Friday, August 13, 2010

This letter is a thing that makes me go "Huh?"


As many of you know Carolyn Edgar, Yvonne Bynoe and I have been conducting a Summer Series on Blog Talk Radio. We had a show this past Wednesday. For the most part, the show was well received. We had about 15 people in the chat room, 114 people listening live and since the show aired we've had over 450 listens and downloads. The link to listen is on the left sidebar. Anyway, as I'm scanning my email Thursday night, I ran across this little bit of goodness:
OneChele, Carolyn & Yvonne, 
I listened to your radio show Wednesday night and I was really disappointed that you are encouraging people to leave their wives and husbands. AND you seemed to be laughing about it.

If the three of you want to push your lonely lesbo agenda, I don’t think you should market it as empowering women to be their best selves. Carolyn was a little too happy to tell stories about emasculating her ex-husband, Yvonne seemed angry and I guess Michele is way too stuck-up and old-fashioned for this century.

Good luck,
Woman Not Impressed in Sedona
Can someone explain to me what a lonely lesbo agenda is? I forwarded the email to Carolyn and Yvonne. We cracked up. If y'all could only hear the conversations we have before the show goes live... Anyway, Carolyn has decided to abandon the law and start an all-girl rock band called The Lonely Lesbo Agenda. Okay, she was joking but wouldn't that be a cool name? All jokes aside, let me respond to Sedona Sister...

Hey there,
Carolyn, Yvonne and I carefully reviewed your finely-worded letter and try as we might, we cannot find a polite way to tell you to kick rocks. Did you even listen to the show? We responded to seven or eight questions that had been sent in. One was from a woman whose man stole from her, another was from a guy who moved cross-country to live with a woman he didn't know, another woman expected advice on how to be a Sugar Mama. So yes, to those folks we told them to break for the border and not look back.
Might I respectfully request that you read any (or all) of our blogs or tweets or in fact just listen the whole show before deciding who and what we are. Yvonne is rarely angry (though she was irritated by the Sugar Mama question). Carolyn saying her ex-husband was not on her mortgage was not emasculating - it was practical. She lives in New York City. Do you personally know her ex? And as for me... stuck-up? Not hardly. Bougie and selective, yes. Old-fashioned? Well, if by that you mean adhering to some traditional gender roles? Okay, you got me. I own pearls. Mea culpa. 
But hey, glad you enjoyed the life lessons... too bad they didn't sink in. We had an entire section after the music break about how we were speaking from our personal experiences and coming from a place of love. At any rate, we thank you for the listen and especially thank you for the letter. It was one of the most entertaining things I read all week. And I've had quite the week. 
Deuces, 
Michele (on behalf of Carolyn and Yvonne as well)

BougieLand, have you ever had someone assume things about you that were just so way off-base you had no idea how to respond to it? Why do people feel the need to vent this way? Those who listened to the show have any thoughts to share? Who else is looking forward to wrapping up this week? 

48 comments:

beingruth said...

I used to write about money and you won't believe some of the liberties people take and assumptions they make. They'll assume you think you're better than them/other people, they'll take the opportunity to smash you down if you admit you messed up, and they'll come out and judge every little thing. And lord help you if you talk about early retirement and whether or not it's a good idea, cuz those people will be all over you like ants on a watermelon.

I was luckier than some of the other bloggers I knew, a few of whom were essentially forced to shut down because of the number of mean-spirited people who took a dislike to them, jumped to all kinds of conclusions, and started harassing them on a much larger scale (me, I just dealt with periodic letters & comments).

Sasha Stiletto said...

Wow! "Hater in the house"
What in the world?
I listened to the whole show, you all never said anything like that!
If anything you encouraged people to find the right person first and not settle so they had a soht at staying with their S.O. for a long time.
She sounds bitter. Onto the next.
You Divas rocked it.

Rob said...

we cannot find a polite way to tell you to kick rocks
I love the Bougie Cuss out. It's so classy, you wonder if you've just been cussed or not. LOL
Sedona Sister can walk on by with that.

OnlyMe said...

I'm confused. Even if you are lonely lesbians, how does that detract from the message you were getting across?

Myas-mom said...

Wow Chele I don't even know how to respond to that! I don't recall either of you telling anyone to leave their husband or wife. (Ok maybe that was said when my goddaughter tried to talk to me and I shushed her - five seconds, but I guess you could have slid it in real quick). Anyway, I have been subject to people jumping to assumptions about me, and sometimes based on an undercover hater who I had been friends with for a long time. (So "naturally" she knew what she was talking about and therefore was speaking the "truth"!) My approach has always been to give the "side-eye" and ignore. When someone pushes their opinion as fact, there's no point in arguing about it. Ms. Sedona gave her opinion about the show, and like a@@holes, everybody has one. Fact is you guys did not say that, case closed.

Troy said...

"Stuck up and Old Fashioned" is code for "Classy not Ashy"?
She hatin'
Boo. Oh sorry. Le Boo.

BendLikeBent said...

I once had a young lady who met me for two minutes and proceeded to tell everyone in the office I was pretentious. My words to her were "Hello" and "Can you pass me a napkin?" I was new and people believed her until they got to know me.
What can you do.

BlackestBerry said...

The picture got me. Too funny.
The letter screams desperate cry for attention.
I bet she sent in a question and didn't like her answer.
When Carolyn forms the band, can I sing back up?

OneChele said...

Exactly. Carolyn, Yvonne and I were saying if we were - who gives a damn?

thinklikeRiley said...

Wait tho - Are ya'll lonely les? Cuz that might me listen in. Girl on Girl on Girl? LOL!

Myas-mom said...

Pretentious: extravagantly showy (Yes I have no problem going to the dictionary when someone misuses a word that I thought I understood.) So I guess because you used your manners and asked politely, you were being "extravagantly showy". Because this is more what she was used to:

"Sup. Yo pass one of doz napkins ova here!"

I'm just sayin.

OneChele said...

Oh Riley. It's too early - out with you.

thinklikeRiley said...

But I.. *picks up swap meet LV duffle and heads for door*
I'll be back! you gon' miss me when I'm gone.

Myas-mom said...

No BlackestBerry, she sent in a question and they didn't answer it. Biyatches!!! LMAO...Like Troy said, she's hatin. LeBoo!

Myas-mom said...

SMDH @ Riley! LOL

daisy said...

*waving* Team Lonely Lesbo here, working on the lonely part. I wasn't aware we had an agenda? Did someone call a meeting and I missed it?
BTW, if she's in Sedona - it's kinda of a LGBT retreat, is she not looking around or in denial?

Deb B said...

In my opinion, it's when you are speaking a little too much truth that the haters come out of the woodwork.

Javalicious said...

LMAO. What did Yvonne and Carolyn say?

Sweet N Tart said...

Bless your heart, you cannot seem to help yourself.

Cassie said...

Shaking head in confusion - Whaaa?

JustPassingBy said...

Haters gotta hate. That's what they do. She can find 5 more and create a club.

FreeBlackMan said...

I can sense bitter bitches a mile away, you aren't one of them

rozb said...

That person sounds like some angry bitter dude sipping on some white zinfandel and crying. I think you guys did just fine, and the tone of the program was entertaining and informative. I hope he/she gets some help...

OneChele said...

You realize that the way you phrased that is not so complimentary.
Think on it.
Ya'll wearing me out this week.

GammasWorld said...

Bless Sedona's heart (Old School southern Gamma voice)

JaymeC said...

It has been quite the week on BnB! What's next week?

SingLikeSassy said...

Darwinism.

Aisha said...

aww poor chicke she listened for five minutes then left and decided to let you know. Oh well, no love lost there. Anyhoo, about those pearls are they white and have twenty beads? or am i just reaching?

OneChele said...

LOL - Mine are Tahitian Black

BougieMom is Golden in the 20 pearl club. I may pledge grad one day, I could not pledge with the girlies on my campus at the time. But Dad was Black 'n Gold Lifetime so I knew whatever I pledged had to start with an A. ;-)

Man's World said...

I was just thinking that. I guess you don't have to immediately go to the "Eff Yo Couch" routine? LOL

Man's World said...

Dude - you stay gettin' the purple pump in the ass...

Leon X said...

I'm amazed that there are people on the internet whose sole purpose is to be derogatory at every possible turn. Do these people wake up and receive Google Alerts to find who to hate on?

Karen Caffee said...

*watching the smoke curl upward from the B n B keyboard* You did just fine handling that ignorant ish. Let her get her own radio show and her own blog and *Pee Wee Herman laugh* some friends to listen to and talk with her 'cause it sounds like she's lonely out there in the desert. Maybe she should try to work on her vision and her dream instead of hating others for getting theirs.

Yvonne said...

To the Sugar Mama, I said that adults folks need to be self sufficient and it was ridiculous to support a grown ass man....AND then expect down the road he's going to hold you down. I also told women stop drinking the "there's a man shortage so I got to act the fool" Kool-Aid and stop moving in with men they don't know.

datdudeincali said...

I bought my ex Tahitian Black Pearls. I see you. I see you.

datdudeincali said...

Well let's face it, you can blog or tweet or do radio all day giving away cash and candy and someone will have something negative to say. That's just the way it is now.

Kiki said...

LOL - go girl

Kiki said...

That picture is everything!

Myas-mom said...

Yep, in a nut shell, that's what she said. Nothing bout leavin yo man!

YardieChicie said...

Am I the only one hoping that she sends a huffy response? I'm sitting here waiting for it with my imaginary pop corn. XD

It's not as entertaining as The Adventures of S.E.W. and R.A.F (Ratchet A$$ 'Friend'), but it'll do.

GrownAzzMan said...

OK, I know I am late (some of us have to work sometimes). My initial reaction is WTH? Who knew you were all lesbians? If you are I know you are not lonely...LOL BTW are there any tapes? On a momentarily serious note, "you can't please all the people all of the time, you can't please some of the people some of the time, and you can't please an idiot ever" I made up part of that...

Melzie said...

Good one!

Pellinore said...

At least she provided fodder for a good all-girl rock band name. I'd sign up for Lonely Lesbo Agenda. :)

Foxy Brown said...

okay, so i know i'm super late but....
i have been waiting patiently for bougie lgbt to get some time in the purple spotlight and i'll be damned if it didn't come from some ratchet letter. dear sedona sister, ummm the word lesbian need not be thrown around like it's an insult. nor is it a label to be haphazardly strewn about when a single woman (or women) say something in regards to relationships that stand contrary to your opinions and beliefs.
'tis better to be a lonely lesbian and be true to thyself than to be a bitter ass chick who can't stand to see women enjoying themselves.

OneChele said...

Carolyn's response is here: http://carolynedgar.wordpress.com/2010/08/13/los-lonely-lesbos/

The_A said...

You could have stopped the response at kick rocks.

The_A said...

'tis better to be a lonely lesbian and be true to thyself than to be a bitter ass chick who can't stand to see women enjoying themselves.

ROTFLMAO! Well now, if that isn't a word for the ages!

OneChele said...

Get her, Foxy!

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