, off-the-wall questions. WDDDA? Just no. I am about to go on a personal crusade to find Chele a normal man to restore the credibility of our gender.
7:30 is reserved for those bringing the hot chocolate on the regular. If you call at those hours when we don't know each other expect to meet my friend dial tona and her cousin blocka...
Its like you almost wanna take the time to explain the error of their ways, or the more popular 'tell dem bout theyselves', but dont have the energy or that kinda time. Its a wonder with these kind of prospects we find ourselves ever in a relationship.
Imma need y'all to take on additional clients
Chile TX needs to get it together.
!st dude needs relax for a moment. 19 calls? Uh no, thats ridiculous! Wheres the last time HE been on a date. Ol boy too pressed...whatever.
2nd dude....Ill just say this. If I THOUGHT you were THINKING about MAYBE saying anything less than BYE to that dude, I would have socially dropped you by blog and Twitter so fast. Then a Come to Jesus meeting would be required for you and your friends.
Thankfully you didnt do that. 2nd dude needs Jesus and a good shrink.
LOL! Amen.
Girl - please put it on a T-shirt.
Its like you almost wanna take the time to explain the error of their ways, or the more popular 'tell dem bout theyselves', but dont have the energy or that kinda time. Its a wonder with these kind of prospects we find ourselves ever in a relationship.
In Dude #2's defense he's closer to the grave therefore must get all the 'get-to-know-you" questions out at jump, hence the uber personal questions that not only require a book answer but the obvious rapport of 'I care to even have this convo with you' status. He doesnt have much time left. ;)
I have showered, changed clothes, and watching the game on the big screen in the locker room.
In the corner snging spirituals, indeed! How 'bout some "Lord Help Me To Hold Out" and "Touch Me Lord Jesus" in HEAVY rotation. Oh yeah... and regarding Bachelors #1 and #2...
"WHO IN THE HELL LEFT THE GATE OPEN?"
It's OK BB BougieLand still loves you!
Dude #1 is pressed...end.of.story. He is officially a DNA (Do Not Answer)
Where do I even begin with Dude #2?!
After 35, if you have never been married or at least engaged...You will officially be in the NO FLY ZONE in my book!
Black ppl don't do yoga...WTH do black people do exactly? There are many facets to the black experience. UGH!
"I've never met a woman who made me forget all the others or made me want to be faithful."
Philandering, commitment phobe...Please grow up brother...
Dude #2 is officially on the NO DATE LIST forever!
I believe that you treat people based on how you feel about yourself and some of these brothers have a twisted sense of what it means to be a man.
Dang why you gotta put all her business out there like that? LMAO forever!
I think I'd start the BougieLand weekend a bit early after that myself...
"WHO IN THE HELL LEFT THE GATE OPEN?"
*faints* LOL! I haven't heard that is some years! lmbo!
NO FLY ZONE...*dead*
where do I begin.
and this is EXACTLY why I hate the hookup...is TV one taping a Black version of Punk'd? I think your friends are behind it, the only problem is that this episode will never air because you didn't go out with these guys.
When does Kel from Good Burger or Nick Cannon jump out and say got'cha? That's all I want to see.
LOL! but unless the dude was on his deathbed this is just a violation of so many man-laws.
oh yeah, we have a term for gents such as Mr. Uber-Pressed: Thirsty
one of the first questions I get is "are you mixed?"
I just assign the "bird chirp" ringtone. That lets me know someone I don't want to speak to is calling, no need to even look at the phone.
Had a "don't me yet" call at 9am on a Saturday morning. I texted him back 2 hours later and said, "I was sleep when you called."
*raises her hand*
*dead*
But I'm loving that stroll down memory lane with James Cleveland!
Old stupid dog!
LMAO!!!
Please, he's DEHYDRATED!!! LOL
And they are EVERY where! Somebody give these brothers a taste. (Not you Chele.)
You said everything I was going to say... but better!
Might as well go Double Jeopardy all in on that one.
I HATE THAT! What if I am? (I'm not) But what if I was?!
LOL @ calling Chele the Contessa - I love it! Countess Bougie!
I'm all tardy for the party and ish... but girl no! To both. Hell no to Number 2.
lawd! i need to start a BnB t-shirt fund???
JaymeC,
We are going to need u to open a site for single ladies on blacknbougie. Just saying.
Brothers like this KILLING the game right now. Because by the time a worthy gentleman steps to you, you have the side-eye and balled-up fist at the ready. Dammit man!
I cosign your statement.
I'm not supposed to say anything but Michele's already tart with me so let me just say this... EVERYBODY in BougieLand needs to save Feb 10 - 12 and start looking for flights to Dallas. BougieLand Meet 'n Greet, Chele's Book Launch and a few other surprises. It's going to be epic!
No Fly Zone? Gamma's gotta get out more -- I'm stealing that :)
Bachelor #1 is pressed like a shirt from the drycleaners. sheesh.
Bachelor#2 WDDDA
Can you handle a slightly older client? Just askin :)
Welcome out of lurker land
I asked her permission first ;-) She knows she's spoiled with the hubby she has.
She sho nuff is! He shops and plans and (from a previous comment of hers) cooks and cleans too? Requesting the DNA clone...
Oooh... me want details! *marks calendar*
Extra starch.
Exactly. You almost want to tell them and then... never mind.
Bless you for bringing the Bible into BougieLand - LMAO!
Ooooohhhh Lawd! Dude #1 - those lines should have been buried with mood rings and jheri curls (please don't make me find that 'Coming To America' clip)!! Dude #2 - Oh, so he hasn't met anyone that makes him want to be faithful? This response/attitude is the poster child for STD testing, but avoid all that noise by avoiding him!!
LOL @ Chele-tastic! And the gumbo?!
I bet it's the Bougie Hook Up party we asked for!
Me too!
American Kennel Club reject...
*waving next in line*
I need dude like these lames to GO. SIT. DOWN.
Effing it up for ev'body.
This right here ^
then again, if you are somehow seriously addictive that explains so much of your TapBack drama...
Just sayin'
*looks around*
I'll let myself out now.
WORD?
Remove all cups, glasses, plates and bowls from the vicinity when reading @rozb's posts, lol!!
We're gonna need the Godiva Gumbo recipe, sir.
Tabernacle.
Preaching today! *drops a little something in the collection plate*
I would buy this one in a heartbeat. Chele - c'mon now - hook it up.
*lacing up orthopedic running shoes* Baby Girl, do you not know that 50 is the new 30? Those brothers aren't sorry because of their age; they are just sorry - period, end of story. *Flips gray-streaked hair back and strolls away*
Hilarious but accurate description. Well done, sir. Good luck with the search!
Mixed? Are we still saying things like that? Na girl, imma pure bred. SMDH!
Really now???
Thank you. You had other posts that were so tempting to leave a comment about, especially: appetizer line: You're worth it.--also the Usher themed wedding, that one I forwarded to many people. I'm all in now for commenting.
*dead*
Lips dry as hell...
I'm trying to understand here... 20 phone calls. WHY? We have talked about this several times herein BougieLand. One call to check in, a second call to make sure they got the first call. That's it. 2 calls.
Second guy? I almost want you to meet him so you can slap him on behalf of every woman who has had to put up with his shiggity. ALMOST.
Good luck out there girl.
What did Ninja #2 mean "you professional women" - like that's a bad thing? Does. Not. Compute.
Alright now! Given that the current callers are just foolish it can only go up from here...I hope. Being that I'm from Louisiana, I like where your head is at with the gumbo.
Hey, why is there an automatic DQ for military? An officer sounds like a good start on paper to me.
Onto da next definitely!
Camels don't want to be near them - might try to siphon water from the humps...
Um you sure BB is your friend and cares abbey you? LMAO!!!
After the age of 17 no one should be blowing up someone's phone that much in a 3 day period. He needs some friends or a hobby.
say THIS bro! Man I have met a couple of (what I thought were) relationship-worthy women and the work I had to do convincing them I was a good dude was not worth it.
#2 dude is described as the same man I met last month during a Bay Area (CA) fraternity cruise. He was calling me 6x daily with absolutely nothing to talk about. I had to ask ol' dude to call me once per week. I don't believe he heard me..the calls continue daily. Le Sigh!!!
YES!! A man at his age who's never been married = SUSPECT! I was on the third date with a man, 50 years old, never been married, no kids (thank God) and he told me "I don't want to scare you (reaching for my butter knife), this being so early in our relationship (I'm thinking "relation who?" sir, this just our third date, thirsty much?") but I think you're THE ONE. I had told him from the gate that I was about to move to another country, that I wasn't looking for anything serious but thought that he was interesting and I would like to get to know him. Don't you know brother wanted to set up a "schedule" for our Skype dates, etc. SCHEDULE? PRESSED, such a turn off. Well, I moved to another country and am loving being free from all the potential drama out there with crazy men. Told my mother about the date when I visited her the next day, she damn near choked with laughter and then said "that's my baby! They can't help it!" LOL. Chele, just chill with your bad self and stop getting fixed up" Your man is on his way. It's hard for him to find you because you're wasting time with these tumbleweeds. They are too thirsty and you might need to cover your Niagara Falls for your own safety and sanity.
On paper it does look pretty good; however, in my experience current and ex-military men tend to have control issues which is another automatic DQ for me, lol.
Well I think we can all well agree that both #1 and #2 are sooooo WACK! What happened to getting to know someone by taking the time to do so (translation: why ask a million questions when it is so much more fun learning about a person by taking the journey). Anyway, that's my little two cents. Have a wonderful evening BougieLand!
If is has been up for several years, how is that considered temporary? Jus Axin...
Umm, yeah. I'm using my off day to catch up on my bouge, so excuse the late posts.
Dude #1: No, you are not being too critical. Dude is on the "Team Desperation" watchlist.
Dude #2: Someone already said it, but ex-military is an automatic disqualifier. Dude has issues on top of his issues, and is destined to be alone.
RE: his being 47 and never married: uh, ladies, let's be careful here. Especially with the number of news shows/panels/blogs/articles/books, etc about "why black women can't get a man" out there, and the number of never married black women out there beyond the age of 40, don't trip. I'm not sticking up for Dude #2--he's a whackjob. I'm just sayin', the same critical eye you are passing on to these men may be side-eyeing you call calling you "Pot".
The only reason I employ a double standard on the single male over 45 is because of the supposed wealth of wonderful females out there looking for a man. Supposedly he is a rare and valued commodity that women are stepping over each other to get to. (hmpfh) If the number really is 12 to 1, he couldn't find a "1" by now? Just a thought.
Of course, I know several excellent single ladies over the age of 45 that I wouldn't let anywhere near this idiot ;-)
No, and hell no.
You sound progressive, (redbone comment rubbed you wrong), why not open up your options to dating 'others' than "black educated men"???
If you are young, hip (as in progressive), and attractive, WHY NOT?
Oh I've dated the entire rainbow of color, economics and education. I paint with all the colors ;-)
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