Let me kick off this post by calling BULLSHIGGITY on this whole affair. Marriage is a sacred damn institution. Folks are supposed to enter into it all reverent and whatnot. I've been proposed to three times in my life and with the exception of the dude who flipped the ring across the table and said, "Let's do this already," they have been memorably and suitably romantic. No I didn't marry them but that's a whole different post. Stay on topic, people.
My point is, here is something else we can blame on Social Media:
Last night in Twitlandia, Que (a singer with Day 26 of Making the Band Season 67) proposed to Dawn Richards (a singer formerly with Danity Kane of Making the Band Season 65 and currently gyrating in a Lycra onesie behind old ass PuffyMoneyDaddy in Diddy Dirty Money). His proposal went a little something like this:
@dawnrichard i want tha hole world 2 kno ur mine forever....Will u Marry Me..........I love You
Okay, now these two have been together for 3 or 4 years now so I'm not saying she shouldn't accept if that's what is in her heart. I'm saying that's a lame-ass, lazy-ass proposal. Let me count the ways this does not work for me…
1. I need my husband to know the difference between "hole" and "whole"
2. I need my husband to embrace the wonders of spell check
3. My future husband must be grammatically savvy
4. Where's the ring?
5. Is this the cheapskate equivalent of a Jumbotron?
6. Really though? Proposing in 140 characters or less?
7. Where's the ring?
8. Please say you talked to the future spouse before proposing in front of 3.7 million people on Twitter
9. Did you at least get down on one knee with the keyboard in your hand?
10. I'm mad you have added to the number of things people used to do in person that they now do on Twitter. Le Boo. Social Media 10, Interpersonal Relationships 0.
Just to see what would happen, I attempted to propose to Idris Elba on Twitter. So what I don't know him and he doesn't know me, it's Twitter… where magical things happen every day. I'm waiting to hear back. At last report, so was Que.
What say you? Twitter proposal bueno or no bueno? And now seems like a fine time to break out your good proposal/bad proposal stories. Do share…
37 comments:
1- You've been proposed to 3 times?!?! What the heck are you doing in Dallas?! Do I need to move?!
2- I refuse to believe that he seriously proposed on Twitter...REFUSE! If it's true then I'm dumbfounded, flummoxed, perplexed and flabbergasted. Marriage is the second most important decision in life other than becoming a parent. The decision to enter into it deserves great respect. When I'm finally proposed to it doesn't have to be a romantic/dramatic affair and I don't need a giant sparkler. However, he does need to be serious and I will need to see the love in his eyes.
The HELL? That is all.
hmm...i don't think i'm bougie enough to ride w/ you on this one, ma'am. Love is love, it doesn't have to be perfection to all; but perfection for these 2 (if he's sincerre).
Absolute nonsense!! The first thing that popped into my mind hearing this, were the lazy ass lyrics from that Jagged Edge song, Let's Get Married - "We ain't gettin no younger girl, we might as well do it".
Not for me, because, like you, I think it seems a little flip and I view marriage as a serious undertaking. But if it works for them...
Oh HALE NO.
I've already had this conversation with my best girl: it's an automatic 'no' if I get proposed to publicly. Family and friends... sure! On blast like that? Never.
I would hope that if they've been dating that long that he knows her well enough to be able to determine whether a public proposal-- a Twitter proposal no less-- is something with which she'd be down. I'm just not seeing a lot of ladies who would be down with that, though. :/
There are things in this world that deserve reverence and honor and marriage is one of them. The way you start is the way it will be! I went to a wedding about 10 years ago and the couple were saying the vows jokingly! It's no wonder that today the marriage is a hot mess for all parties involved!
This right here is the difference between asking for a wife and a wifey. Damn Que. I make jokes about a lot of ish but marriage is some grownupness. Get down on one knee and do it right.
For the record, Que always struck me as a little punky.
So no one every told them "start out as they mean to continue"?
This is the equivalent of breaking up with someone on Facebook.
Lazy and no bueno.
Okay...is it just me or has Riley been a bit different here lately? And I mean that in a positive way. :-) But I fear though that it will only be short lived. LoL!
This reminds me of one of my favorite movies, "Moonstruck". If there is no ring and at least some attempt at bending one's knee ~ then it's not a real proposal. The bad spelling would have put me off as well.
I think he's setting us up for something epically terrible - LOL!
1. That was tacky. It seems like something my 15-year-old sister's little boyfriend would say to her on Facebook. Oddly, his name is Q (I don't want to tell you what it stands for) too. Hmm...
2. I thought they were engaged way back when Making the Band was on? Maybe they were just "play-married"--that's what this sure sounds like.
There has to be something wrong with an individual to propose in that manner. Obviously he don't know her or understand her very well. I agree with everyone else that said this was immature and childish. He doesn't understand the serious ramifications of marriage. Like I have said on multiple occasions proposing on social networks and in public will get you an automatic no.
Did Diddy tell her to say yes or no?
Hot mess. I'm sorry... Hot Ghetto Mess.
I don't like it. It's something you remember forever.
"So how did he propose?"
"Twitter After Dark"
**crickets**
I wanted to chalk it up to a momentary lapse but when I looked at his tweets, he was serious.
That's unfortunate. Social Media should augment your communication, not replace the face to face.
Ummm... Are we really surprised, the "man" has a pair of lips tattooed on his neck!!!!! WTH!!!!!
Perhaps this is the modern day version of writing 'Will you marry me, ...." on a banner flown behind an airplane or written in the sky by a stunt airplane or pasting the message on a billboard or taking a full page ad out in the local paper. I remember seeing the last one a couple of decades ago. I thought it was rather sweet at the time. Some people like to live life out loud.
So does New Dude know you are proposing Idris on Twitter? :-)
And not to be in your business, but you sound rather peevish today. Getting enough sleep? In need of a quiet wine and book break?
"Marriage Proposals - there's an app for that" LOL
That's raggedy.
This! "augment...not replace..."
I believe in rewarding positive behavior, so...
THIS!! Riley is on the money with this one. Amen.
I'm going to go with # 8 & hope he told Mrs to be before telling the entire T-world whoa! I'm with you Chele, I will take a page from his book and propose to Idris and Maxwell:-)
Ya'll some uptight asses. Who cares how it gets down as long as it does. I would say yes.
You say uptight, I say "standards". I'd like to know that my relationship is valued beyond 140 characters. Unless our whole (I'm sorry, do I mean "hole") thing is about Twitter than this is just classless. I'm not so desperate for a proposal that I want it done any old kind of way. But maybe that's just me.
No, don't blame this on social media. Twitter didn't force this dude to propose. 'Sides, who cares? No-one got hurt in the process.
kwaaaa - you proposed to Idris Elba - too, too hilarious! i am waiting with bated breath... in fact, lemme follow you on twitter right now, so i can be all up in the developments...
as for your list of what you need from a hubby - i completely feel you on the spelling/spellcheck issues - the rest is so completely obvious, i have to wonder if the man was drunk or high.... i'd also ignore him. meet him for lunch the next morning, and pretend i never saw that nonsense. Nx! fool!
What she said!
Man, folks have gotten lazy about all forms of communication these days.
Folks meaning men? Just saying...
Yup...something Charles Barkley tUrrible.
HATE that song...and so many loved it thinking it was cute.
So what happens if you break up, twitter your divorce decree? (sigh...).
One question: Who does that? As a MTB fan, I've always loved Dawn and Que. I'm glad I missed that half-a$$ed proposal!
Oh, and if we're sharing proposal stories, my Senior Prom date proposed, most likely because he thought he was gonna get some 'cause I was not putting out, but of course I said "no". He went to Colorado and I went to Florida after graduation. Even though we were childhood bf/gf, that wasn't gonna work.
I don't see why it is a big issue. At least he actually wants to marry her. It may not do it for you, but it may be fine for her. Maybe I have been married long enough to know that how the propsal occured doesn't make or break the union. The vows and devotion to the union itself are infinitely more important than how a man proposed.
But hey, that's just me. Some things are important. Other things are trivial. It is important to know how to distinguish the difference.
Well, I meant folks in the general sense. :) Trust me - when I mean men, I will say men.
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