Thursday, March 18, 2010

Grown Folks’ Romance (with a Hat Tip to Grey's Anatomy)

For those of you who don't watch Grey's Anatomy, just skip down a few paragraphs where I actually get to the point.

I used to love Grey's Anatomy. Love, love, love. When that show first came on, I felt like I had discovered TV nirvana. African-American female as Producer and writer, diverse cast, smart storylines and brilliant time slot; it was my must-see TV. The beauty of the sow was that they used the medicine as metaphors for the life dramas. This caused you to care about the stories as well as the medical crises and stay invested for the whole show. The dialogue was fast-paced and witty. The outcomes were never predictable. It was just a really well-done show… at first.

Sometime after Season 2 though, things started to take a turn for me. Izzie's character went from mildly annoying to "why can't they sedate her", the back and forth between Meredith and Derek was just annoying, Callie was underutilized and inexplicably paired with George. Preston's character lost its way and there was no understandable reason for him to be so in love with Christina. Addison was in the way, Alex fell for a pysch patient and Mark spent more time in bed than in surgery. Miranda's marriage fell apart, Callie decided she was gay and Dr. Preston Burke just disappeared. Then came a fake suicide, George/Izzie as a couple, Dead Denny re-incarnated… the whole damn show "jumped the shark".

This season started off slow. The Chef was ousted for drunk and disorderly, Mark had a daughter, Meredith had daddy issues and Christina was with some psycho dude that we are supposed to buy as sexy. And then they came back from the winter hiatus and it was as if a magic wand had been waved over the show. Gone were both George and Izzie, Meredith and Derek made sense and Christina was more worried about surgeries than anything else. As soon as they put the Chief back in his rightful place, all will be good in Seattle Grace World.

Finally, Miranda Bailey. Holding it down for the sisterhood at Seattle Grace hospital. While others lost their minds (and drawers) over interns and attending, she stayed true to the medicine. So true that her husband bailed and she had to power on alone. Enter Dr. Ben Warren, an anesthesiologist who from Day One respected Miranda but was not about to be talked down to. He brought the sizzle but he also brought the brains and the backbone. Last Thursday, we saw Miranda accept her third date with Ben. For some fool reason, she allowed herself to get whipped up into a frenzy abdout the third date being "the sex date" and the need for women to carry multiple comdoms and be waxed all to hell and back. And then she caught hold of herself. My favorite quote was when and Callie were referring to Ben visitng "her surgical field" (yes euphemism for vijayjay). Miranda says, "If he can't deal with a little nature, a little GOD, then he doesn't need to be visiting." See, Grown Folk Romance.

Later, she is at Ben's house and he is cooking dinner. Unsettled by nervous expectations, she launches into a lecture. He stops her dead. I won't paraphrase, I've embedded the scene below. Oh, I started with Mark actually trying to have a Grown Folk Romance himself. Take a look:

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I fell off my chair. THAT is how you handle a strong woman used to having to run things her damn self. Step her back, politely as you cook her dinner and pour more wine. I would like more television like this. Please and thank you. While you're at it, can you clone Jason George (dude who plays Ben) and send him my direction?

What did you think? Like or dislike? Are there any other examples of Grown Folks Romance on the television these days?

41 comments:

Debs said...

I stopped watching Grey's a few months ago, and had no idea they had finally given Miranda a man! Black love is such a rarity on tv, and I'm glad to see it. Will be catching up on hulu immediately.

ASmith said...

This dude was SO fresh with it. So fresh that she had to ask how to do the conversation thing AND THIS DUDE DID IT WITH A SMILE.

Lord, send his real life clone to me, please. PLEASE. I'll take him, on the spot. ::chills::


They don't show grown folks romance on da teebee like they should. I watch these people play games and get in mess and think "Now, I've been in some mess and on some drama but I've never seen anything like this..." and then got the nerve to wanna cure all the problems in an hour. :)

I miss the old Grey's. Kudos to you, Chele, for making it through to see them come back around cause after they got wild with it, I had to drop it. No thanks.

biznic said...

That was definitely one of the best scenes they've had on the show in awhile! I loved it.

sunt97 said...

I think I quit watching when Issy started seeing dead people. That went far and beyond for me. I do every now and then catch a glimpse and I did see Meredith and McDreamy get married on the post-it and I saw when George died. Other than that it's too crazy and boring. I wonder if more writers have gotten involved and made the show like this. All I know is I may catch an episode if it is about Miranda but other than that my Thursday nights will find something else to watch. Hell doe sit still come on Thursdays?

Tiffany
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LeonX said...

I used to watch Grey's Anatomy with the ex. I thought the show was filled with ego-maniacal surgeons that could care less about the patients they were serving and hated watching. I watched season 4 and that was it. That said I always thought Miranda (Chandra Wilson) was great on the show. It's nice to see her get a chance to be in a relationship on the show.

natural nubian said...

LOOOOVED IT!
so i stopped watching after the blonde chic started seeing AND talking to her dead patient. i gave a serious side eye to shonda and went 180. last thurs while giving up on GMAT studies for the evening i flip to ABC forgetting about my disdain for this show and saw the freshest 21st century version of love jones-meets-a different world. i dont' think i was breathing during the last 30sec of the scene right before he went in for the kiss.

Reecie said...

I watched that episode and loved that scene too! I feel the same way about you and the show--I was love love LOVING it when it first came on--any time slot-- Sundays, Thursdays, I had to watch my Grey's. Izzie irks me and I'm so glad she's leaving soon. I was pretty upset she didnt' die last season (bad I know but she's the absolute worst). I shed a couple tears for George, but I had already heard he was leaving so it wasn't a shocker. Christina gets on my last nerve but that's her job I suppose. Now my irksome character is Derek--but that's the point also, I suppose. I'm just glad Meredith isn't so...whatever she was before. she's a lot more level headed and mellow.

yay for Bailey and her new boo--who is very handsome. I like that she's dating a black man (you know Shonda has this interracial thing going on all her shows now) no shade to those in IR relationships, but I like where this is going...

Liselle said...

That is NI-ICE. I quit watching with the onset of "Gizzy-gate" but I will sneak back to it for more of THIS.
To answer your question - NO, there is no other grown folk romance going on in tv-ville right now...

OneChele said...

Enjoy!

OneChele said...

It was not easy. But the flashback episode showing young Miranda and this one were definitely worth my perseverance. Can we start a campaign for more Grown Folks Romance on TV?

Steve said...

I watched the second season with the ex and when we broke up, I left the show behind also. But after watching this clip, I might look in from time to time. I like when a black man is allowed to act like man, especially with a strong woman. Imma give side-eye to that 9th - 12th date thing though. No comment with the raised brow and side-eye.

OneChele said...

I know right?

daisy said...

*wiping drool* Yum and I will have some of that please. Thank you.

Bailey Quincy said...

I stuck with Grey's because I HAD to believe that Shonda would right the ship. Now Private Practice? No, gave that up. This scene made me happy and wistful at the same time. I would like a Dr. Ben Warren... where is he?!

jake said...

Girlfriend loves the show. It's too unrealistic for me but this is a nice scene.

OneChele said...

LOL - Yes, still on Thursday.

Blackest Berry said...

This scene makes me happy. I thought Grey's was a lost cause this season. I'm not feeling Owen at all.

Nia said...

I LOVE this show. I, like you, have been watching since it's inception (gotta support my fellow Houstonians). I'm glad that they are FINALLY giving Miranda a life...I was kinda sad about the Chief having such a hard story line (infidelity, alcohol abuse, etc.) but I got over it. I'm still trying to get into Private Practice but I think it's a lost cause...as fine as I think Taye Diggs (Winston/Harper Stewart/Roland/Dre Ellis), I think the show needs to go...but that's just my opinion.

Love your blog!

JaymeC said...

Oooo, that is grown folk romance. I love a good first kiss.

JaymeC said...

Now if we had the answer to that, we could make millions.

OneChele said...

Oh Season 4 was not the best. If it was the first season I watched, not sure I would have given it another chance.

derek love said...

You might've want to stick to that no comment thing. You lost your mind on twitter earlier. Like wow dude, really? She has email you know.

OneChele said...

So well done. I would take more of them over Meredith and Derek... any day.

derek love said...

If a guy like this lived next door to you, would you even notice him? Just wondering.

Reads4Pleasure said...

Love Grey's & Private Practice. I don't like the guy playing Bailey's love interest, mostly because in my mind he'll always be the boyfriend on Eve and I didn't care for him on there.

I'm glad that we've seen the last of Izzy. Whatever episode she appeared in a few weeks ago was it for her. I liked her storyline with Denny, but she did become rather annoying on the show and in real life. I felt like she slapped Shonda Rhimes and the other writers in the face when she pulled herself from Emmy contention because she felt she hadn't been given good material. She should have gracefully bowed out of the show at that point instead of sticking around and become a boil on the butt of Seattle Grace.

I was glad to see George leave as well. Like Katherine Heigl, I couldn't separate his offscreen BS from his onscreen persona. My greatest wish, now that the two whiners are gone, is that they bring back Burke and get rid of Owen (who is nowhere near sexy or cute, but is much closer to demented and fugly).

Private Practice had to grow on me. It's kind of like the adult version of Grey's, though it's jumped the shark this season. I'm hoping the writers can right the ship and get it back on course. They might want to start with bring Addison back from the brink of hoedom.

All Honey said...

That scene makes me feel some kinda why. In between 'I want that', 'That's not real' and 'Awww'

OneChele said...

Addison on the brink? Hmm. She slept with Mark one week, slobbed up Sam the next and was sleeping with the other dude right after that. Eww and ick. Practice Medicine and stay upright for an episode.

derek love said...

I'm all about Shonda Rhimes, whatever she does I will follow but Private Practice went WAY too far this season. None of the black people are remotely likeable to me any more. I'm holding my breath on Grey's. If they make Miranda into some sort of d-whipped chick more concerned with her man than her medicine, I'm done with that too.

Reads4Pleasure said...

Fine. Addision is steeped in hoedom. If hoeshit were a virtue, she'd be the patron saint of keeping it skanky. I'm just hoping Naomi doesn't follow in her footsteps.

All Honey said...

You bet I would.

OneChele said...

And now I can cosign... ;-)

Jason P said...

Shots fired.

OneChele said...

Your question is- If a gorgeous single nice black doctor moved next door to me, would I notice?! My answer- On him like white on rice. Skin on grape. In a bougie way of course: *Knocking on door* Hi Dr. Cutie, welcome to the neighborhood. I brought wine...

BB Waite said...

Shots needed to be fired. I saw it, it wasn't pretty. Like watching Icarus fly towards the sun only to melt back down to earth.

BB Waite said...

Exactly, I'll stick with them as long as they don't screw up Miranda.

OnlyMe said...

LOL - Get it!

Mrs. R said...

Now that is a story line I will watch. I stopped watching Grey when Meredith tried to drown herself. Yep, its been that long. Maybe I will try to catch up.

Kandia said...

I love that....strongER man that can handle a strong woman. That's how you do it....at least with me anyway. :-)

ctn1luv said...

ok I know I'm late and no I have not read the other comments but OMG I LOVE YOU for this post. After watching the show last week I scoured FB and the GA blogs for some semblance of the excitement I was experiencing about Dr. Bailey and the grown folks love.Finally the one black woman on the show has a love life and finally there is a relationship that does not begin and end with sex. Thank you for matching my excitement.

MotownMs said...

Stopped watching after they got rid of Isaiah Washington. Just started back on and off this season. Jury still out but liked this episode. Thanks for posting!

Annette said...

I have a love/hate relationship with Grey's right now. I like that Bailey has someone in her life, but, I feel that there is absolutely too much bed hopping going on. I know this is a grown folks show, but brilliant surgeons do not have time to hop in the sack everytime their world is about to come crashing down, as these folk seem to enjoy doing. Yes, the show is more exciting again, and that is a plus. Don't care for Owen either, that fine young intern with the pretty eyes....I want to see how that relationship develops. Private Practice was "the show that comes on after Gray's", and although I watch a little now, these characters don't excite me like the Seattle Grace Folks....I guess they seem very contrived, and don't seem like real people so much. That is important in a hour long drama, I guess they are not very relatable to me.

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