Welcome back to Movie Week on BnB. Today, let's talk about movies that are great for dates and others that may not be the best idea. Kind of like games: Pictionary = good, Scruples = bad. Why borrow trouble?
Sorry fellas, but usually a good date movie (especially early in the relationship) is going to mean a chick flick unless there's a blockbuster action film you can both agree upon. Conversely, a bad date movie is one that invites conversation you don't necessarily want to have. Let's review:
Good date movie: When Harry Met Sally – Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan is a film so pleasant and unthreatening that the worst thing you could argue about is whether orgasms should be faked or not. And I think we all know how to quiet that discussion.
Bad date movie: Fatal Attraction – Glenn Close scared an entire generation of men when she went completely left on Michael Douglas. The term "bunny burning psycho b*tch" did not exist prior to this thriller. Is this really the vibe you want on date night? I think not.
Good date movie: Moonstruck – very cool cute movie starring Cher and Nicholas Cage about finding love where you least expect it. But if the guy really, really hates chick flicks, this one is inapologetically romantic and schmaltzy.
Bad date movie: Indecent Proposal – Robert Redford completely jacks up Demi Moore and Woody Harrelson's good thing but tossing money into the mix. Unless you both are prepared to answer the question starting with, "Would you really…" it's probably best to save this one until you really, really know the person.
Good date movie: Guess Who's Coming to Dinner – A true classic starring Spencer Tracy, Katherine Hepburn, and Mr. Sidney Poitier himself as the black man who is sho 'nuff coming to dinner. A little politics, a little romance and a hilarious supporting role by Isabel Sanford (best known as Weezy from the Jeffersons), what's not to like about this movie?
Bad date movie: Sleeping With the Enemy – Julia Roberts and Patrick Bergin in a cat-n-mouse movie about a woman hiding from her abuser. Unless you want to give each other the "who are you really" side-eye for the evening, I'd skip it.
In generalities, I always advise against a horror movie unless you are positive both of you appreciate them. I love a good mafia movie but just random psycho-violence disturbs me. I walked out of a date who chose Natural Born Killers for date night. He apologized and we ended catching whatever the latest John Grisham film was. I also always advise some balance. If you see Transporter 17 one date, try Hitch Returns the next (yes these titles are made up). Ladies, dragging your man to see Bride Wars, 27 Dresses and My Best Friend's Wedding may get you a side-eye and an invitation to get to stepping.
So it's to you BougieLand, what's a great date movie? Or one that's best left for boys/girls night in? The floor is yours…
28 comments:
I'm getting it in early today! I don't like going out to the movies until we're a few dates in anyway because you can't talk and as you mentioned above, there's a great chance the two of you won't agree on the movie type. I generally go for the big blockbuster. For DVD watching at the house I go classic (50s, 60s films) or 90s Neo/New Jack as you call it.
I made the mistake of taking a chick to see American History X. Have not heard from her again. Lesson Learned
Once had a guy do chick-flick marathon for me - Love, Actually, While You Were Sleeping and Ever After. I was ever so thankful.
Not every lady appreciates the fine stylings of Scarface.
A guy had me over last week and played the Crying Game. TWICE. O__o
BTW fellas, before you know a chick - porn is not a good look. At all.
And I got all excited thinking Hitch Returns is in production - LOL! Along horrorific movie date experiences, the guy who drove my across LA to watch a Quentin Tarantino marathon w/o asking if I liked Quentin - FAIL!
I don't a Bull Durham but Shakespeare in Love - really? Come on now. You are asking a lot of a guy. If I don't know the girl well, I'll always go neutral - usually the latest Denzel or Will (although Legend was NOT a date movie).
Last girlfriend was all about the Meg Ryan, Julia Roberts, Katherine Heigl films - just mix in a Transporter every now and again, but no. I watched so much estrogen-laced stuff, I had to spend a month watching Spike to detox.
Hard to fail with the classics.
I actually do this as a test. At some point, I'm going in with the Hitchcock movies. A woman that can't get with at least ONE of them hits the cut pile.
Hmm, ignoring the cut pile statement - good one. I love North by Northwest, Rear Window, The Man who Knew too much - don't get me started. Granted, not everyone appreciates a classic Hitchcock.
I think it's asking a lot of a woman to watch another bloody gorefest just cuz men can't get in touch with your emotions
You can't tell me that watching Fight Club once is more painful than a Steel Magnolias.
Whoa dude. First rule of Fight Club is that you don't talk about Fight Club. LOL!
One - you ARE wrong for the picture. TWO - I still remember the conversation following Indecent Proposal. Fellas took that sh!t personally. Like they wouldn't pimp out their girls for $1MM well with inflation now $10MM. Thirdly - I don't mind a shoot 'em up or psycho drama. Can't go in for horror movies though. I see no value.
yeah naw give me some action packed dramatic movie to watch w my dude. I like to watch romantic comdies alone..its my guilty pleasure. I want to watch movies we can analyze and discuss, suspense thrillers ..Book of Eli type stuff
You are officially one of the coolest chicks ever JUST for knowing that.
Dying to see Book of Eli. That is my idea of a date movie. I'll catch Up in the Air with my girls. And yes, I will drag one of my nieces and nephews to watch The Princess and the Frog with me. (I ain't shamed)
Last weekend for instance, hubs wanted to see Avatar, I wanted to see Blind Side. We settled on Invictus. (just okay by the way)
Whoa - all that from movie date night?
Had a guy pick Youth in Revolt last weekend. I gave him a patented OneChele laser beam side-eye. Seriously dude?
Okay, that's a fail. Unless ya'll are teenagers.
i thought it was a good movie. if you get past the fact that they are teens, you can see all of the dumb stuff we do in pursuit of love and lust. all the stuff homeboy did looks stupid to us but how many of us have done something equally as dumb for 'the love of our lives'.
I love Scarface, The Godfather, Casino, all the Italian Mob movies. (I think I'm an Italian mafioso, thanks to my daddy, lol.)
I've been to the movies on so many first dates that I have this down to a science. It's best to pick a comedy. Even if it's bad, it's still fun to make fun of the movie.
Bad movies for first dates (yes, this is from personal experience):
Red Dragon (yes, the serial killer movie)
Willard (yes, the rat movie)
Collateral (yes, another serial killer movie)
I'll stop here. Let's just say that these movies did not have me in a lovey-dovey mood afterwards.
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